Hi Anne, This sounds incredibly frustrating, I'm sorry it's been such a difficult experience to get to orgasm. The good news is you've found a way (albeit complicated and tedious) and perhaps more importantly, you've found other ways to masturbate that feel good but haven't gotten you to the point o...

Hi Estobawk, I was wondering if either of the articles Val sent were helpful? I don't want to overwhelm you with readings, but you mentioned you were browsing our site and couldn't find much, so I want to send a couple more pieces that I think have useful info in them: Embracing Newbiehood: How to A...

A good place to start is this advice column: I'm having doubts about my relationships; am I doing this right?
Does any of that resonate with you?

Hi there, welcome to the boards. I'm really sorry that you went through all that, your ex sounds like he's not a great person, so I'm glad you got out of that situation. Having nightmares can happen when you go though trauma, and being manipulated into sex and everything else he did would certainly ...

I think it'd be helpful to read this piece from our founder Heather, where they discuss this idea that we have to orgasm during partnered sex. Not all of it applies to your situation, but some does, such as this quote: "...sexual satisfaction is about more than orgasm, and whether or not a sexu...

Hi there. No worries, these are totally normal questions to have--most sex ed curriculums do a terrible job at explaining what the 'hymen' is. Here's an article on our site about it, it answers all your questions but let me know if you have any others! My Corona: The Hymen & the Myths That Surro...

Hey wolfcub. I want to first say that I honestly understand what you mean when you say it seems like everything is set up in a way that makes you feel like you need to change yourself to find a partner. It can seem that way for a lot of us who are neurodivergent and have specific hobbies we stick to...

Ah, well a phone call is a great way to connect with them and feel less lonely. So I agree with Michaela that if you can call them every couple of days it would be great for you to have someone to chat with.

Hi again,
We have a great article on our site called How To Actually Date Yourself, which you can click to read. That should answer some of your questions. Do you want to talk about it some more? Did anything in that article resonate with you or bring you more questions?

Hi Starsnsloths, That can depend on yourself and how you view it. You can certainly turn yourself on, and you can stimulate yourself sexually, but whether that means you're sexually attracted to yourself is up to you to determine. Some people would say those are different things, but other people do...

Hi iloveeveryone! I'm so sorry you were harshly punished as a child for masturbating, and that it's been a cause of distress in your life. It's not fair to punish anyone, let alone someone so young, for something they didn't even understand or see as "right" or "wrong". It's comp...

So the "hymen" is the vaginal corona and it can vary in shape and thickness, it is located about 2cm into your vaginal canal so what you describe could be the vaginal corona but there's no need to worry because it won't "break" (that's a myth). You can read more about that here. ...

I agree, and it's the type of conversation many people prefer having in person if possible. I'm glad this helped, best of luck! <3

You're welcome! You can always send in any questions like these <3

So, there's a few different things going on here. For one, you really care about him and want to pleasure him - and that's okay, he's your partner! But as you said, you don't want to ever do anything JUST because you want him to feel good - you want to also want to do it. So it's okay if you gave hi...

Hi Starsnsloths, welcome to the boards! Don't worry, your questions are totally fine. I'd be glad to answer them. I'll start off with saying: most of these are personal preference/choices, and there isn't a right or wrong way to do it. For example, you can wipe the sides of your labia each time you ...

Sometimes it's for the best to leave things 'as is', and like you said, you're both still very hurt. I find that "closure" is a term people use as something we NEED, but in reality whatever 'closure' is looks different for every situation and sometimes the way to get it is to just close a ...

The healthcare provider can be either/both of those: a gynecologist or could even be just a primary care doctor can help with things like prescribing birth control that could help with the symptoms, and a mental health professional to help with managing your mood during those times. When you refer t...

Hi intjtechno, hope it's okay that I chime in. As someone who is also neurodivergent and queer, I want to tell you that only YOU choose your labels (or lack of!) and you're no different than the next person, yet also unique. We each have our own sexuality whether that involves your orientation, gend...

Hi waterhyacinth! I've read over this thread a couple times and I've gotta say, I'm with Sam on this. I think there can be normal and healthy friendships with large age gaps, but that's usually between adults (such as, for example, a 25 year old with a 40 year old). When one of the parties is a teen...

Hi LanaCheyla, so glad to hear you were able to take action and feel good about it. Like you said, this will hopefully help prevent him from doing this to other people. The most important thing here is that you can feel safe and that you're not alone in this.

Aw, that's so nice of you to say. We just have your best interest at heart and want to see you be happy.

Hi, Theansweris42. I'm so glad you were able to find some of the books at a local bookstore! <3 You know, the way you describe how you feel when you're at home vs away for even just a day, it says a lot. It says that the relationship with your parents isn't great, no matter how much they say it's a ...

Hi Onyx, we actually have chat open right now and one of our volunteers is there if you still want to pop in. You can access it the same way you usually do to talk to Sam.

Hi Onyx, I'm with Sam here - it's hard for us to be able to say what you should do because you know your dad better. You definitely want to wait until he's in a good mood to ask, but even then it might backfire, so it might be best to take the safe road and wait. It's up to you, though. It might be ...