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by Latha
Fri Jul 07, 2023 10:27 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Kinks
Replies: 4
Views: 6444

Re: Kinks

Hi there, CatMatRat!

I think with any kink, it is important to make sure both participants are safe and can give informed consent. As you may know, even BDSM can be unsafe if it isn't practiced properly. Does that make sense?
by Latha
Fri Jul 07, 2023 2:34 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Resources for practicing safe sadomasochism?
Replies: 1
Views: 7400

Re: Resources for practicing safe sadomasochism?

Hi there, Brungerbulb! Yikes indeed, but that's what we're here for- if you feel comfortable, you could pass this article along to your brother. I'm glad you've found this website to be helpful! : D You're right, it can be a bit difficult to find this kind of information if you don't know where to l...
by Latha
Sun Jul 02, 2023 3:32 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Lubricant stuff
Replies: 7
Views: 10193

Re: Lubricant stuff

Hello! Not necessarily- just wash the lube off if you experience any burning, itching, or redness- in all likelihood, they'll go away on their own in some time. You might need to see a doctor if there's no sign of the irritation getting better after a day or so, or if it's painful. Actually, before ...
by Latha
Sun Jul 02, 2023 2:43 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: feeling sexually frustrated on my period [vent][tmi]
Replies: 11
Views: 141386

Re: feeling sexually frustrated on my period [vent][tmi]

Honestly, it seems like you're having an awful time, and it makes sense that you're so exhausted by it all. You're right, there isn't a simple solution for your situation- if there was, I imagine you'd have found it already. It sounds like your periods are generally difficult, given that they feel h...
by Latha
Sat Jul 01, 2023 11:45 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Feeling proud of myself
Replies: 1
Views: 4662

Re: Feeling proud of myself

Congratulations, that's great!
by Latha
Sat Jul 01, 2023 3:48 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Lesbian or Bi???
Replies: 2
Views: 10710

Re: Lesbian or Bi???

Hi there, Sofia! Honestly, that does sound like it would be annoying and confusing- what you're saying makes sense. I can't tell you for sure what your sexuality is, because that's something you get to define for yourself, but I can give you my thoughts- I hope they may offer you some comfort. You'r...
by Latha
Sat Jul 01, 2023 2:11 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Weird lump around anal opening?
Replies: 3
Views: 3847

Re: Weird lump around anal opening?

Hey, that's alright- we answer questions about health as well. It's good that you can see a doctor about this, they should be able to tell you what the lump is with certainty.
by Latha
Wed Jun 28, 2023 2:54 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Miscommunication
Replies: 3
Views: 2465

Re: Miscommunication

Hi there, MusicNerd!

Oof, this is a delicate situation. Since things still feel awkward, how do you feel about having another conversation with her- you can ask her if she's uncomfortable, and reassure her that you did not mean to hurt her.
by Latha
Wed Jun 28, 2023 2:41 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: sperm
Replies: 5
Views: 3407

Re: sperm

Hi there, Heybulldog I know it can be difficult to just stop worrying about this kind of thing. Keep reminding yourself of the facts when these thoughts come up, and be patient with yourself. It's great that you're seeking help! With time and support from things like therapy and medication, this wil...
by Latha
Sun Jun 25, 2023 7:06 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: I feel weird about having relationship anxiety
Replies: 12
Views: 15184

Re: I feel weird about having relationship anxiety

Hi there, Jay27! Your friend was probably trying to be helpful, but I can definitely see how that wouldn't be reassuring at all! Sometimes you need practical advice more than platitudes. Ultimately, it doesn't matter whether you've gone to parties, drank alcohol, dated, or had sex, so I wouldn't say...
by Latha
Sun Jun 25, 2023 6:09 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Should I break up with my bf?
Replies: 6
Views: 5995

Re: Should I break up with my bf?

Hi there, Naurmi I'm sorry that your mother doesn't believe you! If fact, even if you had done something that could pose a risk of pregnancy, I still don't think getting angry would be the best reaction. This relationship seems like an important source of comfort and support for you, so I really hop...
by Latha
Sun Jun 25, 2023 2:02 am
Forum: Pregnancy and Parenting
Topic: Could I be pregnant?
Replies: 1
Views: 6940

Re: Could I be pregnant?

Hey there, Nimrie- welcome to the boards! It's possible that you could be pregnant- even if your boyfriend didn't ejaculate, rubbing genitals together presents a moderate risk of pregnancy. Don't worry, this will be fine. Since it has been less than 120 hours since you had sex, go ahead and take Pla...
by Latha
Fri Jun 23, 2023 8:20 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: i used vegetable oil as lube, will i be ok?
Replies: 6
Views: 8794

Re: i used vegetable oil as lube, will i be ok?

I totally understand how that would feel embarrassing!

(All the same, doctors see all sorts of cases, and they should treat you professionally no matter what you come to them with. Just... don't let that stop you from going to the doctor if it's ever necessary.)
by Latha
Fri Jun 23, 2023 8:15 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Could I be pregnant?
Replies: 1
Views: 1284

Re: Could I be pregnant?

