Also there's an inner conflict that I feel. I read through some of the articles you sent and I do realize that I haven't healed as I thought I did . With the guy I'm yet to break up with , as much as I'm not physically I attracted to him I just also think I'm not ready to let anyone into my physical...

Hi Sam So I haven't seen him in a while because it's currently recess so I haven't told him because I think it's best we spoke in person but I definitely will when I see him. I do think that's a good point . It's just that I'm really struggling. I ended up creating a tinder profile like 3 days ago a...

Thank you for your response, Sam Yes you make perfect sense. Also through my dating experiences in the past year , I miss loving and not just being loved. I don't really think I can settle just for receiving without giving. Also you're completely right in saying I'm yet to meet partners who have the...

It's been over a year since the assault happened. After breaking up with my assualter I made terrible decisions that hurt me . I got into relationships trying to prove to myself I was ohk, also I felt that having sex and enjoying it would be an indication that I can still feel so I tried that only h...

I guess since he was there when I felt vulnerable ( with being in a new enviroment and missing home and also going through my first breakup) I found comfort in someone "loving" me and "caring" about me. It has been almost a week since i broke with him. I was and still am in a sta...

I feel angry. I do love him but i hate the fact that he sees nothing wrong with what he did but it's difficult for me to break away from him. I know he isn't the ideal person for me. I know i deserve better but for some reason i always want things to work out and be fine between us. I don't know wha...

This is my first year in university. i recently met a guy who is 8/7 years older than me. At first i had no idea he was that much older than me because he looks younger than his age. The first time we had a conversation we clicked. We spoke about something quite deep and i remember i like how mature...

Uhm so i dated my boyfriend for about a year and 3 months before we broke up. I can confidently say he was the first boy I've ever felt genuine love for. Although we were in a long distance relationship we made it work. Towards the end things got messy . We both messed up and hurt each other. I felt...

Soooo I'm in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. We've been dating for over a year now. I really love and care about him but him being away for do long is very hard for me since i do miss him being physically next to me. So what happened is over the weekend during running errands in town...

The part about me not pressuring myself does make sense . I'll work on learning more about what i actually want and whst I'm actually willing to try. I'll try speaking to him when i actually see him in person again. I feel it's better to speak about it in person rather then over the phone. I think w...

After us having sex i never regretted it. It didn't meet my expectations at that point but I've never regretted it. I could say that i decided to do it partially to please him but i was also ohk with it because i really do love him. I decided to try and give him a bj as a means of exploring and tryi...

I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now. I lost my virginity to him and i love him veeery much. Despite being in a long distance relationship and seeing each other whenever he comes back, we have a good solid relationship. We both love and trust one another. We've only had sex once which...

Well for one I'm actually thinking of ending the relationship. I was feeling quite sad today and i actually wanted to call him, but like he just ghosted like he sometimes does (i know there might be a logical reason and i know he didn't know i was sad) but I'm actually over this . I hate feeling lik...

Hey Heather I really want this relationship to work, this is my first time feeling in love in a relationship so it's very special too me so is the sexual experience. My virginity has always been a big deal so when i finally have sex i just want us both to enjoy ut (i understand i can't have high exp...

I'm a 17 year old girl dating a 18 year old guy. We've known each other for 8 months but we've officially been dating for 4 months. Before we officially started dating , we would kiss and tell one another that we like each other(basically it was like we were dating) but then i a girl at my school to...

I'm not sure about using contraceptives, won't they have harmful effects on my body? It might be awkward at first if i initiate the conversation but i understand it's important. I want us both to be comfortable and on the same page so as uncomfortable as it may be, I'm willing to try and talk to him...

Hey Heather I actually believed that pain was normal and it was what i expected,. I've listened to people telling me about their experiences of losing their virginity and iit always involved pain but after reading the article i had a better understanding of what i should actually feel. Yes you're ri...

So is it possible that we didn't have sex? Because it really didn't feel like we dis.

I don't think he's ever tested but I'll make sure to ask him about it. I'd really hate to get infected with anything so testing is a good idea.
Thank youu

Happy new year Sofi! Thanks for the reply and the article recommendation , it was reaally helpful. When we had sex i was very uneasy and anxious because i had snuck out at home, i figure that's why i wasn't totally relaxed plus i didn't even think we would have sex on that day (i felt ready but i wa...

Happy new year Carly! Thanks for the reply, the spotting has stopped , i think it was because I'm gonna get on my periods. I doubt it was from an abrasion because it didn't even feel like i lost my virginity, my virgina wasn't painful, only my thighs , i don't think he got through the vaginal walls,...

:? I'm a 17 year old female. I lost my virginity with my boyfriend 4 days ago. Or so i think. I've been close to having sex previously so i know how painful it could get (that's what stopped me from having sex the first time--pain) while me and my boyfriend were getting into it . I would feel pain b...

Heyy Carly

Thing is my periods are very irregular. Sometimes i don't get them for a whole month but i don't think i am near my period date . This has never happened before i get my periods.
I am not on any form of birth control either.

Sooo i lost my virginity 3 days ago. It was painful but not as much as i expected it to be. I don't think it was full on penetraction. A day after i noticed my virgina was releasing a brown like substance (i think blood) . It doesn't have a bad smell. Should i be worried?