Totally feel you on that, Jay! I think you've been doing a great job working through this.
Have you been feeling stuck on anything else about it?
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- Wed Aug 16, 2023 7:07 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: What does “readiness” even mean when you have an anxiety disorder?
- Replies: 34
- Views: 49279
- Wed Aug 16, 2023 7:03 pm
- Forum: Sexual Health
- Topic: Squirting or something else?
- Replies: 1
- Views: 7677
Re: Squirting or something else?
Hey Curiousgirly -- welcome to the boards! It sounds like you are experiencing female ejaculation aka squirting. Regarding your experience vs. what you see in videos (presumably porn?) and where it comes from, I think this advice column can help.
Is there anything else we can help with?
Is there anything else we can help with?
- Wed Aug 16, 2023 6:21 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Vent/advise about sexual shame
- Replies: 11
- Views: 37605
Re: Vent/advise about sexual shame
hey there -- yes, it sounds like your dad could have dealt with finding out about your masturbation a lot differently. It sounds like it could have been a conversation rather than a situation that made you feel shame. Also, what it's worth, the masturbation habits you're describing seem pretty norma...
- Wed Aug 16, 2023 5:33 pm
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: i feel like somethings wrong with me
- Replies: 3
- Views: 11690
Re: i feel like somethings wrong with me
Hey pyc -- welcome to the boards! I know this can feel kind of isolating, but it's actually one of the most common genres of questions we see on the board. We typically find that it's never anything physically wrong with someone and more often an issue with exactly what you said, the pressure of wan...
- Wed Aug 16, 2023 4:42 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: masturbation
- Replies: 5
- Views: 28109
Re: masturbation
Hey cuteduck -- welcome to the boards! This is something we can help talk you through, but something that's important to understand first is that everyone's body is different. Different things work for different bodies. We're not going to be able to tell you exactly what to do because there are infi...
- Sat Aug 12, 2023 4:27 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: What does “readiness” even mean when you have an anxiety disorder?
- Replies: 34
- Views: 49279
Re: What does “readiness” even mean when you have an anxiety disorder?
Hey Jay -- can you say more about feeling overstimulated and the communication you two have had around it? What does it feel like? Do you ever feel a difference between "bad" overstimulation and "good" overstimulation, or does it all feel the same?
- Wed Aug 09, 2023 8:24 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Wondering if I have voice dysphoria?
- Replies: 12
- Views: 174816
Re: Wondering if I have voice dysphoria?
Hey Berkeley -- I'm sorry this is causing you so much stress right now. Something I want to point out is that it sounds like you're still sorting out what you're feeling - coming up with a solution before you can fully articulate or name what's going on is going to spin you out into a lot of "w...
- Wed Aug 09, 2023 6:28 pm
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: I kinda need help with everything
- Replies: 24
- Views: 102753
Re: I kinda need help with everything
Hey ellie -- sorry to hear that this person has been hard to communicate with. Hate to say it, but the only two options I'm seeing are 1) double text anyway or 2) try to talk about it at the party. You're not going to be able to state your boundaries or discuss her expectations unless one of these t...
- Sun Aug 06, 2023 12:48 pm
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: If painful periods aren’t normal, why do so many people have them?
- Replies: 24
- Views: 72149
Re: If painful periods aren’t normal, why do so many people have them?
Hmmm... well, I don't think you're in the minority here. I know a lot of people who are very anxious about phone calls and emails. But! It sounds like there's something about phone calls and emails that we haven't quite hit on yet that might give us some insight on a bigger issue you're struggling w...
- Sun Aug 06, 2023 12:42 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: what is this substance??
- Replies: 7
- Views: 1861
Re: what is this substance??
Hey naurmi008 -- has it happened since?
- Wed Aug 02, 2023 7:09 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Can barely feel any pleasure
- Replies: 11
- Views: 12845
Re: Can barely feel any pleasure
Hey meleep -- have you ever masturbated in a way where you didn't directly touch your genitals, like humping a pillow? It sounds like what you've been doing hasn't been feeling great to begin with, but sometimes that can also help with dysphoria while masturbating.
- Wed Aug 02, 2023 6:24 pm
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: Bi or lesbian?
- Replies: 5
- Views: 15118
Re: Bi or lesbian?
Hey Yukkish -- welcome to the boards! There's a lot we can talk about here, and I'm going to start to chisel away at it. Something I want to say up top is that we're not going to be able to tell you how you feel. You're going to be the #1 authority on your own sexuality, words that feel good, etc. A...
- Sat Jul 29, 2023 1:06 pm
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: both of us BI-curious but maybe more?
