Hi! I understand this was over a year old, but I have a follow up? I recently had some super helpful realizations about this topic, and just in case they could be helpful to someone else, I want to share them. Especially because I think they clarify some things I tried and failed to properly articul...

Hi Sian! Thanks for the reply - sorry it took me a while to check back in, I've been busy, and also I wasn't sure how best to articulate some of my thoughts on this. I wouldn't mind help looking for resources! I've never looked before because I'm also nonbinary, albeit in a different way (my girlfri...

Hi! So, I'm ace and sex-repulsed, and I'm in a wonderful relationship with my girlfriend of four years, who considers himself roughly/technically ace but doesn't really identify with it as a label. He doesn't have a sex drive/desire for sex, although I think he does feel a degree of attraction. He h...

@ Sam W - That makes sense! They have dropped the jokes. I honestly do feel a little isolated, still, when I'm with some of my friends, who know but did seem to be really surprised and not super understanding when I told them, but I have enough other friends who get it where it's not a super pressin...

@ Sam - Both of these are really good conversations to have and I will make sure to do so! I am really glad to hear that the gradual component makes it easier to adjust to! Ha, yeah, I do have some experience w/ that (my girlfriend gained a lot of weight the first two years of our relationship due t...

I'm really sorry to hear you're dealing with this - I haven't experienced this directly, but I've been there for friends who have, and so hopefully I can try to give some reassurance? Honestly, literally any reason for breaking up is a good enough reason. Nobody is entitled to being in a romantic re...

@ Emily - It is, thank you! :D We've talked a little bit about it, but not a ton, mostly about who should be the one to tell my parents (who we'll be living in the same city as) and what sort of language he likes to use. I don't want to say it hasn't been relevant, just that it hasn't really changed...

Hi! Oh man I've been asking for a lot of advice lately. Okay so some quick info on me and my girlfriend: I'm a nonbinary (vaguely agender?) aroace person who is nonetheless in a happy, committed romantic relationship. We've been together in an LDR for 4.5 years and I really love being partners with ...

Hi Elise! Thank you! I considered the telehealth option but decided not to, because I wouldn’t have privacy to discuss somewhat more sensitive topics like this one, which I didn’t want my roommate or parents to overhear. I do find the idea of mindfulness really intriguing and will try looking into t...

@ Sam - I’m out to my friends, but those experiences were a combination of 1) things that happened before I came out and 2) them continuing to joke anyways, I guess because the idea is they weren’t being serious and so it didn’t matter. I’ve since explained to them I’m not comfortable with that sort...

Thanj you! I really appreciate it.

@Emily N - first of all thank you so much for this response! Secondly, while all of this is incredibly helpful, I want to call particular attention to the suggestion to see a gynecologist and ease into the issue. For me, seeing a gyno was always framed as "for the sake of getting a pap smear&qu...

@valerie4 - First of all I just wanted to thank you for sharing your own experience. It helps a LOT to hear this is not a unique situation to me - I know it's not, but it's not something I've ever been able to discuss with someone else before, so it's really reassuring. Then I wanted to thank you fo...

@jenny01 - I think that's a good general advice, it's just rewiring myself for that to work as a working distraction, haha. @FestiveFestoon - thank you! I may check this out. @Sam W - absolutely! I didn't want this to be any more long-winded than it already was, haha, so I kind of skimped out on tha...

I'm 22 (sorry if I'm a bit too old to be on this forum, but I know it can also be for young adults), and at an age where by now my doctor would usually schedule a gynecologist appointment. However, I really do not want to have one. I'm asexual and autistic, and the idea of anything penetrating me is...

Hi! This is an issue I've struggled with for a long time, and I'm sorry if this isn't the right forum for it, but if it's not, any direction towards more applicable resources would also be super appreciated. Also, hi, sorry, this is really long because I don't know how to articulate myself concisely...