Hey! You're totally right about stigma- that's a huge reason why a lot of people feel guilty for having sexual feelings. The feelings you're having are normal and extremely common, but sex and masturbation are both completely normal and healthy. Your mom seems like she is very open to talking to you...

Hey! A quick solution for this would be to consider buying a sex toy like a vibrator. This would definitely take some of the work off of your hands. If this isn't something you'd want to do, I'd also suggest switching things up a little in terms of what you're doing to masturbate. Sometimes repeatin...

Hey! What you’re experiencing is not only completely normal but also very common! Most people with vaginas do not experience orgasms or even pleasure from penetration alone. Here’s a little excerpt from an article that I’ll also link below: “The back ⅔ of the vagina has essentially no sensitivity, w...

Hey Spider_queen, I want to say first of all that your feelings are valid. You’re right, terf ideology and transmisogyny exist in those communities and elsewhere, but that also doesn’t mean that there aren’t also people that will see you and appreciate you as a woman. While I’m sure this breakup has...

Hey there! For the first question: what you’re describing isn’t unusual. You’re right that dryness can definitely be a factor, and I’m glad that you’ve gotten some lube as that would help. Another really important factor is being relaxed. If you’re feeling uncomfortable, it’ll be a bit more difficul...

Hi! With the pill, in general taking it a few hours late isn't a need for concern. Here's a little more information from an article I'll link below: "To use the combination pill properly, you need to take one pill every day, ideally around the same time of day every day. It's also important to ...

Hey Fiona! I want to say first that you never need to apologize! You can never write too much. I’m going to respond to the questions that I think I can answer best and have others respond to the rest. For the first question about figuring out what you want and self-acceptance: ultimately, I think th...

Hey there, Sorry to hear you’re having trouble masturbating. One of the ost important things to remember about masturbation is that your mental state matters. This could mean being relaxed, taking your time, and having the privacy to do so. In terms of masturbation itself, inserting your fingers is ...

Hey there, I’m glad you were about to get on a waitlist. Like Mo said before, it can be really frustrating to wait, but it is something to look forward to you. I understand what you mean about face to face therapy. I tried it and agree that it didn;t exactly feel the same. I will say, however, that ...

Hey there, It can be hard to say no to people sometimes, but saying no doesn’t make you mean or a bad person. You’re right- you don’t have a moral obligation to hang out with them! I’m going to link a great resource with some scripts on how to say no to this exact situation: https://captainawkward.c...

Hey there, I agree that it's a good sign that your friend/manager apologized and is back to talking about other things. Moving forward, it might be helpful to try to set a boundary to separate work life and personal life. That might look like agreeing to mutually understand that what goes on at work...

Hey there! I’m sorry to hear you’re upset. It can be hard sometimes to navigate situations with a close friend. While what your friend is doing may be legal, that doesn’t always mean it’s good. I agree that 18 is young, and the porn industry can be harmful and exploitative, especially to young women...

Hi there! I'm sorry to hear you're struggling, but it can be confusing sometimes to identify parts of our body, especially those that can be hard to see! The clitoris is located where the inner labia meet and form a hood. If you lift up the hood, you may be able to get a better look. This article ha...

Hey! I want to first say that age and experience don’t change your ability to identify with what feels best to you. It seems like you have some sense of what you want, but being uncertain is okay too! If once you start dating a bit more you decide a polyam relationship isn’t for you, that’s perfectl...

When cleaning the tub I'd use soap and water and a sponge or cloth. It's totally normal to take that long. Everyone (and their sensitivity) is different, so in terms of being faster, the only way to find out would be to try something new! There's nothing wrong with taking longer than your friend, th...

Hey Otter8! Ask as many questions as you'd like! For cleaning up afterwards, you can really do anything that works. A cloth, like your friend said, would work. Masturbating in the bath would also work, but I'd be sure to clean the tub a bit afterwards, since semen is a bodily fluid. You could also j...

Hey there! I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling guilty, a lot of people feel this way about masturbation. I want to assure you that masturbation is completely normal and safe, and nothing to feel guilty about! Girls get this “urge” to masturbate just as much as guys do. Is there anything in particular a...

Hi! This sounds like a frustrating situation, because it’s hard to control when or what causes us to be aroused. When you say that this type of arousal is different than before, what exactly do you mean? I only ask because masturbation shouldn’t hurt, so figuring out what’s different could be helpfu...

Hi! In terms of using the bathroom and then masturbating, I'm sure some people definitely do that. I agree that it could be a good way to get some privacy as well! About your friend- there's no perfect way to bring it up, but since you mentioned that he suggested it initially, I wouldn't worry too m...

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You can get used to orgasming in a particular way or with certain stimuli that may make it more difficult to orgasm using other methods. However, it won't affect sensitivity of the genitals. You may be used to certain methods, making other methods feel not as good. Does that make sense?

Hey there! Sorry to hear you're dealing with this. A bump on your labia could be a couple of things, most of which are totally harmless. A small pink bump could likely be an ingrown hair or a pimple, just like you'd get anywhere else on your body. It could also be an infected gland or a small benign...

Hey andrej, Fantasizing about things you've seen in porn isn't bad. In terms of "death grip syndrome" and fearing that your erections could be affected by masturbation, here's a little excerpt from the article I linked a few replies back: "Masturbation will not: -Cause blindness, head...

Hi! It can be hard to control when we’re aroused sometimes, which may be why sometimes it feels more like a compulsion than a need. Im going to include an article that may have some helpful information: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/bodies_sexuality/going_solo_the_basics_of_masturbation Masturb...

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The good news is that penis size doesn't correlate to pleasure. Like Urna said in this thread, your size is totally normal. There are many ways to please a sexual partner when the time comes, some of which don't have to involve a penis at all!

Hi! I’m also glad you found a place where you can ask what’s on your mind, I’ll do my best to answer! Firstly, I want to say that porn depictions of sex are hardly accurate. Most porn is acting, and the sexual responses are often exaggerated. With that being said, some people definitely enjoy having...