Hi there, welcome to the boards! All of this does seem like such an exhausting nightmare- I'm glad you felt you could talk about it here. I think you have a strong understanding of why you can't be pregnant, but if it will help, let me reassure you with complete confidence: there is no way you could...
by Latha
Fri Jun 23, 2023 7:47 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex is painless, so why did my pelvic exam hurt so bad?
Replies: 10
Views: 17411

Re: Sex is painless, so why did my pelvic exam hurt so bad?

Hi there, Jay

Fingers crossed for you to get the accommodations you need easily! Would you feel more comfortable getting a pelvic exam if you were familiar with the doctor?
by Latha
Fri Jun 23, 2023 7:38 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Confusion about PIV...
Replies: 15
Views: 18215

Re: Confusion about PIV...

Hi there, MistahCFS! I wouldn't say that PIV sex is only useful if you want to start a family. People with vulvas do tend to find clitoral stimulation more pleasurable than vaginal stimulation alone, but that doesn't mean that the latter doesn't feel good at all. For one, PIV sex can stimulate the i...
by Latha
Fri Jun 23, 2023 2:29 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: i used vegetable oil as lube, will i be ok?
Replies: 6
Views: 8794

Re: i used vegetable oil as lube, will i be ok?

Hi there, SillyMcGoof! I think this is one of those things that works for some people but not for others. Using vegetable oils as lube may cause infections in people with sensitive skin and might trap bacteria in the vagina- this can depend on the type of oil or how it has been processed. Give it so...
by Latha
Wed Jun 21, 2023 4:19 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex is painless, so why did my pelvic exam hurt so bad?
Replies: 10
Views: 17411

Re: Sex is painless, so why did my pelvic exam hurt so bad?

Hi there, Jay27 I'm sorry that the examination went so poorly- pelvic exams definitely shouldn't hurt like that! I think you're right that your past experiences in a medical setting combined with the fact that you were with a new doctor could have caused it. Fortunately, there are several things you...
by Latha
Wed Jun 21, 2023 3:41 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Should I look for a sex worker to lose my virginity?
Replies: 16
Views: 11562

Re: Should I look for a sex worker to lose my virginity?

Hi Felipe! I think some of the things said in the article can help straight people as well, like the advice about rejecting negative messages and accepting yourself. But you're right that people really need more empathy. I want to touch back on what Sam was saying earlier- I know it can be difficult...
by Latha
Wed Jun 21, 2023 3:20 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I feel like I am a bit weird
Replies: 1
Views: 10065

Re: I feel like I am a bit weird

Hi there, Artimisskz- welcome to the boards! Oh yes, that's very normal. It isn't unusual for people to find that vaginal stimulation doesn't feel all that interesting, because the vagina doesn't actually have that many nerve endings, especially past the first third or so. People with vaginas tend t...
by Latha
Wed Jun 21, 2023 2:48 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: How to regain pleasure after CSA
Replies: 24
Views: 59466

Re: How to regain pleasure after CSA

Hi Suomi! No no, the situation isn't difficult for us at all- really, you're the one who has to deal with it. As I see it, the circumstances are what they are, and we just have to think around them- that's no trouble for us. If I may ask, what kind of accommodations are you looking for? Do you think...
by Latha
Sun Jun 18, 2023 6:06 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Is she pregnant?
Replies: 5
Views: 1755

Re: Is she pregnant?

Hi there, Luigi, welcome to the boards! 1. I think you can go ahead and trust the results of those two negative pregnancy tests- your girlfriend isn't pregnant. 2. Some bleeding/spotting after taking EC is fairly common- I think you can think of it as a mini period of sorts. Her period being a bit l...
by Latha
Sun Jun 18, 2023 5:47 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: How to regain pleasure after CSA
Replies: 24
Views: 59466

Re: How to regain pleasure after CSA

Hi there, Suomi! I'm jumping in because I'm on shift, I hope you don't mind. Honestly, at minimum, you should be able to rely on the adults in your life for protection from this, and it is awful that you can't. I do think that the things you've already tried to avoid being around this person are qui...
by Latha
Sun Jun 18, 2023 5:23 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: jesus !
Replies: 1
Views: 821

Re: jesus !

Hi there, Brandii I'm sorry you had to hear that kind of thing! While some religious people do believe that masturbation is sinful, many others don't- for them, masturbation doesn't weaken their faith or their relationship with God. We here at Scarleteen agree with the latter. If someone wants to ma...
by Latha
Sun Jun 18, 2023 2:07 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Dry Humping in a Pool
Replies: 13
Views: 15732

Re: Dry Humping in a Pool

Hi there, Axi Mind I think that even if there is some risk involved, it can still be useful to seek mental health care, as it can help us learn how to handle risky situations well, and manage stress. It may take some time to find a good counselor, but I believe therapy can be helpful with the kinds ...