Hi p3beo! I'm so sorry you're dealing with this, kommunistveckan can cause dysphoria for many people, so you're not alone in that. While we are not medical professionals, so we can't give you actual medical advice, I'm going to suggest looking into depo provera (the shot) if you haven't already. One...

Honestly, what you're feeling is something I can relate to, a lot. I've been through the same thing where I felt I had friends, but no close friends that would be there for me when I really need them, or who actually enjoy hanging out with me 1:1. Sometimes just having 'friends' doesn't feel like en...

I wish we could make it all better, too. Really. And I'm glad to repeat it, but it seems you already know it yourself--you absolutely, under no circumstances "have" to have sex with ANYONE you don't want to, regardless of their gender. You deserve to have sex only when you're ready (mental...

If you're using them to clean your hands, then nope! No issues there. And while they can be used in the overall vulva area, you should avoid using them to wipe/clean your actual vagina, if that makes sense. But using them to clean your hands as Sam recommended, considering your mom already keeps the...

Hi Roseeejames5, I hope it's okay if I jump in. I'll start by answering your last question: it's not uncommon for sexual abuse survivors to do those things, we can be very harsh on ourselves and that's normal but it's also important to recognize it and try to break that pattern. It's great that you ...

That's great to hear! I'm glad you have someone to talk to about it, and that you found something that works for you. Did you get a chance to read either of the articles Elise linked, and if so did you find any helpful info or anything you have questions about?

Hi there! I am so sorry you're going through this--there is absolutely no excuse for "slut shaming". Before I address anything else, I want to say: you were single when you had both encounters, they were both consensual and the involved parties knew your intention. You did NOTHING wrong! T...

Hi phillyperson, what you are describing doesn't sound unusual or weird. It makes sense that your body would do that, there's no name for it or anything, it's just a bodily response.

Hi, yep! It is normal to have some clots, especially with a new birth control. Check this article out for more info on side effects and such, and let me know if you have any other questions: Birth Control Bingo: The Combination Pill

I agree with Sam, testing is definitely important to be on the safe side. I'm glad you're willing to ask him about it! It's also important, in terms of pregnancy prevention and future STI prevention, to keep using condoms (or any form of birth control you prefer, but it sounded like condoms was what...

Hi Bubblegumkid! Let me just say, there's nothing wrong with your vagina or with you. Perhaps you were a bit nervous or "in your head" and that can cause your body to not relax as much as you want it to, therefore making it painful to have sex--not to mention it was your first time so some...

Hi! What you're describing seems like a common side effect of birth control/the pill. Something as small as taking it at different days might cause spotting, but also it could just...happen. Also, 3 days and the color you're describing sounds normal too! Keep an eye on it if it gets too long or heav...

Definitely don't count out people in their early-mid 20s, you never know! And I'm with Mo, I know several people who are or were in our position. I'm glad you feel ready to set boundaries with your friends too. Best of luck with all of this and if you ever need us we'll be here <3

You're welcome! Best of luck <3

I definitely had a couple people I went on dates with act a bit weird about me not having been in a serious relationship in my 20s, so it does happen like you said, unfortunately. But my current partner is actually younger than me and I think that helped because he'd only been in one relationship pr...

That's valid, it's okay to feel that way. Your therapist is there to help with all these things, though, and they won't judge you or see you differently. It's their job to talk to people, including teenagers, about these things and it won't be weird from their perspective. Have they made you feel un...

I just want to start off by saying, what you're going through shows you are so compassionate and caring, so kudos to you! Being an empathetic person who cares about others and about social justice can be hard at times. Whether you are okay with staying quiet to avoid arguments, or with arguing with ...

Honestly, what you're going through (including all the anxiety around it) is super normal - you're definitely not alone in this. Even I can personally relate as I didn't have a serious relationship until my late 20s and it happened out of NOWHERE when I least expected it (I had been wanting one, jus...

As long as the stem isn't out it should be good, yep! That + maybe a different fold should help

Yeah, perhaps just sit on it for a bit and see how you're feeling. You don't want to rush into something you don't feel ready for. You're doing great!

Hi MusicNerd, hope it's okay that I chime in! I love what Emily said and can relate to feeling like learning about my own mental health is actually productive. I'm so glad you see it that same way. As for the whole creating narratives as a coping mechanism, that is soo normal/common, you have no ide...

Hi Jacob54, welcome to the boards! It can be normal for there to be an odor in the air during/after masturbation, yep, so don't worry. You could use an air freshener or candle if it's too strong, as well as opening a window if that's a possibility. Also, places like the shower might be better than a...

Yep, everyone's experience is different! Not everyone has the same side effects- I cannot stress this enough. That being said, I personally didn't really have any bad side effects from depo. Weight gain, which was expected, and lack of periods (I got them every few months and when I did they were su...

Hi there, no, it wouldn't be inappropriate for him to ask for a female doctor for this examination. There are several reasons people could be more comfortable with a woman doctor for things like these, especially if they've had a negative experience with a male doctor who made them feel ashamed. It ...

Hi Alexa, hope it's okay if I chime in! To be honest I've been in a similar situation and I can truly relate to it being frustrating and the feeling of having little control over your own sexual choices. Ultimately you have to put your health first while also making sure you're comfortable and at pe...