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by Elise
Mon Aug 29, 2022 3:34 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Underlying fears
Replies: 5
Views: 5664

Re: Underlying fears

Hi Aaru257, you’ll see that you’ve been redirected to thread again. In addition to rereading the Pregnancy Panic companion , could you please take a look at this article: You're Not Pregnant. Why Do You Think You Are? , and if you feel comfortable doing so, let us know your thoughts/what stands out ...
by Elise
Mon Aug 29, 2022 3:29 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Question
Replies: 2
Views: 2344

Re: Question

Hi aaru257, you'll see that this post has been locked. You can read below why, and also what we can talk with you about, you mentioned that this fear is very persistent and we can talk to you about the fear and anxiety you have and help with addressing it. At the end of this post there are some tool...
by Elise
Thu Aug 25, 2022 5:02 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: i only like the thought of dating men and in a romantic relationship with a guy if i was a guy
Replies: 7
Views: 1737

Re: i only like the thought of dating men and in a romantic relationship with a guy if i was a guy

Hi there princesspark, I’m glad to hear that your boyfriend and you can communicate openly on things and he is respecting your boundaries. It is also okay to not want to talk to him about gender things yet if you’re still working it out, but it could be a good idea to communicate clearly that you ne...
by Elise
Thu Aug 25, 2022 4:51 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: First time experience
Replies: 4
Views: 1794

Re: First time experience

Hi there Isles, the social conventions around sex being this ultimate romantic expression, and also shaming people for having multiple partners in their lives are unfortunately narratives that still are told and some people believe, however many, many people now understand that it is highly uncommon...
by Elise
Thu Aug 25, 2022 3:58 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Punishment
Replies: 15
Views: 6743

Re: Punishment

Hi there Emily, I’m sorry to hear that you’re dealing with this at the moment. Yes, sometimes people choose consequences that are primarily made to shame/hurt the person doing the thing, however not all need be like this. The type that Heather are describing can be about acknowledging that you did s...
by Elise
Fri Aug 19, 2022 7:12 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: will drinking too much water with the mini pill make it less effective
Replies: 3
Views: 1981

Re: will drinking too much water with the mini pill make it less effective

Not a worry, it is always a good idea to ask a question if you are not sure. If you are having diarrhoea that would be a concern (because the pill might pass through your digestive tract too quickly), but if it just that you are urinating more because of the water, then that is okay.
by Elise
Fri Aug 19, 2022 6:53 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: will drinking too much water with the mini pill make it less effective
Replies: 3
Views: 1981

Re: will drinking too much water with the mini pill make it less effective

Hi Jaxmang, drinking a lot of water unless you drank so so much that it made you vomit won't effect the effectiveness of your mini-pill.

You can read more about the mini pill that you may find useful here on our main website: Birth Control Bingo: Minipills
by Elise
Sun Jul 24, 2022 3:43 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fantasies about sex during summer (and friends next year)
Replies: 14
Views: 3961

Re: Fantasies about sex during summer (and friends next year)

Hi Estobawk, it sounds like you've had the opportunity to do some great self reflection, and I'm glad to hear that the articles and discussion have helped you with that. Also, it can be pretty tricky to do that reflection when you are having to think about how things aren't what you'd ideally like t...
by Elise
Sun Jul 24, 2022 3:37 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Are my masturbation habits normal?
Replies: 9
Views: 2763

Re: Are my masturbation habits normal?

Hi there RowleinL, there isn't any health risk in waiting for your erection to go down. This is actually called "vasocongestion" and is actually about the increased bloodflow to your genitals (which is what makes an erection happen) rather than semen build up. As such, relieving the pressu...
by Elise
Sun Jul 24, 2022 2:33 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: My boyfriend's parents don't take his depression seriously
Replies: 21
Views: 10049

Re: My boyfriend's parents don't take his depression seriously

Hi dependantdragon, that is very thoughtful and caring of of you to be thinking about how you can help your boyfriend, and a great level of self awareness you have around your own capacity to help so you can take care of yourself too. Below are some links to various UK based resources that could hel...
by Elise
Sun Jul 24, 2022 1:20 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Question
Replies: 1
Views: 2344

Re: Question

Hi aaru257, you'll see that this post has been locked. You can read below why, and also what we can talk with you about, you mentioned that this fear is very persistent and we can talk to you about the fear and anxiety you have and help with addressing it. At the end of this post there are some tool...
by Elise
Wed Jul 20, 2022 3:23 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fantasies about sex during summer (and friends next year)
Replies: 14
Views: 3961

Re: Fantasies about sex during summer (and friends next year)

Hi there Estobawk, it sounds like there’s a lot that’s going on for you that is quite intense and in some cases new for you at the moment. You might find it comforting to hear that you are very much not alone here, many young people experience awkwardness/concern about having platonic friendships wi...
by Elise
Sat Jul 09, 2022 11:40 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 3188892

