Hi there, Alex.Idk I'm sorry, I understand that this must be very disappointing since you had a lot of hope, and I wonder if you're feeling a sort of sting that can come from defending an idea, only to find out that you misunderstood something. But being hopeful and having strength of conviction are...

Hi Atacatris, Oh, that would make things clearer. I think trying to get closer to them as a friend is a good idea. If you'd like, we can help you brainstorm ideas on how to do that. For now, I think I'm just going to identify (in my head at least) as gay/lesbian... It is totally okay to use a provis...

Hi there, Kipperstickers- welcome to the boards! You've come to a good place to talk about this kind of thing. Don't worry about rambling or being incoherent- if we have any questions, we'll just ask, and you can do the same for us. I understand how frustrating this lack of clarity around your sexua...

Hi there, Alex.Idk- welcome to the boards! I'm glad you liked our article (was it this one ?), and I'm sorry you've faced such judgment when you've tried to talk about this before. You're right, age disparate relationships are not inherently bad or abusive, and relationships between people of the sa...

Those are good guesses. I wonder, how do you feel about the guy at your school and the complicated situation that you mentioned, now?

Hi there, Medmaniac24 I understand your concern about a possible false positive, but you don't need to take another test because the activities you described posed no risk of pregnancy. That is to say, you can't get pregnant from those activities. FYI, here is the general rule to follow for when you...

Hi Chailover2, Hmmm, try to remember that someone's worth isn't defined by your sense of their achievements. They may value different things than you do, and measure their achievements differently. And people achieve things on their own schedule. It may be that you have more experience than your boy...

Hi Lexie, I see why you're asking this. I can't be sure about the specific kind of relationship that boy from your previous school had with those girls- it may be that they had an understanding about acceptable behavior. Ideally, they did. But that isn't always the case. Sometimes boys can act that ...

Hi there, Atacatris- welcome to the boards! (and oof, I'm sorry that your post got deleted) You know, I understand why you're feeling confused- this is a complicated situation without an obvious answer. If it were simple, you wouldn't need our help. But rest assured, you won't always feel this way. ...

Hmmm, I see... would you talk a bit more about the feeling of dread that you described? Are you afraid that something specific will happen? Two things: How would you feel about (a) exploring more non-sexual pleasurable touch with your girlfriend, like asking her to try to give you a massage, and (b)...

Hi there, FlamboyantGuy! I don't think you're being petty at all. Using them/them pronouns is still misgendering you- you told them that you are a man and you want them to use he/him. I'm sorry your parents are disregarding your wishes. I wonder how you'd feel about trying to be a bit strategic abou...

Hi there, Kilasm- welcome to the boards! Don't worry, there is no risk of pregnancy from the situation you described. Sperm can't move through clothes like that. Before we think about your second question, I'd like to discuss some anatomy- just to make sure we're on the same page. This is a diagram ...

Hi there, AlexMaisx- welcome to the boards! Oof, that does sound pretty confusing. But it is great that you have such a good relationship with your partner! I think it is understandable that you would feel some dread after having a painful experience, but this won't last forever. If I may ask, what ...

Hi Rachel 1! Don't worry, you're not being selfish or an asshole, and it is good that you have a sense of what does feel nice. Before we discuss anything here, could I direct you back to the response I gave you yesterday in this thread? I asked some questions there, and I really think it could be he...

Hi Rachel 1, Hmmm, I see why you had difficulties googling this- I couldn't say how many sensory nerve endings the vagina has. Research on the nerve endings of the clitoris is relatively recent, and this is an ongoing area of study. I imagine the scientists who study this will get back to us at some...

Hi there, Blythe- welcome to the boards! I understand why you're concerned about this, but I think you have the right approach. It is normal for him to be interested in sex, and try to explore that interest in media. Porn isn't bad, but it can be produced and distributed unethically, and it can prom...

Hi there, Ash51- welcome to the boards!

You can trust the doctor you spoke to- there isn't any risk of pregnancy in this situation. EC is indeed less effective during ovulation, but you don't have to worry about that here.

Hi there Luke Let me assure you, you can feel very confident that your girlfriend is not pregnant. I would feel very confident if I was in your situation. I can't say that withdrawal would significantly help here- given that your girlfriend has had a tubal ligation and she gets Depo Provera, the ris...

Hi there, Lexie

Oof, I can see why you wouldn't want to approach him in those situations, but I think you're right that you have an opportunity now. Remember, you're just trying to get to know this guy and see whether you might be compatible.

Good luck!

Hi there, Terence In case you haven't seen it already, here is an article of ours that may be useful here: D.I.Y Sex Toys: Self-Love Edition . Hmmm, I see how it could be difficult to find or make toys when you're worried your parents might notice something. Of course, there is nothing wrong with ma...

Hi TristanJPercy, Ah, I see- so, going back to the advice column that Sam mentioned, do any of the solutions listed there seem helpful? Some people find that physical activity helps arousal fade more quickly, so if that's something you're up for, that could be worth a try. It doesn't have to be inte...

Hi there, Terence- yes, that's basically it.

Hi Dansktop Since your periods were pretty regular, I think an imperforate hymen is unlikely (though I'm not a doctor to say for sure). It is good that you haven't experienced too many difficulties with vaginal atrophy- perhaps you could still experiment with some vaginal moisturizer or water-based ...

Hi Nadia91, I'm glad you found what Andy said to be useful! Yes, there are many people in the world who have similar concerns to you. And the people who come here tend to be younger, but there are plenty of people at your age who struggle with these things as well. Also, you've said it yourself- you...

Hi there, Alriune! I didn't notice this question when I was on shift yesterday- my apologies. And it isn't strange to ask, don't worry. I can't think of an explanation for why your specific experience was the way it was, though I understand that it isn't uncommon. Our sexualities are influenced by a...