Also, seeing your other comment. In these situations, it can often be about the other person not wanting a relationship and therefore always hooking up with different people, rather than the same person, to avoid that, or for the thrill of the "new" of a different people each time. Handled...

Glad to hear you've made your appointment, that's a really great thing to be doing and to look after your health. Watching a movie sounds like a great idea - also there is no need to talk down to yourself, sometimes things are hard and having an outside perspective, whether that's us, your therapist...

I hear you it is hard, but it's totally okay to keep trying, it is worth it. Every time you reach for the app and stop yourself and go back to the other activity, that's great progress. As I mentioned, try one of those apps that is anti-distraction, and I would recommend deleting the app you're usin...

Hi sky, I hear you, it can be hard. It feels like here that hooking up might be distracting for not very long, and then just make the feelings worse, if you get what I mean? Is there a show or something that you really like? That makes you feel great, maybe has characters that really are kind and su...

Hi there sky, jumping in chat tomorrow sounds like a good idea too, I will expand a bit on what Carly was saying, as you asked about it. As I'm not Carly, this is how I'm interpreting her post, which I agree is sound. Why say this? Connecting it directly to "because [you] broke down" would...

Hi there Calimint, glad to hear your exploration is going in a positive direction. As Sam as the article said, exploring the things that feel good and seeing where that goes is a good low-pressure way to see how what you like best and feel more comfortable with masturbating. The soreness you mention...

Hi there rocko, as Sam mentioned, going to a sexual healthcare provider is a good idea if you're feeling that there might be a physical factor at play, even just to put your mind at ease. Is there a Planned Parenthood in your area? We can also assist with referrals if you're comfortable with telling...

Hi there rocko, it can be good to remember that as there is a real spectrum of being aro, as you allude to in your first post. It is totally okay to have a feeling of where you are roughly on the spectrum and what you feel okay with and not for now, and not have to specifically define it. Also, it's...

Hi there waterhyacinth, firstly let me start by echoing Sam, you really do deserve so much better than this, and whilst it seems quite confronting an idea at the moment, you will be able to get through this. With the idea of being "alone", whilst it can seem like that would be the case, ab...

Hi dollparties, it is very normal to nervous when asking about something that feels a bit vulnerable, which as something quite intimate, sex and things we might need and want for it, can often feel that way. You are right that it is not "needy" at all to ask for lube, and your idea to expl...

Hi there Tbh Idk, and welcome to Scarleteen. Sorry to hear that you are feeling stress about judgement at the moment. With something like sexual preferences around how an individual likes to do or dislikes (whether that's something labelled as kink, or as simple where someone enjoys being touched or...

Hi there Cassidy, I'm really glad to hear that you feel a real sense of trust and emotional intimacy with your partner, and that giving pleasure is something you are enjoying for its own sake rather than out of obligation. When you say you do other things together, have you tried having your partner...

Hi there skzly, good to hear from you on this thread, and that you've been doing some research and self reflection. Also glad to hear that you have some great LGBTQI+ friends around you, that is great. I'm sorry to hear that this is a really frustrating feeling for you at the moment, you're totally ...

Hi there Irissy, I'm really sorry to hear that your dad is holding these incorrect notions about virginity (it is really a social construct, you can read more about it here ), and inhibiting your capacity to get healthcare at the moment. However, there are some ways at your age to see a GP alone, an...

Hi there wombats11, and welcome to Scarleteen. Firstly, whilst I'm sorry to hear that you're dealing with a phobia, I am glad to hear that you have discussed this with a therapist, and that they are helping you work through this, that is a massive first step so well done for doing that and getting s...

Hi there kokoPeg, and welcome back. I'm sorry to hear that whilst your dysphoria is alleviated (which is good to hear, in-and-of-itself, do you know what helped lead to this), that you are feeling a lot of shame at the moment. This is a theme that has come up a few times for you in this thread. A wh...

Hi Guacamole, one of the reasons it can be useful to think about pressure (whether it's society's, or our own to achieve something), is that the brain is our most important sex organ, and feeling stressed or frustrated about masturbation and reaching pleasure/orgasm can be counter to our goals as it...

Hi there Pansexualpannda, and welcome to Scarleteen. I'm really sorry to hear that your circumstances are really rough at the moment, and that you really want to connect with people who are like you and understand you. Many of us have been there - here on our forums can be a great place to talk out ...

Hi lycheefan, as you have recently started the pill, it is important to note that your body is setting up a pattern of how it will respond to it. Some people get heavier ones than others, and some people don't get one at all. Why the information you are finding is inconsistent is likely because some...

Hi these Somesh, Sorry to hear that you are experiencing a lot of anxiety around this at the moment. I am glad to hear you were able to have an open conversation about this with your girlfriend, so that you both are on the same page with regards to sex and risk. With anxieties, sometimes even when w...

Hi there dq15, sorry to hear that this is something that you are finding stressful at the moment. It is something that a lot of people with penises worry about; a lot of the messages that advertising and "society" say about what it means to be a "man" are exaggerated and unrealis...

Hi omnomnonny, it is pretty likely that your pill is back to providing its contraceptive effects after the missed day, however do check the information leaflet that comes in the box for your particular one to see their instructions on how to handle a missed pill for the kind you take, and how long t...

Hi Hel, it is exciting when you meet someone who makes you feel this way! One thing it can help to think about is that beyond being respectful and honest, there is no single "right" way to start communicating with someone new that you like. If you find texting better, it is absolutely fine...

Hi Raffles, you can rest assured that having boundaries and trying to see how people will respect them is okay, particularly as you've have people in your life not respect those in the past. We actually have an article about intimacy on Scarleteen (and as you mention, trusting someone in and buildin...

Hi lycheefan, thanks for adding that context. Could it be that your boyfriend doesn't like Valorant, and is feeling angry that you like something that he doesn't, and is feeling confronted/insecure with this idea, and that is coming out as an angry feeling? As you mentioned, some games are for some ...