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by Elise
Thu Jun 23, 2022 4:55 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: What Queer Media have you been loving lately?
Replies: 0
Views: 15989

What Queer Media have you been loving lately?

This Pride we posted a new batch of Queer Media Recs , this joins last years’s recommendations and Some Books and Balms for Nonbinary Folks . Have you tried some of these yourself? If so what did you think, did something capture your imagination, big or small? What queer media have you been loving t...
by Elise
Sun Jun 19, 2022 3:04 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Losing virginity
Replies: 15
Views: 4544

Re: Losing virginity

Glad to hear you're doing much better Emm5. If you have any questions or want to chat anything in the future, please don't hesitate to reach out to us here at Scarleteen 😊
by Elise
Sun Jun 19, 2022 12:59 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Sexual identity
Replies: 5
Views: 13952

Re: Sexual identity

Glad to hear that opening helped you feel better, having someone to talk to can be a really important part of working through these things. You are welcome to chat to us about questions/from from reading the articles here. If you are comfortable answering/engaging in this line of discussion: have yo...
by Elise
Sun Jun 19, 2022 12:46 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: What will testosterone do to my sex drive?
Replies: 4
Views: 3446

Re: What will testosterone do to my sex drive?

Hi there brungerbulb, I'm glad to here that Michaela and Mo were able to help you feel reassured and better 😊. Speaking to your therapist and showing her this thread sounds like an excellent plan, and talking to her about this whilst waiting for all the admin to get done to get HRT sounds great too....
by Elise
Sun Jun 19, 2022 12:32 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Tingly feel in vagina
Replies: 3
Views: 3871

Re: Tingly feel in vagina

Hi there Afi, since you are having a burning sensation after urinating you should see a doctor as you may have a urinary tract infection (UTI), or a yeast infection. These are easily treated and many people, particularly people with vulvas have had to deal with one, the other, or both at times in th...
by Elise
Sun Jun 19, 2022 12:12 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I think I have phimosis
Replies: 7
Views: 4273

Re: I think I have phimosis

Hi XX, glad to hear that you're in a situation where you are able to flag an issue with your parents and ask questions about your health. I would say it would be better to go sooner rather than later, just to make sure that actually that this cream is a good idea before using it, and to get an actua...
by Elise
Sat Jun 18, 2022 11:40 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Weird adult in friend group
Replies: 7
Views: 4305

Re: Weird adult in friend group

Hi there waterhyacinth, whilst I'm sorry to here that you find yourself dealing with this kind of situation, I'm glad you felt comfortable asking us about this. From what you are describing, I would say you are very very wise to be listening to your instincts here, the fact that you are able to note...
by Elise
Sat Jun 18, 2022 12:27 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Sexual identity
Replies: 5
Views: 13952

Re: Sexual identity

Hi there jq2022, and welcome to Scarleteen. From your post, it sounds like that you have faced some really difficult challeges in life that would have needed a lot of strength to navigate through. There are many people here and out in the world who can relate to your experiences, and reading writing...
by Elise
Fri Jun 03, 2022 5:52 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: masturbation doesnt feel the same anymore
Replies: 1
Views: 4292

Re: masturbation doesnt feel the same anymore

Hi there wawa4455 and welcome to Scarleteen. What you're experiencing is actually a really common thing, most people find what they like sexually and what they find arousing can change over time, and situationally, depending on what is going on in their lives. This is explained really well in this a...
by Elise
Fri Jun 03, 2022 5:22 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Is there something wrong with me
Replies: 10
Views: 4689

Re: Is there something wrong with me

Hi Opal, everyone is on their own timeline as far as working about how they may experience arousal, so your age is not the most important factor here. As Heather mentioned, putting pressure on yourself (which can include thinking you need to have experienced certain things by a certain age), can hav...
by Elise
Thu Jun 02, 2022 4:06 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I can't stop thinking about masturbating
Replies: 1
Views: 5853

Re: I can't stop thinking about masturbating

Hi there Euge, and welcome to Scarleteen! So, when you say that you "know" this from YouTube, are you able to tell us the things you heard/saw on videos there that make you feel this way? I ask because all the information on there isn't necessarily as correct or based on current informatio...
by Elise
Thu May 26, 2022 4:50 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Seeking out information/where to go from here
Replies: 5
Views: 4675

Re: Seeking out information/where to go from here

Hi Lucy4, a curiosity to clarify, are you saying that you haven't come across folks who are asexual who haven't tried sexual things before to "work that out"? There are asexual/aromatic folks who haven't done things that way, so even if those labels don't feel right for you and your interi...
by Elise
Thu May 26, 2022 4:27 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How do I know I'm not missing red flags?
Replies: 16
Views: 4465

Re: How do I know I'm not missing red flags?

