Hi Arghdaq, If I may ask, why do you masturbate when masturbation feels a bit stressful and uninteresting? It is something that you can do, and it is good if it is enjoyable, but you don't have to masturbate. In a sense, have you felt the desire to masturbate on your own, or is this something you fe...

Hi there, Starling1010- welcome to the boards! I'm sorry, this must be so stressful! Though I can't say for sure what is causing this, don't worry, this probably isn't permanent. Plenty of people experience such issues at some point in their lives. Before I ask any questions, may I ask if you've spo...

Hi TristanJPercy, It's good to hear that you're having fun! To my knowledge, such pain usually lasts a few hours and shouldn't last longer than a few days. Try to avoid having sex until the soreness is gone. You could take a warm bath or use a cold compress on the external parts of your genitals. If...

Hi Rachel 1, We're not mental health professionals, so we can't give out diagnoses or tell you whether your OCD is severe or mild. Do you think you could talk to your therapist about clarifying your diagnosis? You could ask them to make a note of it in your medical records. Do you have a process for...

Hi Rachel 1, Oh, it is so sad to hear that people around you have made such awful comments about your body and about other people. 'Deformed' is a ridiculous and cruel word. You're right, it is rude to talk like that. I think you shouldn't listen to the opinions of people who say such things. I thin...

Hi Rachel 1! is it normal for the nerve endings to make it feel painful at the same time? Yes, I'd say so. I think that if you can experience pleasurable sensations in a certain place, you can also experience pain there. Do many people not know that the vaginal opening has nerve endings and not just...

Hi Rsdd23 I'm sorry this has been causing you so much stress! Don't worry, you cannot get your girlfriend pregnant just by touching her. Not all sexual activities pose risks of pregnancy, and you can mitigate such risks by using birth control, so to manage your fear, you should start by educating yo...

Hi there, Skygotlost- welcome to the boards! I know that this can be a difficult topic, so I'm glad you feel comfortable talking about it here. I see why you're wondering whether this can be considered assault. After all, you knew what you were doing, and you said yes. But consent has to be complete...

Hi Shadow, I think it is a good idea to check in with a doctor about your symptoms- they'll be able to tell you if this is a side effect of a medication or something similar. I don't think it is that unusual for people to go through periods in their lives where they feel less pleasure from masturbat...

Hi Arghdaq, welcome to the boards! That sounds so frustrating! Don't worry, we can think about this together. I want to start by mentioning that we can sometimes have an unrealistic picture of what an orgasm is meant to feel like. Orgasms can deel different from person to person and from time to tim...

Hi Rachel 1 Let me assure you that your genitals cannot be deformed. There are so many ways for a vulva to look, and all of them are good. Indeed, there is nothing wrong with having an outie. Here is a resource for intrusive thoughts. I'm sorry that you've been having difficulties with washing your ...

Hi Croissantu, Yes, that's correct, you do not have to worry about pregnancy. The term irregular periods can describe a few different things, like having unusually light or heavy menstrual flow, missing multiple periods in a row, having periods that last longer than seven days, or having cycles that...

Hi Laayiv, You say you don't know how to internalize something that you know to be true when it contradicts your emotions and previous assumptions. I wonder if there is another way of thinking about this. Depending on what you mean by internalize, you may not have to do that. Let me try to explain. ...

Hi there, Leo I had a great time today at the game night. That's amazing! (Also, I've read your previous posts, and I think you were right about the conclusions you made there.) Should feeling love/affection hurt? I don't mean rejection, which is the way Google keeps addressing it. I mean the emotio...

Hello again, I don't know how to drive. I'm afraid of driving. Well, you don't have to drive- let's think of other ways for you to travel. In my area there are taxi cabs..but I've never been in one before. Do you think it would be a good idea to look into these cabs, to see how much a trip would cos...

Hi there, Dixie112- welcome to the boards!

You could try to use the handle of a hairbrush. Remember that any toy you use should be covered with a condom and have a flared base.

(If you want, here is an article we have about making DIY sex toys.)

Hi Alriune, By DPDR, do you mean depersonalization-derealization disorder? I can't say I know that much about it, but based on what little I've read, I've heard that grounding exercises can be pretty helpful. Here is a list of grounding techniques from r/dpdr. Quite a few of them focus on physical a...

Hi Lexie, I made some first attempts at flirting with him this last week Regardless of how this goes, congratulations on making those first attempts! Maybe he got a hint there. Perhaps he did, though you're right that we can't be sure. Just to clarify, you're looking for a casual relationship with t...

Hi Liamesecat,

Ah, I understand- it can be harder to stay in regular contact when you don't go to the same school, and having a lot of pressure from school can't help.

I'm so glad that you feel comfortable here, and that we've been able to help you!

Hi there, Booknerd! Don't worry about replying late, it is alright. I think if my family found out that I was dating a girl, I think they would be really angry at me and tell me stop talking to them. Oof, that isn't good of them at all. Remember that your safety is a priority. In this situation, you...

Hi Soybun! Don't worry about the late reply, it is alright. If money was not a concern, how would you feel about getting a bra or camisole to wear? On their own, they tend to be less expensive and easier to get than proper breast forms. You could wear them to school, and wear a thick shirt or hoody ...

Hi Rachel 1! You could start by looking into this list of resources for anxiety, and these for OCD ( 1 , 2 ). Are there any specific concerns that you'd like resources for? To quote from that article on squirting: ejaculating isn't orgasm. It can sometimes happen with an orgasm, but it just as commo...

Ah, I just saw your new post. I'm not sure this is the route you'd prefer, but I've been told it can be good to be direct about such things. Saying something along the lines of 'Hey, I remember we talked about a game-night. I was wondering if that invitation is still open- it sounded fun, and your f...

Hi there, On a logical level, I don't mind messing up at all. But emotionally, I'm very afraid. Ah, it is one thing to understand something on a logical level, it is another thing to know and feel it to be true. I feel very different from my peers Let's try to reframe this- I don't think any of this...

Hi RandoVag- welcome to the boards! Since you have a similar problem, I think Sam's advice to Mtrbl might help you. Let us know if you have any questions. Just for future reference, it is okay to reply to people on their posts in this section of the boards, but you can make a new post if you want he...