Hi Sian! Thank you for your response! Indeed, what I know in my head doesn't line up with what I feel in my heart... which is very frustrating. Thank you for the advice and for the worksheet! They're a big help. Although, the problem now is that I am not sure on how I'll "feel" these thoug...

Hi Scarleteen! Recently, my partner confided in me that he/she had sexual intercourse with his/her ex when they were still together and it was his/her first time doing so. It's totally fine since it's the past; no biggie. However, why do I feel hurt, upset, and disappointed that I am not the first p...

Oh okayy.. yeah, it makes sense. I'm just struggling a bit because I'm trying to be a sex-positive person and currently unlearning things from "purity culture" imposed by my family and school and it's very very internalized in me. anyway, thanks a lot, Sam!

PS: sorry for the late reply

Are sexual fantasies okay? Specifically, is fantasizing about my partner okay? I feel like I'm violating them when I imagine them having sex/making out with me while I'm masturbating. And I feel a bit guilty about it, like I'm doing something wrong.