Hi there ndisg, sorry to hear that it's a bit rough at the moment for you. It is totally okay to feel sad about a relationship ending, even if you know it is the best decision. We have some resources on our main site that you may find useful at this time (our main site is dark at the moment but will...
by Elise
Sun May 22, 2022 3:03 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Penetration just wont happen and sensory issues suck
Replies: 3
Views: 2275

Re: Penetration just wont happen and sensory issues suck

Hi BatsNCats, first let me reassure you that you are not "stupid" or "broken" if your hymen (another name for it is vaginal corona ) or something else is making it hard for you to insert anything in your vagina. This is something a lot of people have difficulty with, and a doctor...
by Elise
Sun May 22, 2022 2:29 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I can’t find my clit and I don’t feel any sexual pleasure when I try to masturbate
Replies: 20
Views: 143484

Re: I can’t find my clit and I don’t feel any sexual pleasure when I try to masturbate

Hi there kiune, and thank you for your question. So the thing with syntribation is that it is indirect stimulation of your clitoris (in other words, squeezing your thighs together is applying pressure on the area around your clitoris/glans and therefore onto them as well and stimulating them), so yo...
by Elise
Sun May 22, 2022 1:39 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Could a condom fail even if it is unbroken?
Replies: 1
Views: 3856

Re: Could a condom fail even if it is unbroken?

Hi there Gio, and thank you for your question. Condoms are designed and proven to be very effective birth control (98% effective in one year of perfect use; 86% effective in one year of typical use (which just means sometimes people don't use the method exactly according to instructions, or all the ...
by Elise
Fri May 20, 2022 4:07 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Preparing for a difficult conversation
Replies: 25
Views: 30043

Re: Preparing for a difficult conversation

Hi Raffles, you have obviously planned this out really thoughtfully about your friend as well as your needs and boundaries. I hope it goes well for you 😊
by Elise
Fri May 20, 2022 4:02 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Urination With Erection Often Hurts After Masturbation
Replies: 4
Views: 2974

Re: Urination With Erection Often Hurts After Masturbation

Hi Thoughtful1 - whilst many men have difficulty urinating with an erection, the fact that it is causing you pain is worth checking in with a doctor about. Also whilst it can take some time for an erection to subside, one that lasts a particularly long time (and is related to pain) also is worth get...
by Elise
Thu May 05, 2022 4:57 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Polyam Relationship Advice
Replies: 78
Views: 16377

Re: Polyam Relationship Advice

Hi there Mixxes, that sounds like a good development that you've come to understand that you want your friendship network to stand separately from any polyam relationship structure you have in future, so that you don't feel caught in the middle of any relationship conflict, nor have the relationship...
by Elise
Sat Apr 30, 2022 11:11 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Reconnecting With Someone
Replies: 68
Views: 31430

Re: Reconnecting With Someone

Hi MusicNerd, thank you for this update! It is wonderful to hear that things are going so well for you, and that you are exploring things with your partner with clear and understanding communication, at a pace that works for you both. You are right that this kind of relationship comes with vulnerabi...
by Elise
Sun Apr 24, 2022 7:09 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Figuring Out Polyam/Non-Monog Identity While Single?
Replies: 17
Views: 10978

Re: Figuring Out Polyam/Non-Monog Identity While Single?

Hi BuddyBoi21, sorry to hear that this was particularly painful because it was losing a partner and a friend, it is completely natural to feel that grief, and also important to give it space to feel that loss. Whilst I know it is hard to do sometimes, remembering that relationships involve more than...
by Elise
Sun Apr 24, 2022 6:14 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Figuring Out Polyam/Non-Monog Identity While Single?
Replies: 17
Views: 10978

Re: Figuring Out Polyam/Non-Monog Identity While Single?

Hi there BuddyBoi21, I'm sorry to hear that you are struggling with self love, and healing from this past relationship experiences. These are really big and interconnected things that many people struggle with, and you have articulated how these take form for yourself really well. It's a big first s...
by Elise
Sun Apr 24, 2022 5:43 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: My sister told my mom that I am a lesbian. Please help!
Replies: 21
Views: 14130

Re: My sister told my mom that I am a lesbian. Please help!

Hi there shypixie, I hope the article is helpful to you, and there is no need to apologies for the timing of your reply, we understand everyone has their own schedules, time it takes to consider our responses, and windows of time where they feel they can access our services safely. I'm sorry to hear...
by Elise
Thu Apr 21, 2022 5:46 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: The idea of sex makes me dysphoric
Replies: 5
Views: 3792

Re: The idea of sex makes me dysphoric

Hi there truly-bluely, I'm sorry to hear that the dysphoria is so intense for you at the moment. Thank you for being comfortable sharing more about it with us. When you say that you don't fully trust that your therapist doesn't have the necessary expertise or perspective to discuss your dysphoria, a...
by Elise
Thu Apr 21, 2022 5:30 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Advice
Replies: 8
Views: 3436

Re: Advice

Hi there camcat, I'm sorry to hear that someone that you considered a friend is not listening to you, and prioritising his feelings over your own, and trying to make you feel bad when you shouldn't. Your instincts are right, the best thing for you at the moment is to have some time away from him and...