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by Urna
Thu Oct 28, 2021 7:23 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: is it normal?
Replies: 2
Views: 2333

Re: is it normal?

Hello amiela12, and welcome to Scarleteen! Could you tell me if the numbness feels like having pins and needles in your feet and hands? Or is there zero feeling? It's normal for some body parts to tingle during sex, which we can sometimes misinterpret as numbness. It happens because our breathing ch...
by Urna
Sat Oct 23, 2021 11:40 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Where is my withdrawal bleed?
Replies: 4
Views: 2362

Re: Where is my withdrawal bleed?

If you keep taking your pills regularly, your endometrium will thin out the same way every month, and you won't experience much of a bleed. It's safe for the endometrium to be thin, because all that that means is that you can't get pregnant, which is your goal here. A thin endometrium is usually a p...
by Urna
Mon Oct 18, 2021 11:51 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: X girl
Replies: 2
Views: 2957

Re: X girl

Hello aven1861, and welcome to Scarleteen! I'm really sorry to hear that you're hurting. I relate to the frustration and uncertainty that being in a "situationship" brings, especially when you're the only one trying to make it work. You've done the right thing, though, by putting an end to...
by Urna
Mon Oct 11, 2021 4:36 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Easily-aroused Clitoris
Replies: 3
Views: 7330

Re: Easily-aroused Clitoris

Great, glad we helped!
by Urna
Mon Oct 11, 2021 4:35 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Took my pill late
Replies: 1
Views: 1715

Re: Took my pill late

Hey Juliaho90,

Since you've been taking the pill religiously since then, there should be no need for additional protection. You'll be fine. Please read this document for more information: https://health.cornell.edu/sites/health ... l-pill.pdf.
by Urna
Mon Oct 11, 2021 4:28 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: New here
Replies: 3
Views: 2345

Re: New here

Hello perfectionist, and welcome to Scarleteen! You've come to the right place to learn about sex and the body. However, the channel you've posted on (called "Ask Us!") is restricted viewing--only our staff and volunteers can see and reply to your post. This channel is for user-to-staff di...
by Urna
Mon Oct 11, 2021 4:25 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbation troubles
Replies: 14
Views: 4010

Re: Masturbation troubles

That sounds lovely! I have no doubt that that'll help redirect your energies. Creativity sparks major joy.
by Urna
Sun Oct 10, 2021 1:27 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: New here with a couple questions
Replies: 4
Views: 2279

Re: New here with a couple questions

Also, to answer your question on sex toys and minors: there isn't an official age limit on sex toys per se, they're not like alcohol in that sense. However, accessing sex toys can be difficult for minors because most sex store shops wouldn't allow (in some places, unaccompanied) minors in. You could...
by Urna
Sun Oct 10, 2021 1:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Easily-aroused Clitoris
Replies: 3
Views: 7330

Re: Easily-aroused Clitoris

Hello Bethanie, and welcome to Scarleteen. Clitorises come in all shapes and sizes, and if we took into account a clitoris' internal size as well as its external size, it is nearly as large as a penis, as this article will tell you: Innies & Outies: The Vagina, Clitoris, Uterus, and More . It's ...
by Urna
Fri Oct 08, 2021 11:30 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbation troubles
Replies: 14
Views: 4010

Re: Masturbation troubles

You've worded it very well, I'm glad that the articles helped you articulate what's probably going on. Are any positive outlets coming to mind, wrt developing a more intimate relationship with full-body pleasure? What activities bring you joy, or have historically brought you joy?
by Urna
Wed Oct 06, 2021 5:59 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbation troubles
Replies: 14
Views: 4010

Re: Masturbation troubles

Hey hello_world! It sucks that you don't have locks available to you, I totally understand how that kills masturbation prospects. And yes, if you're concerned that your mom may enter your room unannounced at any point, that's definitely a mood ruiner, along with the fact that she already thinks you ...
by Urna
Wed Oct 06, 2021 5:50 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation questions
Replies: 13
Views: 7197

Re: Masturbation questions

Hi Otter8, I'm sorry that you don't have privacy, and I can understand that even when you're alone in the house, you may be wary of using a room whose door doesn't fully close. Is there a time of day, say nighttime, when you can be sure that no one will walk into your room? I'd suggest locking yours...
by Urna
Mon Oct 04, 2021 6:29 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How to have sex as an asexual
Replies: 1
Views: 1085

