hi andy and thanks for the answer. what i meant in the first paragraph is that the relationship precluded me from having experiences i could/should have had in order to know how i am supposed to behave and find someone in the realm of dating. i've been told multiple times that when i try to approach...

Hi KierC and thanks for your answer. I've already explained my feelings/approaches to boys and girls and how they differ. the feelings i have for girls seem to be more... authentic? it's also true that i have been in very few relationships. and the thought that i could be bisexual instead of a lesbi...

i've been trying to navigate the world of sexuality and dating after i've left a three-year long distance relationship that has left me unhappy for so many reasons. not only that, but i also feel like an alien now becuase it's like i don't know anything. i've been deprived of what should have been f...

i've been questioning my sexuality a lot lately, previously thinking i was bisexual, and recently came to terms with the option that i may be a lesbian. the problem is that i have a severe lack of experience for my age, therefore i cannot discern too well what i feel. but i know what my sexual and r...

it seldom comes up in conversation, so no worries about that. and yes, i recall that she has talked to me about it, but then again, i can't recall what i said. i'm afraid that i said i was okay with that game. also i fear that all of this is a fake memory, i could be just exaggerating things and twi...

hi sam w and thanks for the answer. i must clarufy that the last instance happened when i was in my mid teens, but from my childhood to then he had harrassed me in various "insignificant" ways, multiple times. and as a kid i knew that the "princess game" was something bad, and i ...

i've talked about what happened to me multiple times but basically i got SA by this guy (B) when i was 14/15, and that wass not the only offense; there were many memories that resurfaced, when we were preteens he SAed me other times but not as "strongly" as that one, just touches/gropes th...

the guilt is from being attracted to men because they are terrible selfish beings, i hate them and yet i am attracted to them. i am deadly scared of them, every day when i leave the house i am painfully aware that i may not return anymore because of a man. that my life could be ruined, permanently s...

what the title says. i'm bisexual and recently i got a crush on a girl in my life. previously i thought i couldn't at all be attracted to women because nearly all my fictional and famous crushes are cis men (whom i don't really like thinking of as women, unlike some people i know) but when i realist...

hi sam, thank you for your answer. yes, this was sort of unexpected even to me, although i've experienced attraction to many other fictional characters. in personality, some were even similar to bandit (from the show bluey; that's who the character is by the way) to answer your question: first of al...

recently a popular animated show that my younger brother watches has come out with a new episode. i've watched it with him, along with some other episodes. the cartoon is about a family of dogs, in an universe where dogs are basically like humans. unbeknown to my brother (and basically everyone) i'v...

yes, i stopped when i felt pain, i only took what i was comfortable with.
and yes, i was reassured because i previously thought nothing at all could be inserted, and it also felt sort of nice at some point?

and thank you for the resources!!

PS: also last night i got aroused enough and could fit a bit more than the first phalange of my middle finger, i even attempted to put another finger in. it hurt but i felt that it was stretching.
at a point it was physically painful but mentally reassuring, in a way? is all of this normal?

hi Sam w, you have also been a big help to me. opening this thread has gradually made me less ashamed of this issue and talking about it. the other day i showed that to my mum with a mirror (we do have the kind of relationship where if there's something wrong or confusing with my vulva i can tell or...

thank you so much for the replies willa and heather.
my main hypothesis for it is indeed a septate hymen, but i can't know for certain until i see a gyno, i'll ask my mother to and from the way we talked about it this morning i can tell she is not against it

hi, i have an update. i inspected myself with the mirror and found that there's a piece of flesh blocking the entrance, and that there seems to be two or three holes instead of one. i don't mean the urethra, i mean that this piece of flesh has two or three openings, of which in the bigger one i can ...

thanks for the answer latha. i'm not sure now if i should pursue the girl, i want both our needs to be met. i need to think about it.

before i get into it: i know there is no rush and things will happen when they are due, but that does not stop me from desiring to begin sexual experience like i would desire to get into a school or go to a place. i have had a crush on this girl for at least a month or so, it is slightly fading thou...

so, with M, things went horribly wrong. he had a clashing political opinion with me which i just couldn't forgive, and he's horribly egocentric and pretentious. also, he says that he thinks dating as a teenager is a waste of time and he prefers to focus on serious things. i don't know whether to fee...

hello, i started reading the article, but it says Some people feel no pain at all, while others, with a thicker vaginal corona, have reported some pains. There may be minor ruptures in the mucous folds that hurt, and sometimes there may be a little bleeding. and that is what i'm afraid of. you say t...

hi scarleteam, here's the sitch. i have crushes on two people at once. one is this girl who i met a few weeks ago (i'll call her F) and we instantly "clicked" in a way? i managed to cuddle with her while watching a movie, we held hands and she did the thumb rub thing, i've kissed her foreh...

i've told my mum about the issue. i told her about trying to finger myself and she said that she can't tell if it's normal or not as she never fingered herself when she was still a virgin. when i told her about the tampons she said it might be wrong insertion and/or inexperience of the first few tim...

so, there's this young man (about 22/23yo) who i met once, we both were with our parents so we all met together. this is important as my mum knows this guy. once on instagram, kind of jokingly, i put a note saying "who wants to model for my art ;)" as my art tends to be artistic nudes with...

no i have not, besides i'm not sure if the gynecologists in my country can do those sorts of exams yet for someone who is still a "virgin". and i'm too ashamed to tell my parents about what's going on, as i can't go to a gyno autonomously

sorry for the late reply. yes, i think that or something similar could work.

if i see him and i'm alone i can easily avoid him, while if i'm with my family i already know how to act.
this reminded me, i'll ask them to warn me whether he'll be present at some occasions so i can avoid him.