this is really difficult for me to explain but i'll try my best ~ most of the time when i masturbate i have to use specific fantasies so that i can be like horny enough to get into it, and these fantasies are often really uncomfortable for me so i try to avoid thinking about them as much as possible...

I'm alright with being around him - it's more about how I feel in my life in general? Being around him more just brings my attraction to him to the very forefront of my mind a lot more often but I don't know what to do with it. I know that I don't /have/ to do anything but I've been feeling both ove...

So I don't experience sexual attraction particularly often, but there's an adult in my life who I've been experiencing very strong attraction to. I've been attracted to him for a few years, but when I was younger I used to try to completely stop myself from feeling those sexual feelings at all, part...

I definitely agree that putting more pressure on myself to have sexual experiences immediately won't help, and I'm trying to avoid doing that, but my brain kind of automatically jumps to being pretty black and white so that's difficult sometimes. Writing that all out definitely helped me clarify to ...

I guess it's partly because I've realised over the past few months how good sexuality can be when and I've enjoyed getting to explore with my sexuality on my own, and I now potentially want to expand that? I've generally found that it's just nice to have clarity over who I am and what I want, but al...

Hi - I've had a bit of a nightmare with my sexuality these past few years trying to work out if I'm on the asexuality spectrum and if so where, and it's kind of messed up my understanding of what I want. I've had a lot of extreme attitudes towards sex, from Hell-No when I was 10 to to When-I'm-14-I'...

sure, I would be willing to try different relaxation techniques

the only part which really felt like it could apply is: 'However, Marin says that “sometimes your body misinterprets the signs of masturbation and arousal, like heavy breathing and increased heart rate, as signs of panic.” As such, your body leaps to defense mode, acting against a panic attack.' whi...

hi, I would definitely say that originally this could have stemmed from guilt or shame, particularly when I started masturbating, but that's not really the case anymore as I've pretty much overcome that over the past couple of years. but I would say that the panic attacks are pretty similar to every...

my usual approach to dealing with panic attacks is just to wait it out and then find some media to focus on which is fine for calming me down and is what I do if I end up having a panic attack, but it doesn't really solve the problem. usually if I do that sort of thing in response to tensing up it w...

I think that could maybe be what's happening, but it's more of an involuntary feeling than "pulling away" suggests. but I don't really experience the same feelings except if I'm having normal panic attacks.

hi, I haven't noticed any patterns in terms of thoughts at all. I would say that it usually happens when the sensation gets overwhelming or just has built up and is like a lot - I guess you could describe it as a peak in the tension? also I would say that whenever this happens my brain just immediat...

hi- so I've been masturbating for a couple of years now and have always had this experience. essentially it all goes fine and I masturbate for a while until I get to a point where my body just completely tenses up and shuts down. this sometimes triggers a whole panic attack and I often can't move fo...

Hi There's a guy I've liked for a few months and I'm intending on asking for his sexuality and then asking him out if he's gay. Unfortunately, I'm an awful procrastinator and I'm not gonna see him again after April so basically it's now or never and I find it really difficult to just ask him. I real...

Hi,
I've used the live chat a couple times and I've noticed that the previous chat I had is above the current one so I can view it. Can the other person also view the previous chat I had or is it just me?

Hi, So I realised I'm asexual about a year ago, and I'm out to a few close friends, which I'm totally fine with. Some other friends I have have had a few conversations over the past year that I'm completely fine with, but have made me kind of worried - generally, that because sex is an important par...