I should clarify that the other guy I was dating in college, I was running our relationship like a queer platonic one and he wanted more “romance”, special things that I do only with him, more cuddling, more “feeling special as compared to my or his other friends”. Then he went back to his home coun...

So…I’m 85% sure I’m aromantic as well as asexual. Thinking back on it, my first “crushes” at 5 and 8, were because they helped me with a button on my dress at 5, of that I wanted to see how their hair felt like at 8. When kids on the bus used to tease me in a good natured way about how my “relations...

So it took me until 25 and a lot of trial and error with boys I’ve dated to realize I like romance but not sex. I also at this time don’t even want to get married or even have children. I’m still working on defining a life path for myself that I actually like, and splitting off from my parents by no...

Adding to my previous post, he’s an international student who’s still working on his English. I only speak English. We met through mutual friends who translated back and forth when they saw we were falling in love. There are language barriers for me on the websites people use to communicate in his c...

So my boyfriend is going away to the military. 18 months of little to no contact soon await. I miss him to pieces already and he’s for sure coming back to me. Any ideas on how to pass the time of a long separation? I was thinking of writing him a love letter in my journal every single day. My parent...

So the problem was solved, I just talked to him about it, and we just texted more, dated more and embraced all the feelings and love surrounding us. Now I have an amazing boyfriend, am on the way to getting my own independent life, and everything is okay. New problem: I still don’t feel close to my ...

So…I’m finally dating someone. He’s a guy from college and we’ve been going on dates regularly for 3 months. He is just the sweetest guy, always complimenting me. We’ve fought and always make up like adults in a mature way and talk about our problems. We’re both independent enough to make our own ch...

Thanks for the reminder of different ways of processing bad things that happened. I know that my grandma learned a lot of classical music, likes meditation, dancing, and was close with her family, so it’s nice to remind myself that she healed from the bad stuff that way. How do I communicate with fa...

Watching movies together is a good idea, I’ll try to do that. It’s not that she stops wanting to participate, she participates but she spends like 20-30 minutes sort of bashing the therapist and the process. She’s actually more respectful about the psychiatrist and the medication given to me than th...

So it’s been a month since I messaged V, and I realized this week that I don’t really care about that anymore. I finally have the closure I need, because now I’ve received a diagnosis of generalized anxiety and have really started working on my independence (stopped avoiding becoming independent), w...

So it’s been 2 weeks after I contacted V about P and no response. It took 3 months for him to respond the first time though, so it’s not unusual. But I don’t feel like I need V or P to process and get closure anymore. I guess I am finally at the light at the end of the tunnel in terms of my depressi...

Hi Nicole, Thanks for the long response-it all made sense. I should clarify though, the female friend, I was friends with her all throughout high school. We met in 3rd grade. We also didn’t talk at all for 4 years of college, so your advice still stands-people change a lot in college. I have seen he...

Hi, so I have a small problem again. About a year and a half ago, I made contact again with 2 of my friends, one since elementary school, the other since high school. I kinda started using them as therapists even though I already had one at the time. The female friend knew about my mom’s cancer, var...

There’s not a question here, just processing. Hello, Thanks for the articles, that last one did help and give me a point of view I had not considered before. I remember having conversations with one of my guy friends to the effect of “am I your zucchini”, or something asexual people would use to des...

Taking the whole thing slowly does sound like good advice, thanks! As far as dating goes, I haven’t tried anything yet, I just got my masters and graduated from college :mrgreen: about a month ago, so I’ve been too busy searching for a job to do much on that. I also wasn’t very social in college, it...

Sorry if this is in the wrong section. So about 1.5 years ago I had a depressive/mildly psychotic episode involving sex and relationships, and basically making past romantic encounters and mild crushes more than they were and losing my connection with what actually happened. After therapy, becoming ...

So I've tried a new perfume, new fanfic, new shampoo etc. It's helping and not exactly bad, but not exactly all good. My last crush was just before my mental breakdown and I was having paranoid thoughts about fake relationships and boys that I knew. The thoughts came out of nowhere and were kind of ...

Yeah, the medication is mostly impacting my masturbation. It is kind of a let down since masturbation was one of my self care activities before the mental health scare. I try to take it slow though and be patient like you said, and sometimes it can still end up being pleasurable which is nice. I don...

So a year ago now I had a mental health scare that ended with me on anti psychotic and anti depressant medication. I broke down in front of my family and started screaming and crying etc.-just not a very good look. Since then, I have made a full recovery and been able to get back to school and frien...

Hello, Thanks Sam yes that does make sense. On to my question. Is there a text service/message board service for people with mental health issues? I seem to still have some repressed memories/amnesia that I would like to discuss with a qualified therapist but don't have much proof that they are not ...

So in the past its always been relatively easy to imagine myself as some cool "sex goddess" while I take part in sex fantasies or solo masturbation. But lately it's been really hard to get out of my own head while I'm trying to get in the mood. Either I'm worrying about my physical appeara...

Keeping my expectations low would be a good strategy, thank you. As for how we lost contact, that would be a few months after the stepdad was out of the picture and him and his mom moved into a new apartment. They went to the store for furniture and I happened to be there too. He caught me up on how...

No I haven't raised the question with my therapist yet, mostly because I want to avoid saying or doing anything that might make it seem like those paranoid thoughts are coming back, plus it seemed like a question where the answer was pretty cut and dry, do I want to move on from him or not? Actually...

My ex was very special to me. We had an unconventional relationship mostly because we were friends but he had an abusive stepdad, so I'd always be worried about his safety at home. Our friendship involved tense but ultimately helpful encounters with police and doctors. The main problem is, my parent...

Thanks for the advice-it’s really great!
Yeah I do agree that taking a pause when I notice a fight brewing is something I really need to do.
I will ask my therapist about adjusting my goals to take some pressure off me, I’m a premed so that is also causing a lot of stress.