Hi Spoken9644- welcome to the boards! Oof, I'm sorry your mother isn't being supportive- I completely understand why you wouldn't want to discuss your sexuality and sexual health with her. But it is great that you are thinking about this on your own. You're at a good age to start visiting a gynecolo...

Hi Mika.m, You're right, you should be able to have sex with consenting partners, you shouldn't feel pressured to marry, and it is unfair and ridiculous that premarital sex carries legal and social risks in Iran. I understand this- premarital sex can carry social risks where I live too The thing is,...

Hi there, DottyContrarian- welcome to the boards! I can completely see how this predicament would be stressful and confusing, but I think you're doing a great job observing yourself to try and understand what you would want. At this point, I think having a little patience, and giving yourself time a...

Hi there, Naive- welcome to the boards! I'm sorry that you're dealing with all these feelings, it seems like such a struggle. Don't worry, you don't need to apologize for your message. If we're ever confused, we'll just ask some clarifying questions. It does seem like your feelings about sex are tie...

Hi Rachel,

I'm glad the article helped! I just want to mention that Sam replied to you in Re: Is the hymen suposed to make you feel good?. Would you read her response and tell us what you think?

Welcome back, Pickledpeanut! I'm so glad Scarleteen has helped you- don't worry, you can still post here. I understand how the prospect of a good relationship could trigger these anxieties about your body, especially with the history that you've described. Let's establish that your worth is independ...

Hi Kamille- welcome to the boards! You're already doing a lot of what we would suggest- focusing on foreplay, making sure you're properly lubricated, and trying different positions. I can totally see why you'd want more options in terms of the latter. If I may ask, have you been able to use sex toys...

Hi there, Rosa! You can try to support your boyfriend, but there is only so much you can do on your own. It may be useful for him to find a therapist- they could give him another perspective, and they would have the tools and expertise to help him manage his anxieties and grief. Do you think your bo...

Hi Rosa, welcome to the boards! I couldn't say exactly why you are feeling this way, but your experience isn't unusual. So many people develop feelings of shame and guilt around sex because of sex-negative messages in the cultures we are raised in. I wonder, what do those feelings of shame and disgu...

Hi again Rachel! i just wish it felt more better Wanting to feel more pleasure from masturbation is not a bad goal- it can keep things fun by motivating you to experiment and try new things. But your expectations should not put pressure on you and shouldn't make masturbation less enjoyable. If you e...

Hi there, BillyRainbowKid- welcome to the boards! Don't worry, this seems healthy and okay. A good rule of thumb for these kinds of questions is that if the behavior in question does not hurt anyone, it is not a problem. As I understand it, this doesn't seem to be hurting you or anyone else, so it d...

Hi Cocomint- welcome to the boards! You are young, but it isn't too early to start exploring masturbation. Of course, it can take some time and experimentation to gain a sense of how your body works and what will feel pleasurable, but I think it is great that you are asking these questions. Difficul...

Hi Rachel 1! I just meant that vaginal orgasms seem better than blended orgasms Because its said to be more pleasureable. Really? I wonder, who said that? Are you sure that is true for everyone? There are a lot of people in the world, and their experiences can be really diverse and different. Instea...

Hi Salafbiz, You deserve the freedom to explore your identity, and I'm sorry you don't have that. Regarding ways to navigate an unsafe environment, how would you feel about exploring ways to gain support and find connections with other LGBTQ people online while keeping people in your life from learn...

Hi Salafbiz, I understand how this would be embarrassing, but don't worry, unwanted erections are not an uncommon experience. Erections can happen when you are stressed, nervous, or afraid, while you sleep, or for no discernable reason at all. Having one does not necessarily mean you want to have se...

Hi Mika.m,

Yes, it is a fairly low-risk activity. Just don't kiss someone if you know that they are sick with something like a cold.

Hi Salafbiz, Oof, I understand how this could be confusing. It does sound like you've experienced attraction to both men and women here, so you could be bisexual. Bisexual people experience attraction to more than one gender- you don't have to feel the same kind and amount of attraction to different...

Hi TristanJPercy, You're right that AFAB people don't have a G spot or similar anatomy in the anus. But sexual pleasure isn't only about what we're physically experiencing- it is heavily influenced by what is happening in our minds. So, not everyone enjoys anal sex, but it can be sexually pleasurabl...

Hi Rachel 1, don't know if I'll ever have a orgasm just from fingering even if im rubbing the g spot or thinking about whatever turns me on Remember that you can also stimulate the clitoris- that might help with reaching orgasm. it seems more better then blended orgasm Oof, I've gotten confused. Wha...

Hi there, TaylorJames. I just wanted to respond because I'm on shift right now. I'm so sorry that you're feeling isolated. If it helps, I think that is a feeling that a lot of LGBTQ people can relate to- many queer people have to make conscious efforts to meet other people like them once they're old...

Hi Carine- welcome to the boards! It isn't unusual to go through periods where orgasms feel different, or less intense. It is hard to say for sure what might be causing this. You're right that it could be due to stress- it might also be caused by hormonal changes, or it could be a sign that you need...

Hi there, Lorelailuv- welcome to the boards! Honestly, this doesn't sound very good- the vibrator has spots, its box wasn't sealed, and you got it for cheap on Amazon. There have been reports of counterfeit and poor-quality sex toys being sold on the website- such toys may not be safe to use. I thin...

Hi there, Blablabla0- welcome to the boards! it wasnt caused by some core memory event as a child or anything, it’s just always been there. Yes, I believe you about that. Our behavioral quirks or fetishes are not necessarily related to anything that happened to us in our lives. i think he hits my ce...

Hi Arghdaq, If I may ask, why do you masturbate when masturbation feels a bit stressful and uninteresting? It is something that you can do, and it is good if it is enjoyable, but you don't have to masturbate. In a sense, have you felt the desire to masturbate on your own, or is this something you fe...

Hi there, Starling1010- welcome to the boards! I'm sorry, this must be so stressful! Though I can't say for sure what is causing this, don't worry, this probably isn't permanent. Plenty of people experience such issues at some point in their lives. Before I ask any questions, may I ask if you've spo...