Hi there, Berkeley2005! It's great that telling your loved one went well! If you don't mind me asking, what is it exactly about the possibility of having vocal dysphoria that is frightening to you? Is it linked to what you mentioned about feeling overwhelmed and wanting to avoid your situation regar...

The first situation would be direct genital contact with semen, so yes, that's risky. But in the other situation, there isn't really a risk for the residue/trace you described, so you don't have to worry. And as Michaela mentioned, washing one's hands is a good idea in general- if he washes his hand...

Hi Naurmi! Ah, by that you mean vaginal intercourse where they ejaculate inside, right? Not exactly. That is an activity that is more likely to cause pregnancy if someone doesn't use contraceptives/practice safer sex, but there are other activities that pose less risk of pregnancy, but not no risk ....

Hi again, sky! 1. I understand why you feel 'broken and used', but I hope you know that you're not worth any less for what happened. 2. I'm not sure I have all the context for the herpes/psoriasis situation, but when you say that it wasn't confirmed, did you get tested? Getting tested for herpes mig...

Hi there, Lande! Honestly, those are all understandable reasons for going to the gynecologist- still, it is important to get the healthcare you need. It's true that doctors' offices can be a bit cis/heteronormative- I wonder, would you be willing to come out if you found a progressive and respectful...

Hi there, swimminginspace! We haven't forgotten your post, we're just waiting to see if someone on the boards with similar experiences might chime in. (These are complicated feelings, but they are not necessarily too much to give advice for- we can always address some parts, at least. How does that ...

The thoughts that you described- assuming the worst of yourself and searching for things that prove you're a bad person and want to hurt people- sound very stressful. Have you ever sought out mental health support for that kind of thing? Would you want to? If you do, maybe we could help you find it.

Hi there, welcome to the boards! I think dating apps might be a good place to start here! There are also online communities that you could join to meet people in general, if you would like. It is possible that you might end up interacting with some creepy or rude people, but the good thing online is...

Hi there, Hi! I don't think this makes you a pedophile or a bad person. For one, you said it yourself, you weren't really interested in Stewie anyway. Too, I think it can be useful to remember that we can have fantasies/feel attracted to things that we wouldn't actually want in real life- our minds ...

Hi there CrazyBonobo- welcome to the boards! Honestly, I don't think you need to see a specialist for this because I don't think there is a problem to fix. Feeling attraction to people's bodies is not gross or a slippery slope to dehumanization and violence- it is a normal and fairly common way of e...

Hi again, LightUpTheStage Oof, my bad with that explanation- yes, I didn't mean to call kinks unreasonable. Sometimes, when people use the word 'fetish', it feels to me like they are implying that some interest or kink is just too weird or bad. I didn't think that was necessarily what you meant, but...

Hi there, cxxxxxxxz- welcome to the boards! It seems like you have a good understanding of the evidence that you're not pregnant- you haven't had any symptoms, and your pregnancy test was negative. I want to add that the activities you did with your boyfriend don't pose a risk of pregnancy. (You can...

Hello again, pinkheartsss0 :D You know, it really is understandable that you feel uncomfortable with your family arguing or yelling like that- it doesn't seem like a good way to manage conflict. Let me assure you that it isn't inevitable that you'll act the same way when you're older. It is possible...

Hi there, Vin789 Let me touch back on Sam's question about different types of masturbation- I wonder if trying new ways of masturbating might help you. Here is a list of things you could try that I borrowed from this article : People may and do stimulate the penis, scrotum, perineum, and/or anus: Wi...

Hi there, learning3545 It is fairly common for SA survivors to have incomplete memories of what happened- it is still SA, even if you don't remember that much. I don't think your mother is right to just dismiss your experiences like that- healing takes time and isn't always linear. There isn't a sch...

I promise you that it is true, though I understand it being difficult to believe. Try to remind yourself of this whenever you catch yourself thinking such things- it will get easier to believe with time. I can see why it could feel intimidating to talk to someone about these kinds of boundaries- wou...

Hi there, learning3545- welcome to the boards! Okay, It isn't wrong to sext, but unfortunately, it may be illegal- I think it is, in Pennsylvania. I'm sorry, I can't suggest ways to help you with this specific problem. If you still have any nudes from your partner, you should probably delete them. B...

Hello mementomori, You know, a lot of the experience of pleasure is about what happens in your head. It might help if your mind is fully engaged with what you're doing, through things like fantasies, or focusing on how different sensations feel. If you'd like, you could check out this article: How t...

Hello there, lightupthestage! I think your explanation was fine, don't worry Regarding the 'do I want her or do I want to be her' question- this isn't always easy to answer, definitely. Two things come to mind about this: firstly, it is possible to both like someone, and want to emulate their style-...

Hi there, jmonet! Glad you liked the articles! Getting a check-up once in a while is a good idea in general anyway. I believe you about the pain, and it absolutely shouldn't hurt like that. Being relaxed should help, and so should taking your time. Good luck with finding a solution! Let us know if y...

Hello there, golden&lab Oh no, there isn't anything wrong with you. The time you take to orgasm while watching lesbian porn is not the litmus test for whether you are attracted to women. Really, I don't think - being able to orgasm in the same time or quicker - is a very good benchmark anyway. I...

Hi there, welcome to the boards! This sounds like something you should seek medical attention about, honestly- it's great that it is hurting less, but a doctor could make sure it heals properly. Try your best not to itch the injury. Do you think you can see a gynecologist or go to urgent care? It is...

Hi there, sof_ia44! Yeah, certainty can feel much easier and more reassuring. But this back-and-forth you're experiencing is fairly common. Our sexualities can be complicated, and the answers aren't always obvious. It is okay to be unsure. Some good ways to connect with more queer people in real lif...

Hi there, sky! Thanks for waiting! About platonic friendships- there are definitely different perspectives on what those can be/what people in platonic relationships can do together. We do have some content about such relationships on the site- you can find it by searching for some variant of 'plato...

Hi there, froggy style- welcome to the boards! So many people come here with this question- in fact, I just answered another right now. I wish there was a simple, straightforward set of instructions I could give you to help you. While I can't do that, don't worry- patience and some trial and error u...