Just to clarify: since he would scroll through his photos he told me that’s why he even saw it in the first place he never purposefully went on it. He also told me he never bothered to delete any of his porn since there was so many pictures and when saw it he would just scroll past it.

So this all started a few months ago, when I found Porn on his google drive. Previously before he had told me up to that point that he gave up watching porn but since I found the porn on his google drive he had confessed that he had only said that because I had said I gave up on watching porn and he...

I also wanted to add he has an anxiety disorder as well- so when he would explain things it would often be a mess while he is nervous so that is another why it is kind of more believable for me that we didn’t have the same meaning. During that time he was also very emotional ( we talked in person) a...

Thank you again to everyone who helped me through this. However, I have an update on the situation as after talking about it extensively to him I now have more info on what had happened. So apparently when I confronted him about everything at first we had very different ideas on what “masturbating t...

Thank you so much for everyone who contributed to this. It really helped me by making me realize I should trust more in myself and also made me realize what steps We both needed to take. I feel a lot better about this situation, and in a way, also made us talk about our boundaries which was a very i...

Hello Sofi, Thank you for your reply. Although he made a mistake, I feel like I still want to be with him and our relationship is more important. I don’t see him as being deceitful on purpose and I’m more willing to forgive him for it since he hasn’t done anything like this before and he is a pretty...

I think I need to be shown progress in him changing and not telling me white lies like this anymore- even if it’s to make me feel better. We talked about this and he admits it’s something he does just to make the situation better or not to hurt someone’s feelings but ultimately it hurts more, and he...

I have found that just talking about it to friends and family and finding out how irrational my anxieties are helps. During that time I kind of had a mini anxiety attack because I thought all of my feelings and thoughts that were anxious were true-however talking about it helped because it made me r...

He has never lied to me about anything this big before, and despite this he didn’t have a history of lying to me either. I guess I just checked out of anxiety? I’m a pretty anxious person in general because I overthink many things so sometimes I like to look for “evidence” their telling me the truth...

Also although, I know it’s wrong what he did and he knows it too and it’s valid to feel hurt. Should I also view the sister’s picture as nothing else but the same as those other photos? Since he didn’t upload the picture while we were together and didn’t pre-meditate this thing but rather came acros...

Hello Carly, Thanks for your reply, yes I think what you explained is what I’m going through right now. For some reason it’s like I am seeking others input in order to know how to act and you actually opened my eyes that I’m doing it with that comment. At this point, I think since we both had produc...

Yes thank you for that last part- I posted the same question on Reddit and other forums and they were just telling me it was weird and wrong and to just leave, but my close friend agreed that although my feelings are valid, it shouldn’t be the ultimate decision to keave him since there were no other...

I think after this he understands how important it is to be transparent, I feel like he feels very regretful and understands that although it was a white lie for my own sake that it was still harmful and this is the first time he ever white lied about something big ( he has white lied before but it ...

Hello Emily, We recently talked about our boundaries surrounding porn, and for me, pictures were not okay but videos were fine since sometimes I watched it as well. He agreed and said if something made me uncomfortable he would stop doing it. The main thing I was upset about and kind of damaged my t...

So the reason on how I found this out was because I was logged into his drive and then I went through his files and saw his porn files. He previously told me that he stopped watching porn and looking at pictures after we started having sex but he told me that so I didn’t feel bad about myself and I ...