Hi there, Mari- welcome to the boards! If I may ask, what about questioning these labels makes you feel distressed? Is it something about the uncertainty, perhaps? It makes sense that you're having difficulties differentiating between romantic and platonic attraction- there isn't really an obvious d...

thanks for replying is there really no chance? my anxiety won't go away because I'm afraid she might get similar symptoms to pregnancy. Yes, there really is no chance. my fingers only reached the vaginal opening and did not enter the vaginal canal Ah, so it is more important to think about whether ...

Hi there, flugame! What you've said makes sense, don't worry. Since those first fantasies make you so uncomfortable and scared, I do think it is a good plan to step back a bit and try to focus on other fantasies and ways of experiencing pleasure. As I understand, it isn't unusual that you can't alwa...

Hi there, Yohanz- welcome to the boards! You're right that it is incredibly unlikely that this caused pregnancy- in fact, I'd go ahead and say that there is no chance that your girlfriend is pregnant. In order for pregnancy to be a risk, there has to be direct genital-to-genital contact between some...

Pleased to help! Feel free to ask if you have other questions.

Hi Lightupthestage! I have seen your question, but I couldn't get to it during my shift- someone will get to you during the next shift!

Hi doorknobby22 Glad to hear that those articles were helpful! Honestly, plenty of people go through the same thought process that you did, so you don't need to feel embarrassed. As Heather mentioned, it isn't unusual for periods to be a bit late (or early) sometimes, especially within the first few...

Hi there, Flinn- welcome to the boards!

If you don't mind, I want to ask a few questions, just to make sure I understand your situation- does the pain start after you've masturbated? How long does it last? And, why do you think you have a porn addiction?

Hi there, awcryinqq Dry humping like that doesn't pose a risk of pregnancy, so you don't need to worry. It isn't unusual for periods to be a few days late from time to time. If you'd like to learn more about the pregnancy risks associated with different activities, check out this article: Can I Get ...

Hi there, Henry- welcome to the boards! I can see that you really want to find a romantic partner- honestly, that's sweet. It isn't impossible to have a loving relationship at your age, but you're right that some things can make it difficult. It can take time to find someone you like, and for love a...

Hi there, Rivverrstyx66- welcome to the boards!

Don't worry, you haven't done anything wrong. I'm not sure of the answer to your question, so I'll ask the next person on shift to take a look at this- sorry!

Hi there, Pretarius- welcome to the boards! I'm glad your diagnosis gave you the language you needed <3 You know, the first thing I want to say is: nobody should feel like there's no place for making mistakes in sex. As with everything in life that isn't perfectly choreographed and practiced beforeh...

Hi Jay27, You should be believed and respected- I'm sorry it hasn't been that way! Doctors and nurses really have no business judging you for such things, though it happens all too often. Fingers crossed that it will go better with the new doctor! Yes, back pain could be due to things like position....

Hi there, coolapples4! Often, lube is still useful for people who produce natural lubrication. For one, not everyone's vagina will always lubricate enough for certain activities, or lubricate the same way all the time- but also, it can just feel nice to have more lube even if someone technically mak...

Hi there, Jay27! Here's how I understand it: having some degree of pain/cramping (along with other symptoms like nausea and fatigue) during one's period is normal and common- experiencing those things doesn't necessarily mean that anything is wrong. That said, these symptoms can still be difficult a...

Hi there, Perton- welcome to the boards! While it is true that some lifestyle factors can impact your periods, I don't think you caused your period to go away by masturbating (because masturbation can't impact your periods like that) or otherwise. If you haven't already done so, it may help to take ...

Hi Meleep,

I wonder if you're having difficulties masturbating at night because you're physically tired- do you think it could help to try to masturbate in the morning after you wake up?

To throw another idea out there, do you think this disconnect could be due to dysphoria?

Hello Sky! Ah, that's unfortunate- these services really need to be more accessible. About the guy you have a crush on: I can see why that would make you trust him, and I think that is a good basis for a provisional trust. The thing is, abusive people don't always treat everyone around them in the s...

Hi there, Berkeley2005! It's great that telling your loved one went well! If you don't mind me asking, what is it exactly about the possibility of having vocal dysphoria that is frightening to you? Is it linked to what you mentioned about feeling overwhelmed and wanting to avoid your situation regar...

The first situation would be direct genital contact with semen, so yes, that's risky. But in the other situation, there isn't really a risk for the residue/trace you described, so you don't have to worry. And as Michaela mentioned, washing one's hands is a good idea in general- if he washes his hand...

Hi Naurmi! Ah, by that you mean vaginal intercourse where they ejaculate inside, right? Not exactly. That is an activity that is more likely to cause pregnancy if someone doesn't use contraceptives/practice safer sex, but there are other activities that pose less risk of pregnancy, but not no risk ....

Hi again, sky! 1. I understand why you feel 'broken and used', but I hope you know that you're not worth any less for what happened. 2. I'm not sure I have all the context for the herpes/psoriasis situation, but when you say that it wasn't confirmed, did you get tested? Getting tested for herpes mig...

Hi there, Lande! Honestly, those are all understandable reasons for going to the gynecologist- still, it is important to get the healthcare you need. It's true that doctors' offices can be a bit cis/heteronormative- I wonder, would you be willing to come out if you found a progressive and respectful...

Hi there, swimminginspace! We haven't forgotten your post, we're just waiting to see if someone on the boards with similar experiences might chime in. (These are complicated feelings, but they are not necessarily too much to give advice for- we can always address some parts, at least. How does that ...

The thoughts that you described- assuming the worst of yourself and searching for things that prove you're a bad person and want to hurt people- sound very stressful. Have you ever sought out mental health support for that kind of thing? Would you want to? If you do, maybe we could help you find it.