Hi SillyMcGoof, I'm sorry the bottom dysphoria has been bad! You're right that going on T could help with that- even though it will take some time before you can get hormones, do you want any help finding a therapist? I understand how this could be a difficult topic to bring up with your parents. Si...

Hi there, naurmi Yikes, that sort of sex-negative messaging can make these sorts of worries so much worse. Don't worry, you don't need EC- as Sam said, what you've described is indirect contact. In an ideal world, I could encourage you to report without reservation, but unfortunately, we don't live ...

Hi Jay! Ah, that's an understandable concern. The thing is, you can't read your partner's mind, and you shouldn't expect yourself to. What you can do is what you've already been doing- taking the time to communicate and check-in, and respecting her wishes if she isn't in the mood or is uncomfortable...

Hi there, Jay27 Just in case, I want to point out that you don't have to do certain activities (like having your partner go down on you or put things inside of you) if they're uncomfortable. If you get more consistent pleasure from activities like kissing, you can simply focus on that. I was wonderi...

Hi there, Jay27! As I understand, it depends on factors like the subject of your anxiety, how justified the concern is, how prepared you are to handle what could happen, and how comfortable you feel in managing your anxiety. Feeling super anxious about sex when you feel that way about everything is ...

Hi there, Serephena72- welcome to the boards! Don't worry about your explanation, it's alright. It can be weird/embarrassing to discuss topics like this, but don't worry, we won't judge you here. There are a couple of different things I want to respond to here, and I do have some questions to unders...

Hi again, Yohanz I'm sorry, but as Sam said, we can't keep having this kind of conversation- it isn't good for your anxiety. The answer will not change no matter how many times you ask- you already have the facts that you need there. We can discuss some of the other things listed in Sam's last respo...

Hi there, Mari- welcome to the boards! If I may ask, what about questioning these labels makes you feel distressed? Is it something about the uncertainty, perhaps? It makes sense that you're having difficulties differentiating between romantic and platonic attraction- there isn't really an obvious d...

thanks for replying is there really no chance? my anxiety won't go away because I'm afraid she might get similar symptoms to pregnancy. Yes, there really is no chance. my fingers only reached the vaginal opening and did not enter the vaginal canal Ah, so it is more important to think about whether ...

Hi there, flugame! What you've said makes sense, don't worry. Since those first fantasies make you so uncomfortable and scared, I do think it is a good plan to step back a bit and try to focus on other fantasies and ways of experiencing pleasure. As I understand, it isn't unusual that you can't alwa...

Hi there, Yohanz- welcome to the boards! You're right that it is incredibly unlikely that this caused pregnancy- in fact, I'd go ahead and say that there is no chance that your girlfriend is pregnant. In order for pregnancy to be a risk, there has to be direct genital-to-genital contact between some...

Pleased to help! Feel free to ask if you have other questions.

Hi Lightupthestage! I have seen your question, but I couldn't get to it during my shift- someone will get to you during the next shift!

Hi doorknobby22 Glad to hear that those articles were helpful! Honestly, plenty of people go through the same thought process that you did, so you don't need to feel embarrassed. As Heather mentioned, it isn't unusual for periods to be a bit late (or early) sometimes, especially within the first few...

Hi there, Flinn- welcome to the boards!

If you don't mind, I want to ask a few questions, just to make sure I understand your situation- does the pain start after you've masturbated? How long does it last? And, why do you think you have a porn addiction?

Hi there, awcryinqq Dry humping like that doesn't pose a risk of pregnancy, so you don't need to worry. It isn't unusual for periods to be a few days late from time to time. If you'd like to learn more about the pregnancy risks associated with different activities, check out this article: Can I Get ...

Hi there, Henry- welcome to the boards! I can see that you really want to find a romantic partner- honestly, that's sweet. It isn't impossible to have a loving relationship at your age, but you're right that some things can make it difficult. It can take time to find someone you like, and for love a...

Hi there, Rivverrstyx66- welcome to the boards!

Don't worry, you haven't done anything wrong. I'm not sure of the answer to your question, so I'll ask the next person on shift to take a look at this- sorry!

Hi there, Pretarius- welcome to the boards! I'm glad your diagnosis gave you the language you needed <3 You know, the first thing I want to say is: nobody should feel like there's no place for making mistakes in sex. As with everything in life that isn't perfectly choreographed and practiced beforeh...

Hi Jay27, You should be believed and respected- I'm sorry it hasn't been that way! Doctors and nurses really have no business judging you for such things, though it happens all too often. Fingers crossed that it will go better with the new doctor! Yes, back pain could be due to things like position....

Hi there, coolapples4! Often, lube is still useful for people who produce natural lubrication. For one, not everyone's vagina will always lubricate enough for certain activities, or lubricate the same way all the time- but also, it can just feel nice to have more lube even if someone technically mak...

Hi there, Jay27! Here's how I understand it: having some degree of pain/cramping (along with other symptoms like nausea and fatigue) during one's period is normal and common- experiencing those things doesn't necessarily mean that anything is wrong. That said, these symptoms can still be difficult a...

Hi there, Perton- welcome to the boards! While it is true that some lifestyle factors can impact your periods, I don't think you caused your period to go away by masturbating (because masturbation can't impact your periods like that) or otherwise. If you haven't already done so, it may help to take ...

Hi Meleep,

I wonder if you're having difficulties masturbating at night because you're physically tired- do you think it could help to try to masturbate in the morning after you wake up?

To throw another idea out there, do you think this disconnect could be due to dysphoria?

Hello Sky! Ah, that's unfortunate- these services really need to be more accessible. About the guy you have a crush on: I can see why that would make you trust him, and I think that is a good basis for a provisional trust. The thing is, abusive people don't always treat everyone around them in the s...