I feel like I’d need space if he didn’t say it back, which isn’t fair to him but that’s SO embarrassing… just thinking about it makes me feel super vulnerable and rejected. I know it wouldn’t mean anything bad necessarily, but I feel like I’d never be able to show him my face again. I just don’t kno...

Thank you for sharing the article. I say I love you a lot to people, my friends, family, even just when I want to say it. Honestly I’ve only been in one other serious relationship as an adult so I don’t have many other examples romantically. It holds weight to me, in the sense that when I say it I d...

Hello, I just have a few questions: When is it the average time to say I love you to a new partner? We'll call him "A". We have been dating for almost two months, and I feel like I can see things going for a while with us. What are some tips for the event that he doesn't say it back to me?...

i really liked that article!! thank you for sharing it. i haven't tried the one with wings. i think i'm just experiencing a bit of past trauma from my last relationship where if i wasn't wet enough i'd get blamed for it. so now i'm worried the opposite will happen, even though my new guy is really s...

hello everyone!! :D I have entered a new relationship and i'm very happy about it. we're deciding to take things slowly sexually and I really like that he respects me and my boundaries. I don't want to go further than making out right now. the only problem is something pretty embarrassing happens wh...

hiiii. it’s been a while, how are you all doing? so let me start out by saying I love my best friend and I only want the best for her. But the thing is, she keeps talking to her ex boyfriend who’s hurt her in the past. She had a pregnancy scare and he said he’d want nothing to do with her if she was...

He hasn’t blocked her everywhere cause he still thinks he’ll apologize for cheating on him. So he won’t block her anywhere else but snapchat. He doesn’t have an instagram or twitter.

Okay. I’ve been hesitant to say because I seem like I don’t have my sh*t together from some of the questions I ask up here haha but I really would like to volunteer. Some of the questions that are asked up here I totally feel like I can offer some good advice for. All of this insecurity had a valid ...

Thanks for your resources. I’ll look at it all. I actually deleted all my social medias in the beginning of quarantine. I found that it was feeding really negatively into my anxiety and it was a big source of stress for me. Also, TOTALLY off topic, but what does it take to become a Scarleteen volunt...

Hi. So as you guys know, I’m really short. 4’10”. I’ve really started to resent my whole body lately. I’ve also been suffering a bit of anxiety(although that’s lessened slightly). The anxiety is not as a result of the way I feel about my body- it’s part of the spiral I get that I talked about before...

I think that when I move out it’ll be gradual. I’ve been living with Anthony as you know, and every once in a while I go home, grab some clothes or things I need, say hi to my mom and go back to Tony’s. So I was thinking... maybe when I go back to school, on my longer breaks I can just say I’m going...

Yeah I understand. Yeah I am really close with my mom. I do everything she does. I just don't want me moving out to hurt her or for her to feel like my dad drove me away from her, too. Cause this whole ordeal has damaged my relationship with my dad, but it didn't do a thing to my relationship with m...

Yeah we all have each other’s phone numbers, but I deleted all my social media accounts cause it was consuming my life honestly. So, I can still talk to them. Some of them just live kinda far. I lived on my schools campus prior to the pandemic but like home is with my mom and dad. I could tolerate t...

Honestly I was only like 9 when my sister was in her teens so I didn’t pay much attention to how she handled these things or how she was treated. I know she left the house reasonably late and when she started dating my brother in law my dad had no problem with it. I just know she and my dad were fai...

Yeah. I don't know why I feel so awkward calling myself bisexual. It almost doesn't seem like it fits because of the lopsidedness I feel in attraction. I don't know if fluid fits either. It's been confusing for me. I read the article but if you could give me any more resources on my situation I woul...

Well I don’t want to avoid him because I feel like some other people would catch on to the fact that something happened. They may start wondering and asking questions when I don’t really want to talk about it. Also like off topic but along the same lines, I get anxiety when we talk about those types...

Heather’s answer was super helpful. Also quite comforting. I’m just worried that it won’t go over well when I try to talk to him. Actually my mom is not nearly as harsh as my dad is. In fact, she was the one who said, “you’re an adult, you make your sexual decisions and make them responsibly.”, and ...

Hi Alexa, The self reflection question(s) portion of the article was actually quite helpful. Thank you. Also, another update. So he came to my house and we talked some more. It was the most normal things have felt in a while. I just listened without jumping to conclusions. Things are better. That wh...

It honestly makes me sad to think about taking a break from Tony because I know we can work through it. We just don’t really get into arguments or have problems much, but this one I’m concerned about seems like a big issue. I don’t know.. he’s coming to my house tonight and we’re going to talk some ...

I’ve always kept my dad at an arms length on things like this because he is HORRIBLE at processing information without being overdramatic. We’ve never talked about crushes or things like that honestly. When I went to a dance in high school, he flipped out when I told him I was going to eat with frie...

Hello again. So, my mom accidentally let it slip to my dad that I take birth control, and now all hell has broken loose. He wants to know all my business and is mad that my mom didn’t tell him I’m taking it. I started taking it because of a problem with ovarian cysts that birth control solved... Not...

It’s been a while since I’ve been on, but I’ll give you some updates about what has happened between Tony and I since we last chatted. So the other night, we finally sat down and talked about things. I told him I felt like sex is very one sided and he’s using it as a way to cope with our problems in...

I am going to talk to him about setting a boundary and that I should be enjoying it too. I definitely think that's worth talking about with him. I haven't realized that he's been kind of manipulating me into certain things sexually. Like. I never finish when we have sex. Only he does. And he never a...

I want to try setting a boundary with him. But it gets difficult sometimes because he always knows just what to say to get me to change my mind and it’s like I get swept up all over again. Honestly before you told me that, I thought the more experienced person just knew what to do so they should lea...

We’re fighting because he was offended by my question. He was like, “Why is that something you’d even ask me?” and I tried to explain my feelings. He’s frustrated because he says “I shouldn’t have to prove that I’m focused on you. That’s something you should believe and feel from me.” When I think h...