Hi tulipgardener77, welcome to the boards! It's normal for people's arousal levels and even pleasure levels during sex or masturbation to change due to things like stress, medication, and many other factors. I know you mentioned getting off your medications and trying different toys and types of sex...

Hi EEllis, welcome to the boards! It's actually very common for people to go through this, since it can take some trial and error to figure out what works for you to get to orgasm. The thing is, when someone is stressed about it, it makes it even harder to get there. So while there is not a one-answ...

Hi shypixie, have you had a chance to talk to your mom about it? Regarding making friends, there are some great online spaces for queer folks we can suggest, is that something you're interested in? In person, a good way to make friends is with something in common - you can join a club or group of so...

Hi Liliana101, We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your...

Hi Jan, welcome to the boards! You know, it's definitely normal at your age to be going through these changes, including the increase in sex drive and the desire to experience that intimacy. May I ask, what do you mean by having 'honest sex'? Also, when you say masturbating makes you feel uneasy, do...

Gotcha, then I'm glad you have the option of your friend sneaking stuff in, that sounds like the best (and at the moment only) option!

I'm so sorry he made that joke, I agree it was unnecessary. If he means it just as a joke, then hopefully it wasn't ill-intentioned and just in poor taste, but since impact often matters more than intentions, you have every right to be upset at it. Do you feel like you'd wanna try telling him that, ...

Hi dollparties! Just caught up on the thread - I'm sorry that 'moment' didn't really turn out how you hoped it would, or wanted it to! It sounds like he's not upset about it, so that's good, and hopefully talking about it in person will clear anything up that might need clearing up or discussing fur...

I'm glad you're open to having a conversation about it, I think it'll feel good to express these feelings to him and it'll make you two closer. Regarding the stress of an adult relationship, that's definitely valid and it can feel like there's a lot of pressure (not by him, just by the nature of the...

Hi Raffles! I'm so sorry your family is dismissive of your eczema, and that it feels like your body is rebelling against you. I myself have had eczema (really bad flare ups in the winter) and currently have psoriasis, too, so I feel you! It can be really crappy when someone points it out and isn't s...

Hi dollparties! First I want you to take a deep breath (or 10). I totally understand why you're so anxious about this, love isn't a game and it's okay to take it seriously! I also can agree with your self-assessment that you're in your head about it, so let's take a breath and try to clear your mind...

So, the thing about libido is, there's nothing wrong with its levels being high OR low. There's nothing inherently wrong with feeling sexual often, it's about learning to manage it. I don't want you to feel awful about masturbation or having a high libido, do you know if there is an underlying reaso...

Would it be possible to buy a few things, even if they're small like accessories? You could go to a thrift shop/used clothing store and get something really cheap so it isn't a big investment and you can experiment with what Sam said. It could even be that you buy some undergarnments that feel femin...

Hi melanie420, hope it's okay if I jump in! I know you mentioned you aren't anxious and are quite comfortable with him, and that you've tried clitoral stimulation during sex with him - all the details you provided were very helpful so we can rule some stuff out, so thank you! My best guess is that e...

Hi iloveeveryone, how exciting! At the same time, I can see how it can be overwhelming, too. Do you have someone in that class that you're closer to, that you could stick with? That might help both feel less like you need to talk to a lot of people, but also could help you talk to more people since ...

There's no way to know *for sure*, but yes, they might be. It'd be your body's natural response to the intense feelings of that moment.

Hi Girll18, welcome to the boards. It's good to keep in mind that everyone's bodies react differently to different stimuli, that includes things like what makes you orgasm. If clitoral stimulation isn't doing it for you, then you can try it different ways or just toss it out for now (you can always ...

Hi there, I think it's important to make a distinction between what's important and what's necessary to you. You said you should be able to live without sex and kisses, but that's different than *wanting* those things. It's also understandable why you're hesitant when it comes to sex and we aren't h...

Hi dollparties, Don't apologize for posting, it's what we're here for! You aren't being irritating, I promise. I'm sorry you've been feeling undeserving of the love/affection you're receiving, that can be a hard thing to shake off. The truth is, as you said yourself, he clearly thinks you're deservi...

Hi BuddyBoi, nice to hear from you. I want to start by addressing your comments about why you dropped your last therapist. NO therapist, psychiatrist, or any mental health (or, any kind of health) professional should ignore or even worse invalidate your experiences with racism and issues regarding r...

Hi Rubix, this is great news! I'm glad you and your family could come to an agreement and also that Heather's suggestion worked. I'm so sorry to hear it's been tough for you, though, with your mom being a bit transphobic. That can be really difficult to process, especially since she's otherwise supp...

Nothing to be embarassed about. It's always good for me to be caught up, you mentioned you had a chat with them yesterday so I wanted to be up to date so as to not say anything too repetitive. It's good for me to have the full picture so I can give you the best support I can.

While it's normal for some people's foreskin to be tight, it shouldn't be causing you discomfort and there also shouldn't be actual pain involved when you touch the head of the penis. My advice would be to make an appointment with a doctor and ask them about it so you can get a professional opinion ...

I read your chat with Heather from yesterday, and [as always] they had some great advice. Did you try to write out those affirmations (that you don't want or deserve abuse and that you'll start by loving yourself) and put it on a mirror or somewhere you can see it often? I know most of the time you ...

Hi aaru257! I totally understand this can feel like a scary conversation to have, especially in person when he might be touchy and already make you uncomfortable from the beginning, so I propose having it over the phone, video call, or honestly, even text messages. It might also help to keep in mind...