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by Urna
Sat May 15, 2021 1:09 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Knocked nexplanon?
Replies: 7
Views: 13598

Re: Knocked nexplanon?

Hello Holly55! Post getting the implant, periods will take a little while to settle down as your body slowly adjusts. Since it's only been 3 weeks since you got yours, I don't think having a normal period is any cause for concern. While some irregularity in periods is common, as Mo highlighted in hi...
by Urna
Tue May 11, 2021 9:53 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Brutally Honest
Replies: 13
Views: 20707

Re: Brutally Honest

Hey girlplayer34! I hear you re the honesty part, and I hope that your feelings get lighter to bear. I genuinely think that a lot of your intimacy needs would be fulfilled if you trusted more than one friend enough to reach out to them and get vulnerable around them (especially because they trust yo...
by Urna
Tue May 11, 2021 4:24 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Brutally Honest
Replies: 13
Views: 20707

Re: Brutally Honest

Hey girlplayer34! It does sound like you've put quite a bit of thought into this. From your last post, I inferred that you've had some bad life experiences with betrayal and letting your guard down around people who ultimately didn't care to respect your vulnerability. I'm truly sorry if that's the ...
by Urna
Wed Apr 28, 2021 4:14 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Usernamesake
Replies: 5
Views: 5390

Re: Usernamesake

Hi idk anymore! Regarding Sam's really good advice to you: one of the best ways to make new friends is by inserting yourself into a group that is bound to meet regularly, for a number of hours, and for a longish duration of time, like a class or a reading group. I always recommend foreign language c...
by Urna
Wed Apr 28, 2021 3:55 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Irrational semen fears (long)
Replies: 4
Views: 5956

Re: Irrational semen fears (long)

Hey there Dreamlore, A big YES THAT'S RIGHT! to the questions you posed. I won't go into further detail in this post, because these are all either questions we've answered before on the previous thread you started, or they're pieces of information that we gave you. Since you say that seeing the info...
by Urna
Sat Apr 24, 2021 12:57 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bleeding after losing virginity
Replies: 1
Views: 4391

Re: Bleeding after losing virginity

Hello, welcome to Scarleteen! I'm sorry to hear that you're bleeding after your first time, it must be a little scary. I'm not a doctor, and so I can't say for sure what the issue is, but it's common to bleed after sex when the delicate tissue of the vulva and vagina get damaged. This could be for a...
by Urna
Sat Apr 24, 2021 12:50 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Pregnancy Scare
Replies: 1
Views: 8638

Re: Pregnancy Scare

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is lock...
by Urna
Mon Apr 19, 2021 9:14 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: question about mens sexual health
Replies: 13
Views: 3720

Re: question about mens sexual health

I'd recommend taking this to the doctor, especially if it's painful or causing some sort of irritation. Like Sam said, we can't diagnose you here at Scarleteen. Sorry! Good luck, and let us know if you have questions related to something that we can help you with.
by Urna
Mon Apr 19, 2021 9:11 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I literally can't feel any pleasure when I try to masturbate
Replies: 8
Views: 11799

Re: I literally can't feel any pleasure when I try to masturbate

Hi Magdalena, what you're describing is very common, so there's no need to worry about things like nerve damage (the fact that there's a pulsing sensation in the genital area when you're aroused means sexual pleasure isn't far away at all!). I understand exactly how frustrating it is when touching y...
by Urna
Sun Apr 18, 2021 4:53 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Personal issues interfering with sex life
Replies: 3
Views: 6964

Re: Personal issues interfering with sex life

You're very welcome, and take it easy, Hel!
by Urna
Sun Apr 18, 2021 2:33 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I don't really get crushes anymore?
Replies: 7
Views: 7409

Re: I don't really get crushes anymore?

