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- Sun Sep 22, 2024 4:34 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Lost my virginity recently, does sex always feel this way?
- Replies: 4
- Views: 206
Re: Lost my virginity recently, does sex always feel this way?
Hi Veronica37111, welcome to the boards! I’ve merged your posts to address them together. I can’t say for sure why you didn’t feel pleasure, but you’ve listed a few plausible reasons. The fact that this was your first time and that you didn’t do much foreplay could have contributed to you being tens...
- Sun Sep 22, 2024 4:31 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: can’t cum or didn’t notice???
- Replies: 3
- Views: 224
Re: can’t cum or didn’t notice???
Hi PomPom, Everyone is different, so it would be hard to pinpoint a single explanation — maybe it is difficult for you to feel aroused at the end of a long day, or perhaps something in your environment needs to be changed. You could try again when you’re at home during the day, to see if changing th...
- Sun Sep 22, 2024 4:30 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Unable to cum without toys... how to fix?
- Replies: 1
- Views: 198
Re: Unable to cum without toys... how to fix?
Hello PathLessTaken, welcome to the boards! So, it sounds like you want to experience pleasure from penetration and orgasm without a vibrator — is that right? We can absolutely explore ways to address these concerns, but I wouldn’t necessarily think of them as problems to be fixed. Often, it is bett...
- Sun Sep 22, 2024 3:59 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: ready to date
- Replies: 72
- Views: 2129
Re: ready to date
Hi Sky, Don’t worry, Heather and Sam are very nice people — they may provide advice on your profile, but I can’t imagine them saying that you have no chance. That would be mean, and it is also untrue. It is okay to want reassurance, but do you see how this is an example of negative self talk? You ma...
- Sat Sep 21, 2024 3:06 am
- Forum: Et Cetera
- Topic: guilt and confusion over identity and fearing "fetishization" - how to cope?
- Replies: 8
- Views: 4496
Re: guilt and confusion over identity and fearing "fetishization" - how to cope?
Hi there, Candikelp! Of course, it is okay to respond after a month. You don’t have a deadline, and we are always here. :) I think that trying a new haircut, a binder, and maybe exploring HRT are great steps to consider! You could also explore masculine voice training and the kinds of aesthetics tha...
- Sat Sep 21, 2024 3:01 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: ready to date
- Replies: 72
- Views: 2129
Re: ready to date
Hi Sky! I understand that you had no intention to be transphobic. It isn't disrespectful to be in lesbian/sapphic spaces when you are curious about penises. Since there are sapphic women who have a penis, you may well be able to explore that interest with them. We should only remember that just beca...
- Fri Sep 20, 2024 4:14 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: ready to date
- Replies: 72
- Views: 2129
Re: ready to date
Hi there, Sky When we ask you to focus on yourself, it isn't because you should feel fine being alone. Human beings are social creatures — your desire for connection and support and deeply understandable. Taking the time to care for yourself can help you manage anxiety, and tune out any insecurities...
- Fri Sep 20, 2024 4:14 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: I can’t stop feeling horrible about my fetish
- Replies: 1
- Views: 179
Re: I can’t stop feeling horrible about my fetish
Hi there, Malla_Fluff I'm sorry you're experiencing so much distress, but I'm glad you feel safe talking about a subject that is so personal here. You are not disgusting, you are worthy of love, there is nothing wrong with you, and this will not keep you from finding a loving relationship. I promise...
- Fri Sep 20, 2024 3:35 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Pregnancy risk through hands?!
- Replies: 6
- Views: 336
Re: Pregnancy risk through hands?!
Hi Sandrah, welcome to the boards!
Yes, you are right! There is no chance of pregnancy in the situation that you've described. Sperm cells are pretty delicate, so they can't survive being transferred to your hands and then being exposed to soap and water.
Yes, you are right! There is no chance of pregnancy in the situation that you've described. Sperm cells are pretty delicate, so they can't survive being transferred to your hands and then being exposed to soap and water.
- Sun Sep 15, 2024 4:10 am
- Forum: Sexual Health
- Topic: do I need to switch contraception methods
- Replies: 1
- Views: 173
Re: do I need to switch contraception methods
Hi Sterling, welcome to the boards! I understand this looks like a situation where you have no good options, and that must be really frustrating! You've been on this birth control for a few months, so it is a good time to evaluate whether it is working for you. Before you make changes, you might wan...
- Sun Sep 15, 2024 4:09 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: I accidentally crossed a boundary with my partner, did I assault them?
- Replies: 3
- Views: 394
Re: I accidentally crossed a boundary with my partner, did I assault them?
Hi The17O, welcome to the boards! I'm sorry, it is clear that this has been very distressing for you! For what it is worth, this does not seem like sexual assault to me. You were not showing deliberate disregard for your partner's safety or wellbeing, you just got caught up in the moment and didn't ...
- Sun Sep 15, 2024 4:08 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: ready to date
- Replies: 72
- Views: 2129
Re: ready to date
Hi there, Sky! I think your explanation is clear, and you can certainly frame it this way when you talk to your therapist. I'm just not sure about this idea- if your first time was very pleasurable, why does it mean that you won't feel that good again? As Sam discussed, there is evidence that people...