Re: How to have sex as an asexual

Hello, and welcome to Scarleteen! First off, congratulations on realizing your asexuality! I'm sorry, though, that the discovery brings with it this distressing situation with your boyfriend and feeling like you have to have sex to make it seem like you love him. You don't owe your boyfriend sex whe...
by Urna
Mon Oct 04, 2021 6:20 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: New here with a couple questions
Replies: 4
Views: 2279

Re: New here with a couple questions

Hello Wild1, and welcome to Scarleteen! Masturbating with an electric toothbrush cannot cause nerve damage, and there is no such thing as too much of an orgasm unless you've hurt yourself in some way and are in physical pain (which would be unrelated to the orgasm itself), and holding your breath ne...
by Urna
Mon Oct 04, 2021 6:11 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Vaginas
Replies: 3
Views: 1074

Re: Vaginas

Hi Ryan, Bumps and lumps in the vagina and on the vulva are pretty common, unless they're painful or swollen. Is that the case for you? And it's extremely unlikely that you have no labia minora, it's more likely that your labia minora are pretty tucked-in, which is quite normal! Labia minora come in...
by Urna
Mon Oct 04, 2021 6:03 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbation troubles
Replies: 14
Views: 4010

Re: Masturbation troubles

Hi and welcome to Scarleteen, hello_world! The stereotype that cis men intuitively know what brings them pleasure really sucks, yeah, because it is absolutely not true for all cis men, or for people with penises in general. You're not alone, by any means. I'd recommend taking a look at this article ...
by Urna
Mon Oct 04, 2021 5:18 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: period questions t_t
Replies: 9
Views: 2606

Re: period questions t_t

Stress does factor into it, absolutely. Have a look at this article, it may help: MIA or, Dude, Where's My Period?.
by Urna
Mon Sep 20, 2021 12:07 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Penis Size
Replies: 24
Views: 5654

Re: Penis Size

Quoting from this article : "some people's foreskins are just really tighter in general; they might not retract below the head of the penis at all even once the person reaches adulthood. Medically speaking, having a very tight foreskin is known as phimosis, and it's usually caused either by lat...
by Urna
Sun Sep 19, 2021 10:04 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Penis Size
Replies: 24
Views: 5654

Re: Penis Size

Body parts come in all shapes and sizes, and penises are no exception. Your size is totally normal, regardless of what the penis sizes of those around you are. If it's truly distressing you, however, it may help to know that penis size changes well into your late teens or early twenties. Often it'll...
by Urna
Sat Sep 18, 2021 7:20 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Is this a normal trauma response?
Replies: 3
Views: 7255

Re: Is this a normal trauma response?

Hello KC, I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through these confusing emotional reactions to the memory of your abuser. It may comfort you to know that this is a very normal trauma response, and exceedingly common among survivors. Emotions are unpredictable and multilayered, but actually, the fac...
by Urna
Sun Sep 12, 2021 1:00 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: masturbation isn't working anymore?
Replies: 1
Views: 6554

Re: masturbation isn't working anymore?

Hello utgard! I'm sorry that masturbation feels nowhere near as good as it used to, despite your trying things like porn and smut, and I can understand the frustration you're undergoing. First off, I want to let you know that it's completely normal to have spells where masturbation and sex don't fee...
by Urna
Tue Sep 07, 2021 3:43 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I need some boyfriend advice
Replies: 5
Views: 2857

Re: I need some boyfriend advice

Hey Knightness, We're a 20-something year old sex and relationship education website with a user base that reports similar kinds of problems, so we have tons and tons of articles with comprehensive and research-based information that we can direct our users to, instead of reinventing the wheel every...
by Urna
Tue Sep 07, 2021 2:56 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Flashbacks during examinations
Replies: 13
Views: 9217

Re: Flashbacks during examinations

It looks like you've worked hard to heal yourself and break down the misplaced self-blame. I hope today's appointment goes as well as it can, and that your breathing and muscle relaxation exercises lessen the intensity of the flashbacks. It's wonderful that you've not been struggling with flashbacks...
by Urna
Mon Sep 06, 2021 1:27 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Flashbacks during examinations
Replies: 13
Views: 9217

Re: Flashbacks during examinations

Hello Jess99, Like Sam, I am deeply sorry that you're going through this, and I really hope that your healthcare providers accommodate your trigger in some way next time. If anything, I'm ashamed I didn't leave him right away. I'm ashamed I didn't say anything sooner for him to stop. I can understan...
by Urna
Sun Sep 05, 2021 7:27 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Does this cause pregnancy?
Replies: 1
Views: 4591

Re: Does this cause pregnancy?

Hello Sammysam, and welcome to Scarleteen. What your boyfriend did will not cause an infection. Unfortunately, we will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services with users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not been otherwise directly involved with an a...