Actually, I've watched this TED talk discussing infidelity a few times... I felt it was very empowering (or at least consoling). Was wondering what you (or anyone else) think about it?

http://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_r ... anguage=en

Thank you Heather for your message. What are some preliminary steps I can take to mentally prepare myself to move forward? I know it is the best thing that I can do for myself but realistically, I do still see myself being in this rut for another week or so. That's probably not something you want to...

Hi, I had previous left a few messages regarding my situation over the last few months. This post is in fact still talking about the same individual. This question is being asked in the sense that it is his predicament (but told from my POV). He has asked me for advice (ironically), but having not b...

Just wanted to say thank you to everyone who has replied - I truly appreciate your time and effort - the feedback has really helped pick me up when I was feeling incredibly down over the weekend. Looking back, he had always encouraged me to be the best version of myself and even tried to help me get...

Indeed... I have not checked recently however this morning I noticed (from my own account) that he unfollowed me on the image-sharing app, which was a bit depressing. Probably because I still had our photo as the profile image... And she could likely see that. So it's clear to me that he now cares m...

Hmm... I guess having the conversation / finding out the truth is serving an ego need, and almost unrelated to our relationship history itself. I feel like I need to find out if he 'wronged' me in any way, and if so, then I would never keep in touch with someone who lied to me like this. I suppose I...

Hi Heather, you're right... I guess I am not ready to move on yet, even though I say I want to be able to... For myself, I think I just need to have one last conversation with him... And find out if he had planned this trip with only her. I'd probably just tell him I was shocked but it makes sense f...

Thank you so much both for the feedback and the article. I only wish I had read this years ago... The parts that especially resonated with me were the ones regarding 'rejection' (definitely still feel rejected but less like 'the rejected'), having 'wasted time', and 'getting serious' before getting ...

Hi Ashleah, thank you so much for you response. It has really helped make me feel better. I will definitely begin taking steps to creating some distance for myself, starting with your list of suggestions. :) It's interesting, I'm always the kind of person who wants to be "in the know" abou...

Contemplated updating my original thread - http://www.scarleteen.com/bb/viewtopic.php?f=21&t=1449 but perhaps others might find some value if I created a more relevant subject line... Some time has passed and my boyfriend (or I suppose, now ex-) has moved out of the continent. It's been literall...

Hi Heather, thank you for your reply. You're right, I really did hope that he could be a bigger person and see the value of good compatibility over sheer looks. But at this point in his life, he says his gut instinct is telling him that he can potentially have both and that he should shoot for it wh...

Heather: Thanks again for your message. Indeed it will be interesting to see how we both feel after even 1+ months of not being officially together and getting space. I guess the bottom line is that despite the fact that he says still loves me and cares about me, he's not sure if he sees our relati...

Hi Heather, Our plan is to be 'platonic' friends (in quotes because... we are still sexually attracted to one another) until we are in closer physical proximity again (then maybe we'd revisit the relationship), but I don't think I would be happy being just friends for good (at least those are my fee...

Thank you Jacob, thank you Heather for your responses. Sorry, to clarify - he didn't use the exact words 'I think I deserve...' but I know he thinks it is very achievable. I think sometimes it has to do with one of his parents always showering him with compliments - saying "you're great looking...

What should I tell my boyfriend (late 20s) who thinks he deserves someone more attractive than I am? Before I (mid 20s) make him sound like a complete asshole, he truly isn't. He just spoke his mind, which I appreciate. I know he loves me and cares a lot about me but has admitted to feeling less phy...