If you feel the urge to urinate and the stream of liquid comes out in a steady flow, instead of gushing or shooting out, I think it is probably just urine. And yes, maybe because you're concentrating more on the genital area and thereabouts, you subconsciously get reminded of other functions that go...

Hello Buddyboi21, Everything you've said and the decisions that you've made are perfectly clear, yes! I'm really sorry to hear that you've had a horrid invalidating time of it during your last few therapy appointments. Highly understandable, too, that experiencing that sort of ableist toxicity from ...

Hello again, Raffles! Everything you said here makes perfect sense, don't worry. Sorry to hear, though, that you've been having a hard time coming to terms with your decision to let that person know about your secret. I know how overwhelming the seesawing can be between "I'm so glad I was vulne...

You're welcome, let us know if you have any questions!

Hi Melanie, and welcome to Scarleteen! I'm sorry that you're in this upsetting situation. It's true that orgasms shouldn't be considered the end goal of sex, but it's so valid to want to orgasm together, and to share that wonderful feeling with someone you love. Would you mind going into a little mo...

Hi, welcome to Scarleteen! The clitoris is a very long organ, and most of it is internal. In full, internal and external combined, it's almost the same size as the penis. The part that is external is called the glans, and it is under that hood that you mentioned. Your clitoris may be smaller, which ...

You'd know your situation best. Whenever it comes up, Sian's advice will be useful for navigating that situation, I think.

This article will be super helpful to you: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexu ... sers_guide

Speaking from personal experience, it may help to seek out role models with small breasts, such as actresses, models, celebrities, or just people in your life whom you find beautiful. There are so many gorgeous people with small breasts!

Hello, This is helpful, thanks. May I ask what you usually do to stop thinking about sexual things? How do you distract yourself from the distraction, in other words? What works, and what doesn't? If you don't have answers to this yet, here are some suggestions. Things like homework and chores are o...

Hey TS6249, Good to hear that you'll be seeing a doctor about this. Unfortunately, since we're not medical professionals, we can't give you a completely reliable answer to your question about curvature, but treatment is usually only necessary when the curvature is 30 degrees or more. Your doctor wil...

There you go! Wearing affirming clothing is always such a boost.

Hi pnkmilk, This sounds like a really difficult situation to be in, and I'm sorry that you're going through it. This is clearly not a sexually satisfying relationship for you (at least, not yet), but I'm glad that you two have had conversations about it and tried out apps and stuff to help with your...

Hello amysands, and welcome to Scarleteen! I understand how confusing it must be to have such conflicting thoughts about gaining weight, and I'm sorry to hear that this has been a long-term difficulty. I should say here that weight gain fantasies are extremely common, and there is nothing wrong with...

Hi hello_world,

Yes, Paroxetine does inhibit orgasm and arousal. It's highly probable that going off SSRIs will change things, as you said, so good luck!

Hello Vivi, and welcome to Scarleteen! I'm sorry that you're having such intense feelings of shame and guilt around masturbation (which, you're right, is a completely normal, healthy, and pleasurable human experience). The first thing I want you to know is that there is absolutely nothing wrong with...

Don't mention it, that's what we're here for! Period shame can be a heavy burden, and I'm glad that with your partner, you finally have a space to be more open and unbothered about your periods. "On the Rag" (the article I'd linked you to in my previous response) goes briefly into the hist...

Hi uberscuba, and welcome to Scarleteen! There is absolutely nothing wrong with you physically for not enjoying vaginal intercourse the one time you tried it. Vaginal pain during penetration is sadly extremely common, but there are solutions available for most people going through this, which we wil...

Hi a369, I'm sorry to hear that your parents wouldn't be super comfortable talking about reproductive health, given their upbringing. It's heartbreaking how common this attitude is. I'm also sorry about that incident before, where the GP's office called your parents about your health issue without y...

Hi dollparties! It's completely alright to ask us multiple questions in a single post! And the more detail you give us, the easier it is to respond to your issue, so thanks for saying lots! I relate hugely to the disposal problem you're going through, because I've had similar experiences growing up....

Hello Rose_confused, For fingering advice, please scroll up to the first response in this thread, by Elise. If you're scared three fingers are going to hurt, try using lube. If it still hurts, take it slow, and just proceed with two fingers. The number of fingers doesn't necessarily increase the amo...

Hello waterhyacinth, I'm going to respond to the fear you spoke of, regarding being "destined to end up in a bad relationship" if you've been in an abusive relationship before. Thank you for bringing that up. I want to assure you that this is not a general rule, by any means, and usually, ...

Hey dollparties, Please don't apologize for posting on here, it's not an issue at all! Thank you for letting us be your sex ed resource. There's no such thing as 'wet enough'. People's vaginas work differently, and even the same vagina doesn't lubricate the same way consistently. It's nothing that y...

Oof I'm really sorry to hear about your needle phobia. I don't think that there are any other legitimate solutions to your problem, but again, I'm not medically trained, so this is by no means the final word on the topic. Since you're based in Sweden, which is an area I don't know much about in term...

Hello Space Egg! I'll answer your question using a quote from this article :- If you don't take it at exactly the same time -- but still take it on the day you're supposed to -- that won't make your pills ineffective: it's just a safer bet to take it around the same time to keep you in the habit to ...