Hey y'all, it's me again with coming out struggles. I started classes this week, and the professors have been really great about introducing themselves with pronouns which is great. But having to do introductions in front of my friends that I'm not out to is nerve wracking. It feels like I have to p...

Thanks! I think part of my problem is really not knowing how I want to look. I'm AFAB as well, but the AFAB non-binary "androgynous" stereotype isn't really for me. If I think about what I want to look like, I'd love to look like a woodland elf (strong jaw, long hair), lol. I have very fem...

Hi! I'm back with yet another question. I've kind of realized that I've spent my whole life feeling like I'm not very connected to my body. It's like driving a car: You know that you're in control of the car, and you have the sensation of the car moving, but you don't physically feel like a part of ...

I recently heard someone refer to me with they/them pronouns for the first time. It wasn't the huge gender euphoria moment I was hoping for. In fact, it made me feel more like a fraud. Because I didn't experience euphoria, I feel like I'm not actually agender. On the other hand, every time people re...

Really loved this article! Thanks for sharing. I'm trying to figure out what dating means to me as an ace person and what it looks like as a newly out-ish agender person. Great resources!

I'm ace, so I can totally relate to struggling to find a relationship. Sometimes, it gets very lonely, especially when everyone else is in relationships. Being queer definitely comes with its added complications in finding a partner. Wishing you the best of luck!

Sorry it's taken me so long to respond to this. I found out the other day (while my dad was speaking to his sister on speaker phone) that a few of the people who work at my grandpa's senior home tested positive for COVID. He's a former smoker with COPD, asthma, and heart disease. If he was exposed, ...

I'm glad to hear that your friend recovered! With my friend who had it, it was a similar situation as you. We live in very different parts of the country. Honestly, that one hit me less hard, because you're right: There was very little I could have realistically done. Receiving bad news doesn't hit ...

TW: This post contains mentions of cancer, death, and COVID-19. This is a bit of a long story in four-ish parts, but here it goes. It started about a year and a half ago in my freshman year of college. Thanksgiving break of that year, I met up with one of my coaches. She had started me on the sport ...

Hi! Sorry it's taken me so long to respond. I don't want this to get too off topic, but I feel really weird about self-affirmations because I generally don't believe them. Like if I were to tell myself "I am doing enough," I'd immediately think of all the money I haven't donated or the art...

I know that a lot of people test the waters by bringing up an unnamed friend or even a celebrity that has come out. That might be a good way to figure out where they stand. It also might give you a chance to dispell any myths they might believe beofre it's directed at you, if that makes any sense.

Thought I'd share an update- This current episode of alopecia areata was likely triggered by excessive amounts of stress (quarantine, protests, a friend of mine going through a break up, and so on). For me, this really made me realize that ally-ship does require a certain degree of self-care. I woul...

I don't think so. He's a ER doc, so little problems like this aren't really on his radar (though I doubt he'd be happy if he started losing his hair). He also isn't really the emotionally supportive type or receptive to criticism. It's okay, though.
I'll make another update when there is one.

Update/vent- I went to the dermatologist, and he confirmed my suspicions. He said it that the spot is still "active" which means that the autoimmune reaction is still going on. The hair loss usually occurs over just a few days, so the good news is that it hasn't grown larger. In past exper...

Same here, al. I'm a non-Black POC, and I've been having a hard time figuring out where I fit in to all of this (more complicated because I'm biracial, half of which is of European Jewish descent). Anti-Blackness in non-white communities is definitely complex because it's likely that that group face...

Sure. Resources are never a bad thing. Thanks!

I honestly wouldn't even know where to start with feeling/accepting emotions. It's a long-standing habit of mine to invalidate my feelings because I feel guilty for having them. I think this might be getting a bit off topic, so I'll stop until I have another (hopefully positive) update. I'm sorry th...

I'm not out to a lot of people, including my hairdresser and my parents (that I'm currently living with). I can't fault him for thinking that I want to look feminine, especially because I've insisted on long hair in the past. I sent him pictures of what I wanted this hair cut to look like, and they ...

An update: I got my hair chopped, partly to change it up and partly to get over my fear of hair loss. I don't love it; it's in between a bob and pixie. Also the hairdesser always feels the need to reassure me that it's very "feminine and chic," which is not what I want. I'm probably going ...

I'm agender, but I present (sort of) with the gender I was assigned at birth (female). I don't really view my clothes as gendered because it's usually just a t-shirt and jeans. I don't bind, but my chest is relatively flat to begin with. My face is quite feminine even though I don't wear makeup due ...

I'm almost done with school for the year! This is my last week. I want to do lots of baking and cooking over summer break.

Thank you! This is exactly what I'm looking for, tbh. I don't have a huge chest to begin with, so this would be perfect for me!

I do like to meet people one-on-one, even though I’m a bit awkward. I always worry about running out of things to talk about, but I feel like one-on-one give much more room for deep discussion. I hope I can go out to lunch with some friends if/when things open again. I feel kinda stuck at the moment...

I don’t think you’re overreacting. I think you’re very brave for doing what’s right, even though it’s hard. I might caution against talking to him about the assault comments though. I would talk to the friend first to see what they want to do. You’re in a tough situation. I wish there were more usef...

I'm in a similar boat. My dad occasionally calls me a racial slur but doesn't really get that it's a slur. I'm not as brave as you, so I haven't stood up to him. I think my biggest piece of advice is to keep affirming yourself. As others have said, you can't really change his actions, especially sin...