Sorry for the late reply! I really appreciate your responses. I like what you said about consent, that makes a lot of sense to me. You've helped me a lot. I was raised with a "sow a thought, reap an action" kind of mentality, so I think that might be where I'm getting messed up.

Thank you for your responses! Do you have any reading about the ethics of thoughts vs. action? That sounds like a prime topic for a philosophical debate. I think I understand what you are getting at, but I am still worried. (Masturbation is acting on it too, but I can see how you might make a simila...

Like many people, I am embarrassed about the content of my sexual fantasies. This site says multiple times that any fantasies we may have are okay and we don’t choose/can’t help what turns us on, which I really appreciate because I have a lot of insecurities about this and don’t always understand wh...