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Hi there Theansweris42, whilst I'm sorry to hear that you are going to be in a stressful situation where you can't ask for personal space, I'm glad that you have ways of carving this out for yourself with music and books and cope that way. I would just like to gently challenge the idea that "mo...
by Elise
Sat Jul 09, 2022 11:26 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I can’t find my clit
Replies: 7
Views: 9261

Re: I can’t find my clit

Hi there brii, sorry to hear that this is causing you some frustration at the moment. It can be really tricky to feel comfortable exploring what brings you pleasure via masturbation when you feel you aren't comfortable, or don't have enough privacy. Would you say that you were feely comfortable in t...
by Elise
Sat Jul 02, 2022 3:44 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Into pup play at 16? Help
Replies: 1
Views: 4850

Re: Into pup play at 16? Help

Hi there Thefloooff, and welcome to Scarleteen. First of all let me say well done on thinking about your personal safety when staying safe and not interacting in adult online spaces. Also well done at acquiring a craft like leather-working, I know that takes a lot of patience and skill! With regards...
by Elise
Sat Jul 02, 2022 3:29 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masochism versus self-harm?
Replies: 3
Views: 7648

Re: Masochism versus self-harm?

Hi there brungerbulb, what you tell to healthcare professionals in your life is in the end, your own decision, and whilst it isn't a good idea to lie, but since you and your therapist agree that this behaviour is not self harm but rather something you do safely, for pleasure , then you don't need to...
by Elise
Wed Jun 29, 2022 5:42 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 3188892

Re: Accepting my sexuality

I've never listened much to podcasts so thank you for your advice and I'd be grateful for any recommendations. It's hard for me to come up with a topic I'm interested in, I realized I haven't been spending much time doing things I like lately so I don't even know what that is. But in general I like...
by Elise
Wed Jun 29, 2022 5:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Difficulty with penetration
Replies: 5
Views: 9308

Re: Difficulty with penetration

Hi there discoveringme, sorry to hear that this situation is leading to you not feeling great about yourself at the moment. Many folks with vaginas face difficulty with things inserted in the vagina, so you are not alone, however I acknowledge that this may not make things any less frustrating at th...
by Elise
Wed Jun 29, 2022 4:34 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Pain with Penatration
Replies: 3
Views: 4083

Re: Pain with Penatration

Hi there Lovergirl95, I'm sorry to hear that this is causing you some pain and frustration at the moment. Sometimes, what can be the issue is tensing up before trying to insert something because you're expecting pain, and/or because you're putting pressure on yourself to have inserting something int...
by Elise
Sat Jun 25, 2022 9:56 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Grounding Techniques!
Replies: 5
Views: 17149

Re: Grounding Techniques!

I have a few favourites! The thing with grounding exercises is that even if they don't entirely take away your distress but reduce it for a period of time, and that helps you cope/have a bit of a break, then they are still useful. You can use them as often as you need. A couple that can even be depl...
by Elise
Sat Jun 25, 2022 9:08 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 3188892

Re: Accepting my sexuality

But I'll definitely use the chance that there's no risk they might come into my room unexpectedly the next few days and try some podstasts, I had no idea it was possible to listen to them without registering or downloading so thanks so much for the advice!  Hi there Theansweris42, just popping in t...
by Elise
Sat Jun 25, 2022 6:10 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 3188892

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Hi Theansweris42, thank you for sharing your thoughts of solidarity with us here, it is appreciated, I'm sure particularly by our staff and volunteers in the US. One thing I learned a while ago now is that just because there are other traumas and difficulties in the world, it doesn't make the challe...
by Elise
Sat Jun 25, 2022 5:44 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Weird adult in friend group
Replies: 7
Views: 4305

Re: Weird adult in friend group

Hi waterhyacinth, sorry to hear that you are in a position where you feel like you don't have many adults to turn to in your life right now. Do you know why your parents want to take you out of therapy? Is this something that you want/agree with, or not? Is there a counsellor or teacher at school th...
by Elise
Sat Jun 25, 2022 4:10 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How to Know if I'm Ready
Replies: 3
Views: 5631

Re: How to Know if I'm Ready

Hi there queenoftask, and welcome to Scarleteen. You've asked a few different questions here (which I'm glad you felt comfortable asking us), about masturbation, how you might know when you are ready for partnered sex, and also decision making when it comes to approaching a partner. To start with th...
by Elise
Fri Jun 24, 2022 4:07 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Clitoral stimulation feels overwhelming
Replies: 8
Views: 118746

Re: Clitoral stimulation feels overwhelming

Hi there jadedoor08, and welcome to Scarleteen. We're happy to chat with you about this, everyone is different so what might work for one person might not be exactly what another needs. Have you tried indirect stimulation (essentially having something between the clit and stimulation that diffuses t...