Oh, good! I'm glad you are having a little bit of freedom from them. And that sounds like a good idea, start there and see how you feel with that first.

Hi Raffles, Hmm that is tough. It's not good that you can't talk to her honestly about it because she's your manager, it doesn't seem fair because she is also your friend (and you should be able to tell her, friend OR manager, if she did something that made things worse for you). Most importantly, y...

Hi mantee, welcome to the boards! What you're describing is valid and normal. Dysphoria can definitely create a mental block with masturbation, so that might be what's going on, maybe. It's also normal for it to take a while to get comfortable and enjoy masturbation, even if you enjoy being fingered...

Hi Jenny. Here is my opinion from personal experience and from being in this line of work...the first time you have sex--and truthfully all times thereafter, but mostly the first time--WILL have a meaning to you and will link you emotionally to that person, no matter how hard you try to make it *jus...

Hi Kela, it's good to hear you state those facts - like you said, it's important to remind yourself of them. Anxiety medication might be helpful but also if you feel like your therapy isn't really working anymore, it might be good to look for a new therapist that you've never seen before, and kind o...

I'm going to link you two different articles, and let me know if you still have more questions! For Austria, I'm not familiar with any specific places to go - do you know of any clinics that do it? Most doctor's offices do too, if you're okay with your primary care doctor doing it. But you might alr...

Hi Hel, I'm sorry to hear you're feeling upset about leaving your friends, I get it! It's hard to move and leave friends behind. The good thing about 2021 is the many ways in which we can stay in touch--I know it's not the same and will require extra effort, but it is doable! You can use WhatsApp or...

Yep, I do recommend you bring it up, this is something that is normal but does need to be unpacked and worked through with a professional. I'm glad you are seeing someone new; talking about these topics in therapy is important as long as you feel safe in that environment.

I just want to say I'm so sorry you went through that and like Elise said, that is not okay. I'm glad it was in the past and you're not in that situation right now, but that doesn't make it NOT a big deal. It is perfectly valid for you to still have unresolved feelings about that. Please don't think...

Hi, welcome to the boards! It is normal for people to experience some discomfort after masturbating, especially if it's going away within a couple of days, but there are definitely some tips to at least reduce it because of course it's not ideal. First of all, the clit is very sensitive and more so ...

All great news! As a former college student who lived with my mom at 22, I relate to your struggle and echo everything said - finding even just 30 minutes a day (some days are really busy!) to yourself for pleasureable activities, even if that day it isn't masturbation and it's just watching music v...

Hi, welcome to the boards. Where you masturbate is more about your comfort in that space than anything else--if the space is private and safe, that's most important, the cleaning is something you can adapt to. For example, if you do it in your bed, you can grab a washcloth or other similar towel and...

Hi Eavuke, welcome to the boards! Sorry to hear your friendship with this person has become distant since the summer. Honestly, there's no right or wrong answer, because we can't know what he's thinking. I say it's okay to shoot him one more text, especially since it's been a few weeks since the las...

I'll echo Sam - you're still at an age where you can keep growing and changing and your body, genitals included, might look very different in a few years. I understand it can be frustrating to sit around and wait, but you're definitely not running out of time, everyone's timeline is different.

Hi nyxoxo, welcome to the boards! You know, periods are one of those topics that we don't want to make assumptions about because there could be so many variables and reasons it changes etc. It's definitely not weird for people to have a heavy flow but then occasionally have lighter periods, it's usu...

Hi Meggyd18, There's definitely a chance they're normal and not harmful if you've had them for a long time, they definitely could be sebaceous glands. Unfortunately without being able to see what they look like, and of course without being medical professionals, we can't give you a definite answer. ...

Hi BlueFlower823 welcome to the boards! From what you're describing, it sounds like there's a very low risk you could get pregnant that way. While technically semen could travel from the clit area to the vagina on its own, it would be more so if you're in a position where it could run down into it, ...

Best of luck with that, I think it'll be a great step. In the meantime I just wanted to reassure you again that feeling it or touching it won't make it stop working or become less effective. Let us know at any time if there's any other questions we can answer for you!

Hi there, welcome back. I'm sorry you've been dealing with this, it sounds super frustrating and confusing, even stressful. We can't help where our minds go sometimes, such as with past events that we've "gotten over" and moved on from, it's natural for our minds to sometimes go back and r...

You're not weird for that at all! How great orgasms are is subjective, also. For some people it's the best thing in the world, for others they're not a big deal at all, and everything in between. I'm glad you're on the way to experiencing it, though, and deciding for yourself! Wish you the best of l...

I love utility queer! Rubix, I totally understand that and relate. As I started to realize I was basically gender apathetic, I experimented with "styles" from goth to girly and in my case to soft butch too. Now I would say my gender expression falls under butchy femme, since that's what I'...

Hi Anne, welcome to the boards! I'm sorry to hear about the frustration your libido is causing, it sounds like a hassle and your sex drive shouldn't be something getting in the way of your daily life. As I'm sure you know, HRT can descrease libido, has it done that for you at all or has it remained ...

Hi there, welcome to the boards! What you are describing sounds like (as you stated) pearly penile papules, even though they're on top of the glans. However we can't give a diagnosis since we can't see them and are not medical professionals. It doesn't sound like anything concerning, though, since y...

Hi there and welcome to the boards! Do not worry, what you're seeing is normal and it sounds like you're cleaning enough. You shouldn't be using soap in that area (only around it, but not near the vagina). If you've never had any infections then you don't have to worry about your cleaning methods, s...

There's not really an alternative that's safe enough, but you can check out your local Planned Parenthood, other sexual health clinics or even a school nurse's office. Most of them give condoms out for free, so you don't have to worry about buying them. Same thing with lube!