Thank you for the advice ashleah! All of these sound like great ideas, and I feel like I want to do a bit of everything :P I feel like education and opening up the conversation around sex ed is one of my primary goals. However, advocacy work interests me as well, but I'm not entirely sure how to go ...

Hey there, So...I think I might be crazy, but I want to start a proactive sexual ed club at my high school. I want to do something a lot like what scarletteen does online, but as a club instead. I'm really excited by the idea, but I'm a little overwhelmed by the vastness of the topic and the potenti...

Thank you for the reply Sam W, I really appreciate it. I think I'm going to try and talk to him about it today. It does help that some of the things I want are things, such as restraint and resistance play, I've tried before with him, just on a lower intensity level. I think that it might could help...

Hey there, I want to say, too, that I admire you for being so strong and seeking out help for this issue. Often, it's admitting that you need help and the process of finding it that's the hardest part. :) I personally wouldn't be able to direct you to any places, but if you went to a healthcare prof...

I talked to my boyfriend about it yesterday. He said that he'd love to try it with me as long as it's something that I'm comfortable with and want to do. I'm not that shy when it comes to talking about what I'd not want to happen, but when it comes to specific parts of my fantasies and talking about...

Hey there, Since I was a kid, I've had BDSM fantasies involving bondage, force, and, to some extent, humiliation. Nowadays, I've gotten to try some things with my partner such as spanking, light bondage, sensation play, pet play, etc. When we first discussed boundaries, I decided rape play was a sof...

My silliest false belief about sex was probably that sex is just a one time thing. All I ever heard about when I was a kid was about someone's "first time". I never knew anything about second, third, or however many times. So, I never really thought about what happened next. After I had se...

1) What are some of the attitudes your family holds (especially parents/guardians) about sex and sexuality? The only parent I live with is my mom, and her attitude about sexuality is a little hard to explain. As far as sex in general goes, she has a "to each their own" view. Even though th...

Hey there, Even though I'm a girl and, since I live in the U.S., have never been at risk of becoming circumcised I can understand why this would upset you. It was a part of your body and you didn't have the option to consent to it. There are reasons why this happens though, and hearing them may help...

So it's just protection from another strand of HPV? I guess I thought it was something different because my doctor described all the different things it protected me against, but didn't say that they were all part of the same thing.

Hey! Most of the things I do to help me with flashbacks are skills I learned in therapy. When you have a flashback, you can become completely unaware of the present world and can sometimes even think you feel/hear/taste/smell/see things that are a part of the past. For me I'll feel my abuser touchin...

Okay, that makes since, thank you for the advice! And I have a version of the vaccine that protects me from things like genital warts as well, but I do understand that that's really not all that could potentially be transmitted orally. I'm sorry for the use of the word "clean", it's just w...

Hey there, I'm sorry you've been feeling so frustrated with this. There are some things you can do but first I want to tell you want you really should avoid. One of the rules of bondage is never leave a bound person in the room alone. Which means you need to be very safe with bondage on your own and...

Hey there, My boyfriend and I are in a committed monogamous relationship and both don't have any STIs. He got tested after his last partner and was clean, and hasn't been with anyone since, besides me. A couple months ago I got tested and I'm clean as well. (I am going to ask him to get tested again...

Hey there, I don't have as many nights like these as I used to. The therapy I've gotten has really helped me with my PTSD related to abuse and taught me better ways to cope with it. Sometimes I want to try and cope in not very good ways, but these are some of the things I do instead: I find that dis...

I actually haven't thought about the particular things that make me feel sexy, I think this is a neat question! So, sexy clothing like lace and corsets do make me feel sexy, but being naked in front of a mirror can make me feel sexy as well. Or being in an oversized sweater. If I like the way I look...

Before I was 13, I didn't really think about my sexual orientation that much. I think if anyone would've I asked me then I probably would have said I was straight. But I used to live in an extremely Southern Baptist Christian community known as west Tennassee and they weren't very accepting people. ...

Hey there, So I've know I've had interests in BDSM before I ever took an active interest in exploring my sexuality/sexual desires. However, now I have a partner that I love and trust completely and that is just as willing to try new things as I am! I've done a good bit of research about the topic, b...