Hi there, MusicNerd!

Oof, this is a delicate situation. Since things still feel awkward, how do you feel about having another conversation with her- you can ask her if she's uncomfortable, and reassure her that you did not mean to hurt her.

Hi there, Heybulldog I know it can be difficult to just stop worrying about this kind of thing. Keep reminding yourself of the facts when these thoughts come up, and be patient with yourself. It's great that you're seeking help! With time and support from things like therapy and medication, this wil...

Hi there, Jay27! Your friend was probably trying to be helpful, but I can definitely see how that wouldn't be reassuring at all! Sometimes you need practical advice more than platitudes. Ultimately, it doesn't matter whether you've gone to parties, drank alcohol, dated, or had sex, so I wouldn't say...

Hi there, Naurmi I'm sorry that your mother doesn't believe you! If fact, even if you had done something that could pose a risk of pregnancy, I still don't think getting angry would be the best reaction. This relationship seems like an important source of comfort and support for you, so I really hop...

Hey there, Nimrie- welcome to the boards! It's possible that you could be pregnant- even if your boyfriend didn't ejaculate, rubbing genitals together presents a moderate risk of pregnancy. Don't worry, this will be fine. Since it has been less than 120 hours since you had sex, go ahead and take Pla...

I totally understand how that would feel embarrassing!

(All the same, doctors see all sorts of cases, and they should treat you professionally no matter what you come to them with. Just... don't let that stop you from going to the doctor if it's ever necessary.)

Hi there, welcome to the boards! All of this does seem like such an exhausting nightmare- I'm glad you felt you could talk about it here. I think you have a strong understanding of why you can't be pregnant, but if it will help, let me reassure you with complete confidence: there is no way you could...

Hi there, Jay

Fingers crossed for you to get the accommodations you need easily! Would you feel more comfortable getting a pelvic exam if you were familiar with the doctor?

Hi there, MistahCFS! I wouldn't say that PIV sex is only useful if you want to start a family. People with vulvas do tend to find clitoral stimulation more pleasurable than vaginal stimulation alone, but that doesn't mean that the latter doesn't feel good at all. For one, PIV sex can stimulate the i...

Hi there, SillyMcGoof! I think this is one of those things that works for some people but not for others. Using vegetable oils as lube may cause infections in people with sensitive skin and might trap bacteria in the vagina- this can depend on the type of oil or how it has been processed. Give it so...

Hi there, Jay27 I'm sorry that the examination went so poorly- pelvic exams definitely shouldn't hurt like that! I think you're right that your past experiences in a medical setting combined with the fact that you were with a new doctor could have caused it. Fortunately, there are several things you...

Hi Felipe! I think some of the things said in the article can help straight people as well, like the advice about rejecting negative messages and accepting yourself. But you're right that people really need more empathy. I want to touch back on what Sam was saying earlier- I know it can be difficult...

Hi there, Artimisskz- welcome to the boards! Oh yes, that's very normal. It isn't unusual for people to find that vaginal stimulation doesn't feel all that interesting, because the vagina doesn't actually have that many nerve endings, especially past the first third or so. People with vaginas tend t...

Hi Suomi! No no, the situation isn't difficult for us at all- really, you're the one who has to deal with it. As I see it, the circumstances are what they are, and we just have to think around them- that's no trouble for us. If I may ask, what kind of accommodations are you looking for? Do you think...

Hi there, Luigi, welcome to the boards! 1. I think you can go ahead and trust the results of those two negative pregnancy tests- your girlfriend isn't pregnant. 2. Some bleeding/spotting after taking EC is fairly common- I think you can think of it as a mini period of sorts. Her period being a bit l...

Hi there, Suomi! I'm jumping in because I'm on shift, I hope you don't mind. Honestly, at minimum, you should be able to rely on the adults in your life for protection from this, and it is awful that you can't. I do think that the things you've already tried to avoid being around this person are qui...

Hi there, Brandii I'm sorry you had to hear that kind of thing! While some religious people do believe that masturbation is sinful, many others don't- for them, masturbation doesn't weaken their faith or their relationship with God. We here at Scarleteen agree with the latter. If someone wants to ma...

Hi there, Axi Mind I think that even if there is some risk involved, it can still be useful to seek mental health care, as it can help us learn how to handle risky situations well, and manage stress. It may take some time to find a good counselor, but I believe therapy can be helpful with the kinds ...

Hi again, Axi Mind! Yes, we can definitely tell you that there was no pregnancy risk. No matter what happens, the risk from the incident you described will not change. Sometimes periods arrive a little late or early, so I don't think that is anything to worry about. Don't worry about bothering us- t...

Hi there, Becca- welcome to the boards! We can definitely talk about ways to make masturbation more pleasurable, but I want to let it be known that you don't have to masturbate if it isn't something you're interested in doing. In fact, it isn't something you ever have to do. Masturbation tends to fe...

Hi cinnamongrl- welcome to the boards! I wouldn't say there's anything 'wrong' with you- sometimes these things happen. It's true that being turned on generally helps with self-lubrication, but many other factors can affect how wet one gets. People often find that their levels of wetness fluctuate t...

Hi there, Axi Mind- welcome to the boards! Don't worry, there is no chance your girlfriend got pregnant in this situation. She got her period, which wouldn't happen if she was pregnant. Also, you were both clothed. Her constipation is probably caused by something else. Check out this article if you'...

Hi there, ItsJessica712- welcome to the boards! Don't worry, you'll be able to find it. I've put in a diagram of the vulva below for reference- if you place your hand on your mons (the upper part of your vulva where most of your public hair is) and move it downwards, you should find out outer labia....

Hi there, CatMatRat99! The foreskin should be pulled back enough to reveal the glans/head of the penis.



This usually gets easier over time. Do you experience any pain when you try to retract it?

Hi there, naurmi008! Yes, we do have resources for that. Check out this article: You're Not Pregnant. Why Do You Think You Are?

Be patient with yourself, it isn't always easy to just stop worrying about something. I hope this helps!