- Replies: 3
- Views: 26540
Re: both of us BI-curious but maybe more?
Hey harmless -- welcome to the boards! There's a lot we can talk about here, and I'm not going to be able to touch everything, so let's just start with the communication between you. It sounds like you were uncomfortable from the start with what she wanted to do. What made it hard for you in those m...
- Sat Jul 29, 2023 12:58 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: unsure what to make of this
- Replies: 37
- Views: 2417253
Re: unsure what to make of this
Hey sky -- is Planned Parenthood the only option you know of near you? It's been a while since we talked and I don't remember where you live, but sometimes county health departments do STI testing for little or no cost as a public health measure. You might have already done this as well, but in the ...
Re: worried?
Hey naurmi -- Sperm are not strong enough to survive that long outside of the body. If your boyfriend masturbated 1-2 hours before you met up, the sperm would definitely not be alive and capable of getting you pregnant.
Re: Worried
Hey Thelmaokm -- first and foremost, you cannot get pregnant from semen on toilet paper or any other surface in a shared space. There is a huge misconception out there about strength and intelligence of sperm, which you can read about here . In order for pregnancy to be a possibility, there needs to...
Re: Cocsa TW
Hi Cursed -- welcome to the boards. Thank you so much for trusting us with so much of your story. There's a lot we can talk about here, but I want to start to with the main topic in your post. Because you've given a lot of information, I want to make sure I'm understanding correctly. When you apolog...
- Wed Jul 26, 2023 5:25 pm
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: I want to get comfortable with wearing revealing clothes
- Replies: 5
- Views: 7841
Re: I want to get comfortable with wearing revealing clothes
Hey Jay -- it might be good to start by thinking backwards. What would make you feel uncomfortable about wearing clothing that felt more revealing? It sounds like the fit itself might be something you'd need to get used to, but what else (if anything)?
- Wed Jul 26, 2023 5:06 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: awkward question..
- Replies: 4
- Views: 8301
Re: awkward question..
Hey 26beanbags -- welcome to the boards! None of this is TMI. So, what I'm hearing is you're asking us if this changes anything about your sexuality. Truth is, you'd know better than we could. But we can try to help guide you through sorting this out. Can you explain what identifying as a lesbian me...
- Wed Jul 26, 2023 4:37 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Can She be pregnant!!
- Replies: 17
- Views: 4939
Re: Can She be pregnant!!
Hey nono_nono -- I know you're feeling very anxious about this, but we've given a lot of information in this thread about why pregnancy cannot happen in this case. Please read and review those responses and the resources in them before asking additional questions on this topic. Are you having a hard...
- Sun Jul 16, 2023 12:49 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: What is an orgasm?
- Replies: 1
- Views: 8497
Re: What is an orgasm?
Hey mcc_ready08 -- welcome to the boards! I'm happy to help and start on your questions. Something I want to emphasize up top here though is that bodies are all very, very different so it can be hard to pinpoint exact answers to some of what you've written. I'll do my best, and I'll also link you to...
- Sun Jul 16, 2023 11:47 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Sexting with my GF
- Replies: 3
- Views: 6847
Re: Sexting with my GF
I'm sorry to hear you guys have been so frustrated, but I'm glad you've been able to talk about it in the context of your relationship. Unfortunately, I'm not sure if we'll have a solution for you about the texting aspect specifically. I'm wondering if focusing on finding a way to see each other mor...
- Wed Jul 12, 2023 7:15 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Did I have sexual OCD or sexual compulsive behaviours as a child? If not, is there a name for the cluster of behaviours,
- Replies: 18
- Views: 62235
Re: Did I have sexual OCD or sexual compulsive behaviours as a child? If not, is there a name for the cluster of behavio
Hey UnicornKitty -- thanks for explaining that so thoroughly. When you think about your persona as an "innocent person", is this something you feel like your sort of slot into naturally given your experiences or is this something you actively curate? What has that process been like in the ...
- Wed Jul 12, 2023 4:26 pm
- Forum: Supporting Each Other
- Topic: I had two meltdowns today
- Replies: 23
- Views: 42726
Re: I had two meltdowns today
Hey Jay -- I'm sorry to hear things haven't been feeling great. Something I want to point out is that minimizing the amount of time you spend at home doesn't have to be tied to being out with friends. What kinds of things do you like to do when you're alone? The same goes for developing coping metho...
- Wed Jul 12, 2023 4:21 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: How do I talk to my mam about sexual stuff
- Replies: 5
- Views: 15125
Re: How do I talk to my mam about sexual stuff
Good luck, Lucy! Let us know how it goes and if you need help having a follow-up convo.