- Sat Sep 14, 2024 3:10 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: I feel 0% sexual pleasure, fun right?
- Replies: 7
- Views: 466
Re: I feel 0% sexual pleasure, fun right?
Hi Dayriri, So, you do experience arousal, but both clitoral and vaginal stimulation feel neutral or painful. In that case, I wonder if it would help to take a step back from genital pleasure to focus on general bodily pleasure instead. Sometimes developing a better connection to your body can make ...
- Sat Sep 14, 2024 1:58 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: ready to date
- Replies: 72
- Views: 2129
Re: ready to date
Hi Sky, As I understand, you want to explore a sexual/romantic relationship with someone you trust. Of course it makes sense that you want that. I wouldn't say that you can't have what you want, just that you may not be in the right circumstances. I do feel sex is gross like there’s so much exposed ...
- Sat Sep 14, 2024 1:58 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: I can never finish during sex or masturbation and I feel hopeless
- Replies: 1
- Views: 145
Re: I can never finish during sex or masturbation and I feel hopeless
Hi Depressedlol, welcome to the boards! The way you experience your sexuality can change throughout life — just because you're having difficulties experiencing pleasure now, that doesn't mean it will feel this way forever. There is definitely hope. You mentioned that you have read some similar posts...
- Fri Sep 13, 2024 3:26 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: ejaculat on underwear
- Replies: 3
- Views: 217
Re: ejaculat on underwear
Hello Serek, welcome to the boards! I'm sorry you're feeling so stressed - I hope this information will alleviate your concerns. Sperm can't travel through clothes, so you can safely assume that there was no risk in the activity you described. Since you're experiencing your usual PMS symptoms, your ...
- Fri Sep 13, 2024 2:44 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: ready to date
- Replies: 72
- Views: 2129
Re: ready to date
Hi there, Sky Our feelings are important, but they do not always describe reality. Being able to make this distinction is a useful skill — one that can be improved with practice. Is sex wrong and gross, or do you feel like sex is wrong and gross? Do you have nothing to offer a partner, or do you fee...
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- Fri Sep 06, 2024 3:46 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Just inserted one finger in.. now what?
- Replies: 6
- Views: 439
Re: Just inserted one finger in.. now what?
Hello Rain39! Hmmm, I don't think there is an alternative to condoms in the situation that Kier suggested. Lube and condoms are very useful to have on hand when you're exploring sex. Would you like to talk about some ways you might be able to access them without going through your parents? You don't...
- Fri Sep 06, 2024 3:37 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: vaginal irritation after sex.. ouch
- Replies: 4
- Views: 380
Re: vaginal irritation after sex.. ouch
Hi Maxipad101! It is good that you stopped once you were feeling uncomfortable! I think you are on the right track for dealing with that tear- if it isn't bleeding, you can continue to treat it gently until it heals. When you say you know that your partner doesn't have any STIs, is it because both o...
- Fri Sep 06, 2024 3:37 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: How to find balance in Throuple romantic relationships
- Replies: 1
- Views: 196
Re: How to find balance in Throuple romantic relationships
Hello Xiaoge! You're right, it can be really hard to imagine how a new relationship might work if you don't have any examples - this is a common issue for people who are new to polyamory. Thankfully, the skills you need to manage a polyamorous relationship are not all that different from the ones yo...
- Sun Sep 01, 2024 2:55 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: SOS : weird ass fetish!!!
- Replies: 3
- Views: 779
Re: SOS : weird ass fetish!!!
Hello Cy! You might be able to look into your mind or your past and find a reason that explains why you are attracted to periods, but that doesn't always happen. Often, there just isn't an obvious or clear explanation for this sort of thing. There is nothing wrong with your interest, so I'm glad you...
- Sat Aug 31, 2024 2:29 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: How do you masturbate properly
- Replies: 1
- Views: 708
Re: How do you masturbate properly
Hello Vixtor, welcome to the boards! This is a new activity, so it makes sense that it feels strange. I will note that masturbation tends to feel better/less awkward if you try it when you're already aroused. If you would like ideas on what you can try, we have an article about masturbation: Going S...
- Fri Aug 30, 2024 3:32 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: My partner doesn’t like my friends
- Replies: 23
- Views: 1721
Re: My partner doesn’t like my friends
Hello MountainMix, If your girlfriend and Lexi are afraid to speak to Haris, it may be best to have the conversation about limits in different circumstances, like when someone from the office of student apartments is present. For now, do they feel safe in their living situation? Have things simmered...
- Fri Aug 30, 2024 3:23 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: confused about masturbation and it doesnt feel good
- Replies: 5
- Views: 768
Re: confused about masturbation and it doesnt feel good
Hello Sprinkledsugar, welcome to Scarleteen! I promise, there is nothing wrong with you. Yes, many people start exploring masturbation around the age of ten, but that doesn't mean it is abnormal or wrong if you don't masturbate or if masturbation doesn't feel good. Take a look around the boards, you...