So in one of my courses the person sitting next to me masturbates in class. I am kinda uncomfortable with that, although it's really not that bad. I don't know what to do. I don't want to report him because he will get into a lot of trouble and he will just be punished and nothing will change. I can...

Hi Sky H, Porn isn't inherently evil or bad for you but there are a couple of things worth remembering when you're watching it: Porn sex is not like real-life sex and so it's not a great place to learn about what your own sex life can or should be like. These two articles by Alice O look at some of...

I used it a couple of times and it felt good, but idk if it's bad for me. I've also heard that people get addicted to it sometimes, and I'm scared that that will happen to me.

So is it bad for you and if not, how to watch it without getting addicted?

Is it usually just you, your mum and sister at home? If so, would it be possible for them to practice gendering you correctly when you are at home just the three of you? Yeah, there is rarely anyone else in the house, the problem us that my mum got used to it too quickly and then gendered me correc...

So the title basically. My family is pretty religious and believes masturbation and sex before marriage are sins so they wouldn't want me to have stuff like that. I they wouldn't disown me or just punish me, they'd probably just be disappointed, but I still don't want them to know. So how can I get ...

Hi Sky, I'm sorry you're dealing with dysphoria, I know it can be really difficult. This is definitely a good place to come to as we're always here for you. That being said, there are outside resources we can refer you to for further help such as, for example, a mental health provider. Let me know ...

I'm not sure if this is the best place to ask about this, if it isn't let know, but anyway, I'm trans and my gender dysphoria is getting worse and it's difficult to bear with. It really sucks because it's this constant terrible feeling that I can do nothing about. I have an appointment for starting ...

So I am trans. I am usually not that dysphoric about my penis when it's flaccid, but when it's erect I am dysphoric about it. Is there a way to make it not erect while masturbating?

So, it sounds like you need to find some ways top reduce stress. It also sounds like you might need to let go of the idea that if it feels compulsory -- like something you have to do -- it is necessarily going to feel less exciting. For pretty much everyone, one of the things that makes sex excitin...

You've got a few options. The first one is just to set sex/masturbation to the side for right now while you're feeling so stressed and not very excited, at least for a little bit. Sometimes our lives and how we feel in them is such that it just isn't the right time for sexuality. Alternately, you c...

Hey there. It really sound to me like what's missing that was there before is probably feeling more excited about it: that's just often the missing ingredient with the kind of difference you're talking about. What turns up the dial on how things feel like this is usually how aroused we are. If we'r...

Hi Sky H, It's awesome that you're been doing that work to experiment and unlearn some of that shame! But I can see how it'd be frustrating to feel like you've still lost some of that pleasure. Just to check, how is your overall mental and physical health? Are you on any medications? And have you e...

So, some time ago I posted a post about how masturbation doesn't feel that good anymore. I tried everything that was sugested. I learned how to use fantasy, I don't feel that much shame anymore, dysphoria is not that big of a problem anymore (idk why, but it isn't as bad as before.) This time I'll e...

So I think that I might be asexual or somwhere on the asexual spectrum, but I'm really confused. I'm not sure if the attraction I feel is sexual, romantic or aesthetic. How do I figure that out?

So I'm transfeminine and pre everything, and I really want to masturbate, it used to be fun and it felt great before, but my dysphoria about my body worsened recently. Now it is just a really dysphoric experience and it feels awful. Also just having such a strong sex drive makes me dysphoric. Is the...

I'm glad the article was helpful! With accessing condoms, I feel you on how awkward it can be to try and purchase that sort of thing in a small town. I will say that, generally speaking, even in small towns the cashiers at drugstores aren't paying that much attention to what people are buying, and ...

Hi Sky, You may have already seen this article on our site, but if not, I think it might be a helpful place to start tackling the shame you're feeling around masturbation: Undoing Sexual Shame . I also wanted to give a suggestion based on what you said about being being grossed out by your semen af...

Okay! When it comes to online spaces, these boards are actually a great starting place to chat with other queer and trans folks. The next place I'd suggest checking out is to actually see if the place you mentioned is offering things like digital meetups or groups; a lot of LGBT centers have moved ...

Since it sounds like you've had a religious influence in your life, that can often be a source of shame or guilt when doing something like masturbation. Do you think that's playing a role here? Too, since dysphoria is also in the mix, do you feel like that disgust is attached to your body and how y...

Got it, thanks for all that information. So, I asked about whether you know other transfeminine folks for a few reasons. One is simply support; dealing with things like dysphoria can be a little easier if you have folks in your life who've gone through the same thing and can maybe offer advice. But...

I don't know why I feel guilty and that it's disgusting. I know that it's not supposed to be, but it feels that way. yes, it would be helpful, it seems to me it's bad to fantasize about a real perso because of Mattew 5:27-28: ""You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adulter...

Hi Sky H, Dysphoria can be such a pain, and I'm sorry you're dealing with it. So I can get a sense of what your supports are like, are you currently seeing a mental health provider? And do you have many connections to other transfeminine folks, either in your area or online? Can I ask what particul...

Alexa wrote:Pulling back on the foreskin can tug at places where it starts attaching to the shaft, which may hurt a bit.

it hurts on the front of the foreskin, not where it attaches to the shaft.

So when it's erect, I can fully pull the foreskin back, but it starts hurting when I get most of the way down, and still kinda hurts when it's fully back. The pain is not too strong, but it's noticable. Is this normal, or should I go to the doctor about this?

So I'm a nonbinary trans girl. That means that I am amab and feel more like a girl, but not fully a girl. Some call it demigirl, but I don't like that label. I often feel dysphoric about my genitals and I don't know what to do about that. I can not tuck because I don't have the stuff I need and I'm ...