Totally feel you on that, Jay! I think you've been doing a great job working through this.

Have you been feeling stuck on anything else about it?

Hey Curiousgirly -- welcome to the boards! It sounds like you are experiencing female ejaculation aka squirting. Regarding your experience vs. what you see in videos (presumably porn?) and where it comes from, I think this advice column can help.

Is there anything else we can help with?

hey there -- yes, it sounds like your dad could have dealt with finding out about your masturbation a lot differently. It sounds like it could have been a conversation rather than a situation that made you feel shame. Also, what it's worth, the masturbation habits you're describing seem pretty norma...

Hey pyc -- welcome to the boards! I know this can feel kind of isolating, but it's actually one of the most common genres of questions we see on the board. We typically find that it's never anything physically wrong with someone and more often an issue with exactly what you said, the pressure of wan...

Hey cuteduck -- welcome to the boards! This is something we can help talk you through, but something that's important to understand first is that everyone's body is different. Different things work for different bodies. We're not going to be able to tell you exactly what to do because there are infi...

Hey Jay -- can you say more about feeling overstimulated and the communication you two have had around it? What does it feel like? Do you ever feel a difference between "bad" overstimulation and "good" overstimulation, or does it all feel the same?

Hey Berkeley -- I'm sorry this is causing you so much stress right now. Something I want to point out is that it sounds like you're still sorting out what you're feeling - coming up with a solution before you can fully articulate or name what's going on is going to spin you out into a lot of "w...

Hey ellie -- sorry to hear that this person has been hard to communicate with. Hate to say it, but the only two options I'm seeing are 1) double text anyway or 2) try to talk about it at the party. You're not going to be able to state your boundaries or discuss her expectations unless one of these t...

Hmmm... well, I don't think you're in the minority here. I know a lot of people who are very anxious about phone calls and emails. But! It sounds like there's something about phone calls and emails that we haven't quite hit on yet that might give us some insight on a bigger issue you're struggling w...

Hey naurmi008 -- has it happened since?

Hey meleep -- have you ever masturbated in a way where you didn't directly touch your genitals, like humping a pillow? It sounds like what you've been doing hasn't been feeling great to begin with, but sometimes that can also help with dysphoria while masturbating.

Hey Yukkish -- welcome to the boards! There's a lot we can talk about here, and I'm going to start to chisel away at it. Something I want to say up top is that we're not going to be able to tell you how you feel. You're going to be the #1 authority on your own sexuality, words that feel good, etc. A...

Hey harmless -- welcome to the boards! There's a lot we can talk about here, and I'm not going to be able to touch everything, so let's just start with the communication between you. It sounds like you were uncomfortable from the start with what she wanted to do. What made it hard for you in those m...

Hey sky -- is Planned Parenthood the only option you know of near you? It's been a while since we talked and I don't remember where you live, but sometimes county health departments do STI testing for little or no cost as a public health measure. You might have already done this as well, but in the ...

Hey naurmi -- Sperm are not strong enough to survive that long outside of the body. If your boyfriend masturbated 1-2 hours before you met up, the sperm would definitely not be alive and capable of getting you pregnant.

Hey Thelmaokm -- first and foremost, you cannot get pregnant from semen on toilet paper or any other surface in a shared space. There is a huge misconception out there about strength and intelligence of sperm, which you can read about here . In order for pregnancy to be a possibility, there needs to...

Hi Cursed -- welcome to the boards. Thank you so much for trusting us with so much of your story. There's a lot we can talk about here, but I want to start to with the main topic in your post. Because you've given a lot of information, I want to make sure I'm understanding correctly. When you apolog...

Hey Jay -- it might be good to start by thinking backwards. What would make you feel uncomfortable about wearing clothing that felt more revealing? It sounds like the fit itself might be something you'd need to get used to, but what else (if anything)?

Hey 26beanbags -- welcome to the boards! None of this is TMI. So, what I'm hearing is you're asking us if this changes anything about your sexuality. Truth is, you'd know better than we could. But we can try to help guide you through sorting this out. Can you explain what identifying as a lesbian me...

Hey nono_nono -- I know you're feeling very anxious about this, but we've given a lot of information in this thread about why pregnancy cannot happen in this case. Please read and review those responses and the resources in them before asking additional questions on this topic. Are you having a hard...

Hey mcc_ready08 -- welcome to the boards! I'm happy to help and start on your questions. Something I want to emphasize up top here though is that bodies are all very, very different so it can be hard to pinpoint exact answers to some of what you've written. I'll do my best, and I'll also link you to...

I'm sorry to hear you guys have been so frustrated, but I'm glad you've been able to talk about it in the context of your relationship. Unfortunately, I'm not sure if we'll have a solution for you about the texting aspect specifically. I'm wondering if focusing on finding a way to see each other mor...

Hey UnicornKitty -- thanks for explaining that so thoroughly. When you think about your persona as an "innocent person", is this something you feel like your sort of slot into naturally given your experiences or is this something you actively curate? What has that process been like in the ...

Hey Jay -- I'm sorry to hear things haven't been feeling great. Something I want to point out is that minimizing the amount of time you spend at home doesn't have to be tied to being out with friends. What kinds of things do you like to do when you're alone? The same goes for developing coping metho...

Good luck, Lucy! Let us know how it goes and if you need help having a follow-up convo.