Oh, you don't need to apologize, you haven't done anything wrong! These things can be confusing. P.S. I don't think it matters that you don't have a lot of experience. Whatever label you choose now can be good enough- you don't need to be 100% certain. You can always adjust the labels you use later,...

Hi there, Ryan7755! As you know, anal sex shouldn't hurt. To avoid pain, take it slow and start with something small, like one finger. I think that using toys should recreate the effect you want, but you can work your way up to that over several sessions. Throughout all this, relax your body and use...

Hi LightUpTheStage, sorry for the confusion! When something makes me feel uncomfortable or repulsed, I like to try and see if I can find things to appreciate about it. I've noticed that my instinctive feelings of repulsion often go away if I do this for some time. You don't need to attend a teen org...

About the emails- have you checked your spam folder?

Hmmm, I'm not sure why you are not getting emails- I've made a note of it, someone will get back to you! I understand that conflict between not having the energy to do things and not wanting to disappoint other people, and I think the online D&D session idea is great! Do you think there are othe...

Hi SillyMcGoof! From my personal perspective, having sex on your mind while you distract yourself until you forget about it seems pretty normal. For a more mundane example, sometimes I'll crave a certain food that I can't eat at that moment. The craving doesn't go away immediately when I try to dist...

Hi gabrijellaaaa, welcome to the boards! No, it is safe to say that you can't become pregnant from that. To learn more about what activities pose risks of pregnancy, you could read Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That? You may also like to read this advice column: Can dry hands = p...

Ahh, I'm sorry for the misunderstanding! No, your partner cannot get pregnant from that.

If you'd like, you can learn about the pregnancy risks of different activities by reading Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That?

Hello ryuji, welcome to the boards! No, your partner cannot become pregnant when both of you are wearing clothing that covers your genitals. You might like to read this article of ours: Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That? It explains the pregnancy risks that different activities ...

Hi there, SillyMcGoof! Are your masturbation habits hurting you or interfering with your life/keeping you from doing other things you want to do? If they are not, I don't think it can be too much. It certainly isn't unusual for someone to masturbate as much as you do, in my understanding. There is a...

Hi there, LightUpTheStage- welcome to the boards! I’m sorry your experience with sex-ed has been poor, but I think it’s great that you’re taking charge of your education and trying to be prepared! Before I get to your actual questions, I want to mention some things: On kinky relationships: Despite t...

Hello Ajbands- welcome to the boards! I’m not sure whether you’re describing a hypothetical situation here. If this really happened, and if you and your girlfriend are not using another form of birth control along with condoms, then your girlfriend needs emergency contraception (EC). The reason I’m ...

Aw, thank you for the compliment Whispermae! You're right, that isn't a great relationship to have with your therapist. I agree with Logan- you deserve to see someone who will communicate well with you and be understanding. I promise, counselors who understand trauma do exist in this country! Also, ...

Hi there- jumping in because I'm on shift! I wonder if it seems like it will be difficult to explain these issues in person to your pychiatrist. If so, you could bring something you've written beforehand to your session for them to read- something like what you've sent to us here.

Honestly, that is really frustrating, and I totally understand feeling impatient! Feeling stressed like that can make it harder to orgasm though, because it takes you out of the moment. As Sam said, continuing to experiement with different kinds of touch and sensation will help. Try not to put press...

Yes, you can use cotton fabric from old clothes!

Hi there, JustANerd! Honestly, it's probably fine today, but it can't hurt to wait till tomorrow, so you'll have given it a full seven days.

Oh, these questions are exactly what we’re here for! I’m going to recommend that you get the vaccine if you can. I’m not sure about the side effects that you’ve mentioned, because there is some misinformation out there, and to the best of my knowledge, the HPV vaccine has been demonstrated to be ver...

Hi there, Xoxu9563, welcome to the boards! You’re definitely not alone in feeling this way- so many people who experience attraction to more than one gender feel this kind of ‘imposter syndrome’. I think this is at least in part because there are many misconceptions and stereotypes out there about w...

Thanks for reaching out to us. I want to tell you in very clear terms, that none of what is happening to you is your fault . Your stepdad is behaving in a way that is absolutely unacceptable- he is sexually abusing you. That language might feel a bit strong, but it is true. And only he is to blame f...

Tell me if I’m wrong, but I’m getting the sense that it might be difficult for you to relax and get into the headpace you need to masturbate while you know that other people are around- is this a part of what is making you feel ashamed or embarassed? And then late in the evening, you’re too tired, w...

Hello again, SillyMcGoof_! I think my advice would depend on how much privacy you have, and the kind of relationship you have with your family. Do you have your own space/room? If so, can you close your door or lock it? If the people you live with regularly come into your room, maybe you can talk to...

Hi there! Don't worry, your concerns are understandable- remembering schedules can be difficult, and it is usually a good policy to not give strangers our phone numbers. (On that note, text service workers can't usually see your phone number, but the text service does show it to our administrative s...