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by BunsenBurn
Tue Oct 13, 2020 2:18 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I'm worried about romantic attraction.
Replies: 12
Views: 10174

Re: I'm worried about romantic attraction.

Thank you, I will try that, it sounds like it would help!
by BunsenBurn
Mon Oct 12, 2020 6:10 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I'm worried about romantic attraction.
Replies: 12
Views: 10174

Re: I'm worried about romantic attraction.

Thank you both! I will try to avoid the worry of unreciprocated feelings, although I don't know if that will totally do it or not? But the next time I notice myself doing it I'll try to not just shove it down automatically? Both of those appeal to me, I'm not specifically looking for a dating app to...
by BunsenBurn
Mon Oct 12, 2020 12:40 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I'm worried about romantic attraction.
Replies: 12
Views: 10174

Re: I'm worried about romantic attraction.

I am open to online spaces, I just have no idea where to find any to just talk to people my age that have a culture I feel comfortable in (a lot of teen spaces feel awkward for me for some reason). I'm not sure what would happen if I allowed the feeling to run its course, I feel like it could develo...
by BunsenBurn
Sun Oct 11, 2020 6:36 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I'm worried about romantic attraction.
Replies: 12
Views: 10174

Re: I'm worried about romantic attraction.

I just... I want to be in a relationship, but currently there is nobody I can think of I want to be in one with, and even if their was, I don't know anything I could do to initiate one, so I just generally feel bad about it.
by BunsenBurn
Sun Oct 11, 2020 11:43 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I'm worried about romantic attraction.
Replies: 12
Views: 10174

Re: I'm worried about romantic attraction.

Thank you for the response. I would like to talk about pandemic friendly ways of making new connections, I find I am having trouble talking to people (even ones I go to school with) and communicating with them. Before the pandemic, I only really interacted with other kids at school, sometimes over t...
by BunsenBurn
Sat Oct 10, 2020 1:20 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I'm worried about romantic attraction.
Replies: 12
Views: 10174

Re: I'm worried about romantic attraction.

I also feel like I would be happy in a polyamorous relationship, but I do not know, as I have never been in a monogamous or polyamorous relationship before. I apologize if this is the wrong place to talk about this issue, it's just something that I worry about a lot.
by BunsenBurn
Sat Oct 10, 2020 11:36 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I'm worried about romantic attraction.
Replies: 12
Views: 10174

I'm worried about romantic attraction.

So, I'm ace, and I feel I am panromantic, but recently I've been thinking about it. I sometimes feel like I have a strong desire to be around a person, and I feel like if I was in a relationship with a person I could easily learn to love them, but I just don't feel that around many people? I want to...
by BunsenBurn
Wed Oct 07, 2020 3:59 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: I'm having trouble not feeling guilt about my gender.
Replies: 15
Views: 10945

Re: I'm having trouble not feeling guilt about my gender.

Bye! And there are some other things I want to talk about on here, but they aren't relevant to this section, so I might end up posting something in another one.
by BunsenBurn
Wed Oct 07, 2020 3:02 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: I'm having trouble not feeling guilt about my gender.
Replies: 15
Views: 10945

Re: I'm having trouble not feeling guilt about my gender.

Is there a way I could communicate that to a person without derailing the conversation or offending their feelings?
by BunsenBurn
Wed Oct 07, 2020 2:53 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: I'm having trouble not feeling guilt about my gender.
Replies: 15
Views: 10945

Re: I'm having trouble not feeling guilt about my gender.

I kind of would like to. Guilt over being male (well, toxic masculinity in general, but this is one specific part of that) has led to a lot of bad stuff in my life. When I was eleven, I got really into "anti-sjw" stuff, because I was angry at people saying men sucked and that outlet provid...
by BunsenBurn
Wed Oct 07, 2020 2:30 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: I'm having trouble not feeling guilt about my gender.
Replies: 15
Views: 10945

Re: I'm having trouble not feeling guilt about my gender.

I don't think it was sexual assault, I was saying I didn't know whether to think of it as sexual harassment or not. I have talked to a therapist in the past, although I had difficulties with mine and did not know how to bring it up (I tried talking about things that were bothering me and felt like I...
by BunsenBurn
Wed Oct 07, 2020 10:14 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: I'm having trouble not feeling guilt about my gender.
Replies: 15
Views: 10945

Re: I'm having trouble not feeling guilt about my gender.

The people who say that stuff to me are usually strangers or people I don't really know. However, I do occasionally hear it from female friends, usually when they are venting to me about a bad breakup or interaction or something. I can leave spaces where I don't feel welcome, but it is the "one...
by BunsenBurn
Wed Oct 07, 2020 5:56 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: I'm having trouble not feeling guilt about my gender.
Replies: 15
Views: 10945

Re: I'm having trouble not feeling guilt about my gender.

Sorry, accidentally clicked submit on a draft.
by BunsenBurn
Tue Oct 06, 2020 6:37 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: I'm having trouble not feeling guilt about my gender.
Replies: 15
Views: 10945

Re: I'm having trouble not feeling guilt about my gender.

I feel afraid to talk to the people who say these things about it as it usually comes from a place where they are either punching up, or occasionally venting at me. I am nervous that if I derail a conversation that is mostly positive and about people acting in solidarity or supporting each other wit...
by BunsenBurn
Tue Oct 06, 2020 5:25 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: I'm having trouble not feeling guilt about my gender.
Replies: 15
Views: 10945

Re: I'm having trouble not feeling guilt about my gender.

I feel afraid to talk to the people who say these things about it as it usually comes from a place where they are either punching up, or occasionally venting at me. I am nervous that if I derail a conversation that is mostly positive and about people acting in solidarity or supporting each other wit...
by BunsenBurn
Tue Oct 06, 2020 3:48 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: I'm having trouble not feeling guilt about my gender.
Replies: 15
Views: 10945

I'm having trouble not feeling guilt about my gender.

So, hi everyone. I'm new here. I am here because I've been having a lot of trouble lately. I'm trying to feel good about being male, but I keep feeling guilty. There's a narrative that has been going on for a long time about men just being the worst, and, while I understand on a logical level that i...