Hi greenergrass333, I read this post and one of your other more recent posts so I may be reiterating what others folks have already said. I have a couple questions. When you say you "feel regret at these actions in the past" what specific regret is coming to mind? Regrets of doing the acti...

Hi So it sounds like this conversation was pretty triggering for you which can lead to a lot of overwhelming emotion so let's pause for a moment and just take a big breath. I'm not sure binaries of right and wrong or good or bad may be helpful to you right now. So maybe let's just break down the con...

Hi, Good to hear from you. I'm gonna bounce around paragraph wise to your response. I'm glad the idea of slowly pulling away resonated with you. Using specific examples, are there any current behaviors you feel like you could lessen that would start that process? Maybe texting less? You don't need t...

Hi Raffles, There is no need to apologize you did not sound demanding. We appreciate that you expressed your frustration because it helps us help you better. I am really sorry to hear that the possible new housing has fallen through. That must be really disappointing and very upsetting. Is there no ...

Hi! There is still a possibility that those are ingrown hairs as it hasn't been more than a day since you last posted. If there is hair that grows near where you are talking about, like the mons, then there is possibility for ingrown hairs. I would wait a week or so and not touch them and see if the...

Okay well there's always a chance theres been a change in your menstration cycle that could lead to this bleeding. Are you having penile pentrative sex right now? Or has it just been fingering? Also, I forgot to ask a more important question, is this the first time you've used something pentratively...

Hi again. I'm really sorry to hear that you cannot share this with anyone - that sounds really isolating. It being itchy and painful indicates to me that this is something that really only a qualified healthcare provider can investigate, diagnose and treat. Would you like me to try to help find free...

Hi! I want to start by saying congratulations on taking this step in your journey. This is huge and I hope you are giving yourself a much deserved pat on the back. I will say this, reading your post I had a very strong "oof. I feel that in my BONES." reaction. What you are feeling is unfor...

Is it still bleeding? Was it a lot of blood or more like spotting? Are you on any form of birth control? If so what? I cannot diagnose you as I am not a doctor and this is a messaging platform. If you want a specific answer I would recommend going to a gynocologist. It not being painful is a good si...

Hi! Generally, unless its coming from menstruating (is this a possibility?), blood is not expected in intercourse but it can happen. When you were doing this, was it painful? Did it feel forceful? I wanted to share this direct quote from our founder, Heather, who has spoken on a similar issue before...

Hi! I'm sorry you're experiencing discomfort! Let's just take a breath. I hear your fear and I want to let you know that if it is an STI it is not the end of the world and there is most likely medical care that can help with this issue. We are not medical professionals so I would recommend you going...

Hi! Irritation after masturbation is not uncommon. I don't have an exact answer to how long the pain should last. If it is still painful in the coming days it may be worth talking to a doctor about. Does it speficially hurt in your clitirous or do you have other pains (painful urination, vaginal pai...

Hi again, Thanks for sharing all this - I can imagine that this has been extremely overwhelming. The first thing I want to address is the section you discussed talking about how you cannot see your friend being capable of being toxic or manipulative because she's an adult and because she has been th...

Hi Raffles, I think I can speak for all of us here on the staff when I say we feel no desire to end this thread or any conversations with you. We all want to help in whatever way we can. Unfortunately, Heather isn't available to chat with you right now. But I was hoping, if you're down with it, you ...

Hi lycheefan, What sources are you talking about? Again, I cannot offer professional medical advice. If you have more detailed questions like this, this is a good time to reach out to a practioner. The advice I gave on the last post you made is the best proceedure when you have missed a pill. If you...

Hello! Thanks for writing us. To start, I think it might be helpful for you to check out a few of our pieces on asexuality to see if it resonates with you. Just the Basics, Ace: An Asexuality Primer Am I asexual? Do you have a specific question or thing that you are "doubting" as you put i...

Hi hi! Just wanted to pop in a resident person the ace spectrum to double affirm what that article wrote. Asexuality is a spectrum and like EVERY sexuality, it is not stagnent. Our desires and experiences can change over time and place, even person to person! When it comes to any and all labels, you...

Hi! I just wanted to jump in to say a few things. One. I just read this entire thread and previous posts and what I can tell you from that observation is that all the moments you have labeled as "negative perspective of your friend" have been you re-telling us facts of things that occurred...

Hi there, I'm sharing an article that I know you've seen before but will highlight the parts related to your question. Combined Oral Contraceptives (The Pill) To use the combination pill properly, you need to take one pill every day, ideally around the same time of day every day. It's also important...

Hi Raffles, It sounds like you have a lot going on. I wanted to take a moment to pause on your most recent reply. There's a lot of negative talk in absolutes, like saying you are "too messed up' to make "ANY posititve changes". Additionally, there's a bit of writing off of people bein...

Hi! Just wanted to jump in and highlight how hard this situation is for you and how well you are handling it. Queer woman, or people percieved to be queer women, are constantly gaslit by society and often their close intimate circles about their own identies. It is so invalidating and can be super u...

Hi Sam, Thanks for sharing all that. It sounds like you've got a lot of thoughts swimming around right now that can be very overwhelming. If labels are not sitting right with you right now, that's okay. Labels around sexuality or gender identity mostly serve as a reference point of understanding for...

Hi Estobawk! It sounds like a lot of emotions have been coming through lately that can be very overwhelming. Some of the things you discussed in the bottom paragraph sound similar to symptoms of depression. This might be worth bringing up with your therapist when you meet with him. I know you said y...

When talking about gender expression, especially in the trans commmunity, the topic of dysphoria often becomes front and centered. While dysphoria is an important topic and needed conversation, it can leave little room for conversations of euphoria. Recently, I gave a presentation with another trans...

Hi! I'm so glad talking with Sam has been helpful. I wanted to pop in here and see if we can talk through some of what you're feeling. To start, this I don't think I'm a good person to fall in love with. is a pretty strong statement. I'd like to challenge that. "Good" implies that there ar...