Hey Melamyl, sorry I'm responding so late. You're welcome for the feedback! And yeah, since sexual orientations are fluid and self-chosen, there's really nothing definitive I can say about your thought that you and Skylar could be asexual or demi, because it's up to you to decide individually (or no...
by Urna
Sun Apr 18, 2021 2:25 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Personal issues interfering with sex life
Replies: 3
Views: 6964

Re: Personal issues interfering with sex life

Hi Hel, thank you for messaging! It sounds like you're going through a really tough time, and that distressing sexual experience just made things worse. But you also seem very self-aware and attuned to your needs and overall emotional climate, which is great, and will definitely help you work throug...
by Urna
Sun Apr 18, 2021 2:17 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Porn orgasms and comparison
Replies: 4
Views: 9428

Re: Porn orgasms and comparison

Yay, so glad the article spoke to you! The points you homed in on are super pertinent, too. Thanks for letting us know that you liked the article, and don't hesitate to reach out to us for any other questions you might have!
by Urna
Sat Apr 17, 2021 6:09 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How effective is sperm/semen outside the body?
Replies: 12
Views: 22691

Re: How effective is sperm/semen outside the body?

Hello Dreamlore, Yep, it absolutely wouldn't survive! The scenario you mentioned would never result in a pregnancy in real life, and I guess the only reason that it's a popular image is because of patriarchal fearmongering and maybe certain types of bad pornography that use it as a plot point? Also,...
by Urna
Fri Apr 16, 2021 10:26 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Porn orgasms and comparison
Replies: 4
Views: 9428

Re: Porn orgasms and comparison

Hello Arasyil, and thank you for messaging us here at Scarleteen! This is a very important question, and you're absolutely right that the porn actresses are exaggerating! Porn is fiction, it is fantasy, and it is directed down to the very last frame. Pretty much nothing about it is real. Depictions ...
by Urna
Sun Apr 11, 2021 1:32 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: i um don't know how to masturbate
Replies: 3
Views: 9429

Re: i um don't know how to masturbate

Hello, thank you for messaging! I'm sorry to hear that you've been having trouble enjoying masturbation. The thing is, sexual pleasure has more to do with your what's going on with your brain, rather than with your body. That includes emotions, feelings, thoughts, etc., and it works differently for ...
by Urna
Wed Apr 07, 2021 4:00 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I don't really get crushes anymore?
Replies: 7
Views: 7409

Re: I don't really get crushes anymore?

@Melamyl It might help to not think about sexuality markers (like demisexual, asexual, demiromantic, etc.) as realms that are distinct from one another, but rather as a spectrum! These identities aren't set in stone, and applying a marker to yourself and your experiences is only a good thing when it...
by Urna
Thu Apr 01, 2021 1:00 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: advice
Replies: 18
Views: 6495

Re: advice

Hello Edhelraen,

This is great news! Thank you for the update, we're so glad that the cyst went away and the pills worked for you! Fingers crossed that your period returns to normal before next month, and you don't have to get on hormones. Take care, and let us know how it goes!
by Urna
Wed Mar 31, 2021 5:31 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Itchy labia and swelling
Replies: 6
Views: 2716

Re: Itchy labia and swelling

Yeah, touch/tight pants might be irritating the area in addition to the dryness. Try to avoid tight pants and synthetic fabric, and only touch the area gently, after washing your hands with soap?
by Urna
Tue Mar 30, 2021 12:29 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: pregnancy OCD
Replies: 5
Views: 9240

Re: pregnancy OCD

Hello Aarushi, thanks for messaging! I'm really sorry to hear that you're struggling with these obsessive thoughts, and it's so great that you're doing your best to take care of yourself and resist your compulsions. While only a therapist can talk you through these thoughts and help you find coping ...
by Urna
Tue Mar 30, 2021 12:02 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: What's your favorite outfit?
Replies: 24
Views: 32888

Re: What's your favorite outfit?

I absolutely love wearing saris, with blouses that have quirky cuts! Saris are so versatile, and quite comfortable, if a little difficult to drape. Currently trying to figure out how to pair my chunky platform boots with my mother's delicate pastel saris!
by Urna
Mon Mar 29, 2021 11:04 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Itchy labia and swelling
Replies: 6
Views: 2716

Re: Itchy labia and swelling

Hi Borb! I think it's best to bring it up with your doctor next time you visit, yes! Until then-you said that scratching the itchy parts causes swelling and numbness, and that aloe vera soothes the area. Have you noticed any other patterns over the last two years, with the itching? Are there any spe...