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by Andy
Thu Aug 25, 2022 1:54 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 3180204

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Sorry, I probably just have to accept that I'll always act and feel like shit a few days around my period... it's not even that bad, I just hate that it affects my interactions with other people, apart from posting without thinking here I get much easier into fights with my parents. And one of the r...
by Andy
Wed Aug 24, 2022 12:00 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 3180204

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Thank you, I see it makes sense, but (like I've ever posted something without any but in it...) I don't know if it is of any use trying to get my mind to make sense. I don't understand how and why it would be worth it. I could write long paragraphs about how I think I feel and why, but it'd be proba...
by Andy
Mon Aug 22, 2022 3:45 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 3180204

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Thank you again for the helpful and reassuring answer! Texting less isn't even that hard right now, because I don't have much free time and she is thankfully currently in a good place mental health wise and most of the time she wants to talk about a story she is writing that has a lot of explicit se...
by Andy
Mon Aug 22, 2022 2:54 pm
Forum: Scarleteen Updates
Topic: Heather Update
Replies: 2
Views: 7298

Re: Heather Update

(I don't know if you'll see this and if it's appropriate and okay to reply here so I apologize in advance if not) I just wanted to say that I'm really sorry this has happend, it must be incredibly hard and stressful. I hope you mom has as smooth recovery as possible. And that you, other people and o...
by Andy
Sun Aug 21, 2022 1:33 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 3180204

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Thank you for the long response and kind comforting words <3I really appreciate the time you all give everyone here and admire you for being able to talk about and explain sometimes really complicated matters so clearly. Starting with your last question, I'm not sure how to answer. The probably most...
by Andy
Thu Aug 18, 2022 1:34 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 3180204

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Thank you, I kind of hoped that after a few days I'll be able to get some clarity and peace of mind regarding the whole situation with my friend, but it's not helping much. Even when hypothetically thinking about ending the friendship I always come up against so many sometimes seemingly uncrossable ...
by Andy
Tue Aug 16, 2022 2:02 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 3180204

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Hi and thank you so much, for sharing, listening, support, advice, taking me seriously and just caring about me and everyone else who needs it, I wish someone invented more words for thank you so I could write a whole paragraph of them <3 However the last thing I want is to say something disrespectf...
by Andy
Mon Aug 15, 2022 1:37 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 3180204

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Thank you, for everything including caring about me enough to be honest While reading those articles (I've read them before but this time I tried to relate them to my situation) I had what feels like million different thoughts and questions and more and more are coming as I'm writing this. So I deci...
by Andy
Mon Aug 15, 2022 2:31 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 3180204

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Thank you for the reassurance and helpful ideas <3 (And also thanks Sam, I was sure I already deleted the location from my account but it was still there) These conversations openings are great but I'm still afraid she might take it as a suggestion she isn't treating her boyfriend right. I'd also li...
by Andy
Sun Aug 14, 2022 11:59 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 3180204

Re: Accepting my sexuality

And thank you for those thoughts regarding control, they make so much sense and were really helpful and comforting to read! It's just that sometimes it's almost like watching myself from a 3rd person view, when I'm well aware that what I'm about to do is stupid or dangerous, but that rational part i...
by Andy
Sat Aug 13, 2022 4:10 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 3180204

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Thank you for the offer to talk, I really appreciate it! I enjoyed the visit in most aspects but it was as always really intense for me and right now I have so many different and often contradictory thoughts running through my mind so I'll try to wait till they settle down and then I'll probably tal...
by Andy
Thu Aug 11, 2022 3:13 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 3180204

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Thank you so much, you helped me realize that because I'm unable to make any huge changes at the moment there isn't no point in overthinking the moral and practical aspects of moving out now. I'm not ready give up finishing high school and my whole life as I know it so it'll take at least a year and...
by Andy
Mon Aug 08, 2022 3:08 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 3180204

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Thank you so much, it all makes sense when you put it like this. As a child I struggled with learning all those men/women roles in etiquette and society, resulting in some embarrassing/funny situations. I just probably found it hard to remember and do things I didn't understand. And now I see you're...
by Andy
Sun Aug 07, 2022 11:04 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 3180204

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Thank you, that's really kind of you to say all that. However I'm afraid it's not as easy as just deciding whether I deserve something or not, because I'm the one who got myself in this position. I walked (or more like fell) into the relationship with the attitude of "omg, she is so amazing, I ...
by Andy
Fri Aug 05, 2022 11:41 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 3180204

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Thank you, it always helps to hear those things from someone else, especially from someone I trust. You might be right, but more like "I don't deserve this" I feel it like "everyone has different needs". For example those people from school probably need friends they can relate t...
by Andy
Wed Aug 03, 2022 2:04 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 3180204

Re: Accepting my sexuality

That's so cool! I've always admired everyone who enjoys and is good at writing. On top of other things, being able to still one's thoughts and give them one final form that can be accessed and judged in future, be it only by yourself in a journal or even by wide public, takes, at least in my opinion...
by Andy
Tue Jul 26, 2022 2:46 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 3180204

Re: Accepting my sexuality

What an great insightful observation! I never thought about it this way, but you're definitely right. I love reading, it's a way of escaping and connecting with the world at the same time, just like you said. For some reason reading is much better for me than other media in that aspect, maybe becaus...
by Andy
Mon Jul 25, 2022 11:41 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 3180204

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Thank you so much, really, thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤ I can blame it on hormones that your post made my cry, but it was in the best way. Something as "simple" as being asked how you can support me is such a warm and precious feeling <3( I'll try to remember it when someone I k...
by Andy
Sat Jul 23, 2022 3:17 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 3180204

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Sorry, I apologised for not being clear and then wrote something even more nonsensical... it's just probably my pms hormones that's making my like this, I just kinda thought that now I know about this period-mood connection, it'd be easier to control myself. At least it means it's real and not just ...
by Andy
Fri Jul 22, 2022 1:00 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 3180204

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Sorry for not being clear, I meant it like that but maybe more "figuratively", sometimes I even go so far as to trying to imagine how it would be to leave my family, but I always end up with knowing that it's just not possible. They're right when they say I'll probably never be able to liv...
by Andy
Thu Jul 21, 2022 1:49 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 3180204

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Thank you, Captain awkward really is great! Sam's recommended it to me some time ago and I like to come there from time to time when I have the chance and I have learnt a lot. But I always wonder whether I just haven't met people who respect boundaries or just can't see the "good" in peopl...
by Andy
Fri Jul 08, 2022 5:12 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 3180204

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Thank you I'm pretty sure asking that isn't a good idea and I wouldnt have that courage anyway. They (and probably most people) would take that as a "I don't like you, I'm not grateful for this family etc" But I'll take my favourite music with me, I can't take the book I'm currently readin...
by Andy
Thu Jul 07, 2022 2:28 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 3180204

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Thank you so much, for your kind words and especially for the last link. I've read those personal stories included there a few times and it's all starting to make more and more sense to me. I still don't know what it would mean for my life if it turns out it'll be like this every month or so (my per...
by Andy
Thu Jul 07, 2022 12:47 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 3180204

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Thank you, but there isn't much to talk about. I could give you a whole detailed essay about how bad I'm feeling but I don't know what it would be good for and I have to learn to not be so dependent on other people. Sooner or later I'll get used to it or it'll get better and I'll find something else...
by Andy
Wed Jul 06, 2022 9:41 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 3180204

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Thank you, all of that makes so much sense, but I just can't push it through to my stubborn mind. I keep going back to all those moments when I felt bad and was subconsciously blaming my parents, friends or the world on itself for that. I hate feeling like I'm just a machine programmed to feel and a...