Hi dollparties! I'm up to date on the thread and I gotta say, I'm really glad it worked out this weekend! You never have to do anything you're not comfortable with, but knowing your partner is accepting and patient helps feel more comfortable, so it sounds like you're there. If sex on your period is...

To be honest, without having known everything she's said to you, there's no direct answer to that. That being said, it sounds like she has strong opinions on kinks in general and from what you told us, it sounds like she came to some strong conclusions about yours. I can't say it was inappropriate, ...

Hi there, welcome to the boards! Honestly, I'm not sure what the pain could be, nor do I want to take a guess without more information. It could definitely be a pulled muscle, though! It could also just be muscle soreness from certain positions, which should go away within a day or two. If the pain ...

Hi Raffles. I definitely can understand feeling awkward when strangers are super nice, but as Carly mentioned, tattoo shops deal with lots of clients who cancel, postpone, change designs last minute, etc and their job is to be nice about it. Don't feel obligated to keep the appointment or to even ca...

Hi, sky. I'm sorry to hear it didn't work out with the person you were talking to, and you're feeling like someone who will love and accept you for who you are isn't out there. Truth is, I don't know where they are, or when you'll meet them, but we aren't lying when we say there are people out there...

You're very welcome! And nope, not too much, as long as it doesn't feel overwhelming to you, there isn't anything wrong with masturbating every day or as often as makes sense to you. Of course we recommend to always be gentle and use lube when necessary so there doesn't end up being any pain or sore...

It does make sense, yep. Pretty much anything can affect our sexuality, including ability to orgasm and everything that it involves, and what you're describing definitely sounds stressful. It can feel weird when masturbation helps us relax and relieve stress but also stress makes it harder to mastur...

Yes! That's actually a great way to compare it, honestly. Everyone has something different that relaxes and/or energizes them for the day, so this can be your thing

If you find that after masturbating you're able to complete tasks better, would it be possible to kind of schedule sessions in? I know ideally you'd just wait to be in the mood and do it then, but if it's totally getting in the way of chores (and then the chores are getting in the way of your sessio...

It sounds like you found your thing - or at least, one of them! You can either keep experimenting with it AND other ways to masturbate, or stick with it for now. As always, it's all about what feels best for you

That's great that you found something that makes you feel empowered and that you enjoy. There aren't really any big risks involved in it, but it's more of a "stop if it hurts" thing. So as long as you're going at your own pace without any pain involved, you'll be good!

Hi sky! That's totally understandable, I'm actually impressed with your self-awareness and that you can recognize that you're not ready yet. Take your time, heal, and don't feel rushed to take a new step - this is YOUR journey. The suggestions given above are wonderful, so keep them close for when y...

I'm so happy to hear that <3 and to your question, yes absolutely, those sound great! Honestly the sky is the limit with how you can make time for yourself and relax. Physically, it could even be something like running/dancing/other exercise-type activity, which isn't relaxing in the moment necessar...

Oh, that's wonderful! I'm so glad you were able to relax and enjoy some time with yourself. It might not always take that long, there's no telling exactly, but it might be good to warm up to the idea of it taking this long for when/if it does. Keep finding ways to relax outside of play time, both ph...

Hi a369, welcome to the boards! It sounds like you've already tried the good old mirror self-check, but before I even suggest or ask anything else, I want to check if you've ever seen a healthcare professional about this? It worries me that you describe pain when you even slightly touch the area, th...

Yep, that can also be normal! The size of the clots matters more than the frequency/amount, so if they're small to medium clots that shouldn't be concerning.

Hi erin12345, welcome to the boards. I'm sorry to hear you're in a situation where you feel like you're at a dead end, I want to start by saying no, you aren't wrong. Given that he has cheated on you in the past, and hid it from you for years, it makes sense you'd be hesitant to go through with this...

That's true, you're right that sometimes it happens out of rage, unfortunately. Did you want to talk more about this, or expand on Elise's question in her last post?

Oh, yay! Love to hear this, I'm glad you found what works for you! Truthfully, I'm hesitant to assume what's going on, because you might be ejaculation (commonly referred to as "squirting"), which can look and feel similar to peeing. Either way, neither one is embarassing and not really so...

It's okay to be nervous, it can be intimidating! It helps to know they deal with stuff like this constantly, and they won't judge you or think your situation is weird. I promise! Just be as clear about it as you can manage to be, so they have all the information they need. You don't have to give all...

Just want to jump in and say I'm so glad you find Scarleteen helpful, and you're welcome to come back and update us or ask any other questions you may have. <3

Hi sky, would you like to talk about what happened last night? Your friend is not being a great friend, you know, "slut shaming" isn't cool and what she called you isn't true. It might not be good to keep talking to her about this topic if this is how she treats you about it. Having friend...

That sounds like a good plan, please let us know if it hasn't - as Elise mentioned, it might be good to check in with a healthcare provider if it hasn't by then. I also wanted to mention, there are several ways to get lube that don't necessarily require you to purchase it. Your doctor's office is on...

Hi sky, I'm glad to hear you texted him that, if you are feeling like you don't want to do it again then it's good to be honest with him and set that boundary. As for feeling like you sinned, that isn't the case. People are entitled to their own opinions and beliefs, and religious beliefs are valid ...

How did that situation go, you quitting - did you tell her this was the reason why, and how did she respond? Btw, you don't pay us and we agree with her (that you're worth something). She's not lying to you, she means it.