Hi there, Brian I think it’s great that you are actively searching for ways to make sex a nice experience for both of you again. (Given your other posts I’m assuming you mean pregnancy-related anxieties but if you meant something else please let us know and we can talk about that too). First of all,...

I’m glad what Kier said was helpful! And I’m sorry you had a painful and uncomfortable experiences with medical exams, that can really make the future ones seem scary. On top of all the excellent advice Kier gave you you can try reading through this article to see if you find something else helpful:...

Hi Renee, I’m really sorry to hear that you feel like your parents don’t really know you and aren’t even trying to get to know and understand you better. While there probably isn’t one fast simple way to somehow create an amazing relationship with them, because that would require their willingness t...

Hi there and welcome to the boards! You don’t have to worry, pregnancy tests are just as effective for people on testosterone and/or progesterone. That’s because they are testing for the presence of a special hormone (it is called human chorionic gonadotropin or hCG if you are interested in the medi...

I’m glad Kier’s response was helpful! Anhedonia (= having trouble experiencing pleasure) is a common symptom of depression but the ways mood disorders can affect pleasure are so varied we don’t have a resource specifically about that, but I think you might find this one useful anyway: I Feel Good: P...

Fingers crossed you find something you will like there!

Hi trixieandtoast, I hope it’s okay that I’m stepping in here. I’m so sorry this didn’t go as planned! I understand not wanting to bother him when he might have a lot of work but I think there wouldn’t be anything wrong with sending him the voice note if you want to. After all, he said you can and i...

Hi there Jay27, I’ll let the rest of the team know about this so they can pitch in with their own ideas, but in the meantime here are a few of mine. As for online spaces, if you are looking for a content mostly by and for queer women, this online magazine might be a great place to start (and you wil...

Hi spottedowl, it’s so great to hear you are feeling better about your sexuality and are learning how to approach it on your own terms despite the possible pressure from other people, that’s so amazing and important for you to know <3 As for some resources I think you can find a few great ones throu...

I’m glad you found the article helpful! You are right, even if you take out the temperature as a factor, there are still other reasons that we talked about in the previous posts why the situation doesn’t pose a pregnancy risk. It sounds like this is causing you quite a lot of stress, if you would li...

Hi there, that sounds like a big choice to make and I can definitely see why it can seem so daunting! Something that has really helped me when facing such choices was realizing that they are often less final than they might seem (in this case for reasons like that some schools allow students to chan...

Hi there Liore and welcome to the boards! I’m so sorry to hear that, breakups can be so hard and things like it being your first one or how unexpected it was for you can make it even harder. There is a lot we can talk about and I think this article covers most of it (including some practical tips ho...

Hi there and welcome to the boards! Increase in pleasure with a full bladder it actually something quite a lot of people experience and it makes a lot of sense that they do because when the bladder fills it expands and presses on the tissues around it which is also where the sensitive internal parts...

Hi Skybushhh, I think it’s really important to keep in mind the the observation that this is coming from your own worries and potentially anxiety rather than from what other people are actually thinking. Because if we are doing something wrong that affects other people they usually let us know about...

Hi MizdaCFS! I would like to approach this from a bit different angle by asking you first: what would you want that information about your partner for? If the answer is to make sure they don’t feel obliged to put on some show for you than it’s great that you want to make your partner feel comfortabl...

You are welcome! This is again something where there isn’t one specific right thing to say, and I think your idea is great. It lets them know it will be a sensitive conversation so they can prepare for that and saying it might feel weird out loud to the other person often help us deal with the awkwa...

I think your example what to say from your previous posts is a good one! If you are not sure if they have the time/capacity to talk with you at the moment you can start by asking them about that and then you can just tell them something along the lines "I would like to have this toy (you can in...

I totally get these worries! Things to consider could be if they have reacted badly in other situations and if yes, then what "badly" meant in those situation and lastly, if it were to go as badly as in one of these situations if that risk is a one you would be willing to take. How does th...

Hi there SillyMcGoof_ , it’s nice to see you again! I agree that it might feel awkward to talk about this, after all even without the added taboo that’s placed of anything related to sex or sexuality by the society this is still your first time having this conversation, and it might be your parents’...

That’s exactly it!

Hi there, that’s pretty much what happens. But pressure isn’t the only thing that kills sperm cells, like Willa mentioned, they are very fragile and need specific conditions to survive. So other mechanisms that destroy them when being left on some surface can be drying of the fluids composing semen ...

Hi there Grayyyson,

Sam has already responded to your previous answer to her question, can you see her reply?

Hi there, I hope it’s okay that I’m stepping in here. I really understand the need to have some kind of a plan for the possibility this doesn’t help. I think your next steps will mostly depend on what you learn by not masturbating for some time - if the throbbing feeling changes and if so than if fo...

Hi there and welcome to the boards! Don’t worry, your post is perfectly okay! As for your question, when you talk about arousal do you mean just physical arousal (things like penis getting hard or vagina lubricated), mental one (wanting to masturbate, feeling excited), or both? It will vary a lot fr...

Hi jumbomumbo, you are right that it’s more often a long process rather than just one time revelation that would make the shame magically disappear. It might take some time to even learn what approaches and resources when are the most helpful for you and even then the feelings might still unexpected...