Also I’ve told the girl from California that we’re not exclusive, only having her tell us about me. However, she said “I love you” and calls me her girlfriend. Which I mean I get, I want to call her that too, but I have love for that other girl too and I need to meet the Californian girl in person. ...

With the girl in California, I told her I was not exclusive. And she only wanted to tell our parents and other people about us. She also understood the reason why I don’t say “I love you” back is because that I haven’t met her before and lived with her. To be honest that kind of makes me a little he...

Hey! I’m back doing a bunch of posts. As you can see my love life now is ... complicated. It’s a long story ... So I have been dating someone on my dating app, she lives in California. We got really close to the point where I talked to her brother and her mother. I want to visit her, I really do and...

I know it hurts, but I will accept that her desire for me is less than mine for her (at least right now). It especially hurts because I was still close to getting a girlfriend that actually liked me back and I liked. I still would like to be friends with her. So, yeah its hard for me not to talk abo...

Also I have this idea, maybe I am feeding it in more. Why not write a letter to my crush? Like not send it to her, but send it for myself? Maybe one day, she can see it. And also maybe in the DBT worksheet there are suggestions to carry someone you like as a picture and ask that someone what to do, ...

Thank you so much for these responses. I also know that sometimes my Mom can be pushy on certain things, especially on certain times. So I will try these strategies. That being said, I do need to improve my health, my creative stuff and goals I want to accomplish. Also, I want to compromise too and ...

I also guess I need to work on loving myself too before I need to love myself which I know because people tell me over and over and over again. These stressful times don’t help and I don’t know if this is more pressure for me to love myself. How do I do this? How do I prove to my parents I love myse...

Those are amazing questions to identify that. And now how do I address it? I think I want to do that, but they could say and within a number of moods: - “You are young, you clearly haven’t lived life” - “No, just (rambles on about stuff)” - “Just please consider it” - “What it would be like if you w...

Yes indeed. Yes, I really want to do that. But how do I say that and convince them of those things? Yes, I do. I really would love to cover them. I also found the REST strategy is very helpful as well. R is regulate, E is evaluate, S is set intentions and T is Take Actions. I also need to look at my...

I want to use both online dating and in real life outings. But I am hesitant to mostly date in real life because of the distance factor and because of what I perceive as socially inappropriate behavior (being too loud, talking too much ... etc). Plus, going into a new space is hard, considering my e...

Its okay to pop in, totally. :D And yes, we came to that conclusion. But in terms of going out, going out. I don’t know why my hesitancy. I know that the circumstances are the big thing, but I could end up anywhere so this defeats the purpose. And I don’t want to make wrong impressions to the commun...

Well in terms of fearing me being in a relationship would make people unhappy, I wouldn’t want people to be happy, yet jealous just like me secretly when other people have relationships. Also, it harkens back to the guy who was jealous when I was taking my friend to the prom and not him. I want othe...

And also you know, I really want to be free from this recent pain brought on, but I don’t know how. I have this aversion now (even though I want to) to go out because of the possibility of removing an app and many other things (its not what I am use too). And If I get a girlfriend in Vienna or date ...

I know that the app is not related to San Fransisco in no way, but for some reason that’s what I choose for my symbolic anchor. For me, I’m stuck for moving forward (in what stage, idk, but I do know that I will go to college) and staying in some kind of anchor in the Bay Area. I have had that conve...

Yeah, thank you so much for clarifying that. I will keep that in my head. A non-response definition : She checks instagram and/or dating app and leaves me on read. Is that a good definition? How do I make it clear to my parents without them thinking my OCD is getting in the way? Well, I’m not good a...

I am not having a hard time doing that, we are just busy right now. Its the hotlines I am having trouble texting and calling, since the time zones are confused. I direct my energy mostly towards school and working on schoolwork. But I mostly do Animal Crossing and Just Dance. I make rings too and wa...

I’m also envious and jealous that my sister has someone to talk to before bedtime and I barely have anyone to talk to as well. Like FaceTime or video call, thats what I mean by talking consistently, almost every night. I barely have any of that, I want that. I feel like I have to earn it and I can’t...

I don’t want to loose control, I really don’t. But I feel like a rollercoaster going down down down, first my location, then my home, then my program, then my psychologists, then my class I really wanted, now maybe my engagement with the app and my social life as I want it ...

I did. Calling them or texting in Austria can be quite tricky! Also, I do need some searching for a psychologist because I had a really hard night and morning in terms of my crush and the process of letting go and getting into crushes on the app. I have to let her go! I really do. My parents say tha...

That’s true. I’m a perfectionist sometimes and afraid of rejection, but still keep trying, as stupid as that may be. Again, I direct it inward because I don’t know how to deal with uncertainty and what might have caused it. But also, there may be a chance to improve myself so that people (and especi...

Meeting people in real life is also really difficult, especially with todays environment and how Vienna is looking. I’m also scared of just getting info off of random people in a club like Villa Vida, which is when I went to the Queens Brunch because I am afraid that we may fall out of contact or th...

Yeah, I will. Hopefully, the mods will notice my post. Worst part is that he noticed my posts on him. I shouldn’t have done it, should have dealt with it privately, but ... he kept texting ... I know how to spot red flags and boundaries, its for me to actually do it because I don’t have to be friend...

I am cautious about reporting them since ether technically didn’t send any nudes. But I want to share it with the mods. I made a post and the person notice (called themselves, he but wants to be a trans lesbian and “likes” to trans people and lesbians). I suggested they seek help multiple times, but...

I also should mention that I sent the message and that I won’t send anymore. But, I am a little worried about it, but trying so hard to let it go even when distraction doesn’t work. Again, the reason that could be that she is having social media break along with being busy can be helpful. My anxiety...

Thanks so much for the advice! I love how you said that it’s all about consent and I’m trying to obey the rules of consent. And I know a video chat doesn’t guarantee a relationship, so does flirting. Thats why I should ask, but my parents say I shouldn’t right now and they are right. And just becaus...