I guess another thing I’m thinking about is what are boundaries I can set with her? Cause lately, because she has broken so many of my boundaries and I’ve lost trust in her, I’ve felt like maybe I should have any boundaries at all so nothing she does can hurt me. I know that’s not practical or right...

I guess another thing I’m thinking about is what are boundaries I can set with her? Cause lately, because she has broken so many of my boundaries and I’ve lost trust in her, I’ve felt like maybe I should have any boundaries at all so nothing she does can hurt me. I know that’s not practical or right...

I don’t know anymore to be completely honest. I’m distraught. I’m having a hard time accepting that this is happening. We’ve been together for two years and I never even thought of the possibility that this could ever happen because our relationship was so healthy. And for this to just happen from o...

So lately I’ve been really down because of all the stress this relationship has caused me and my partner wants me to be her support system for the death of her mother. And I’m doing that the best I can, but I can’t help but feel a certain way about her and our relationship. Yesterday I told her I di...

We were supposed to have couples counseling today but the therapist rescheduled for Wednesday. I’m disappointed because my partner and I were really looking forward to it, but that’s something we can’t really control. I guess another issue I’ve ran into is how to be okay again with my friend who my ...

So, my partner and I have been working things out and things seemed to be getting better, but it's again getting rough. It really feels like a rollercoaster. My partner all of a sudden told me that she wanted to be a single parent because she wants to feel connected to her mother since her mother wa...

Thank you. I really appreciate all the help and support you have all given me.

If she never admits wrongdoing and insists it wasn’t wrong, then yes. To me that’s a really big red flag and shows that she isn’t really understanding of her actions and we can’t move on as a couple if she can’t do that. She’s never done something like this which is why I was caught so off guard, an...

Thank you. That means a lot. I really have been trying my best in this whole situation and I appreciate that acknowledgment. I also appreciate the advice. I think we’ll be able to work it out in therapy, I just can’t help but feel like she intentionally did not set clear boundaries with me because s...

My partner and I talked yet again and we agreed to go to couples therapy because this problem is just too big to handle on our own. I feel very hurt and betrayed and I don’t know how I’m going to get over these feelings and be able to open up the relationship with her. That’s what she wants and she ...

So I decided to come clean to my partner again about all my feelings and tell her that I’m not exactly ready for a polyamorous relationship at this moment because I felt like we weren’t ready for it. Then, my partner told me that her and her crush actually kissed days ago (when she told me they had ...

I think something I just realized is that my polyamorous identity does not automatically give consent to a polyamorous relationship. Just because I consider polyamory an identity and that’s the way I identify does not give consent to my partner to open the relationship up without my consent. And, af...

I feel like now she’s even more so pressuring me to open our relationship cause her crush just broke up with her monogamous girlfriend…

Im just a little scared to tell her how she hurt me and set those boundaries because I’m scared she’s going to tell me I’m not being considerate of her grief, which is what’s she’s been doing lately. Whenever I tell her something that’s been bothering me, she kinda tells me that I’m not considering ...

We’ve been dating for more than two and a half years now and this is the first time she’s treated me this way. I know her mom meant A LOT to her because she believes she was also in her past life (maybe she’s projecting those feelings onto her new crush?) and she’s been showing signs of an emotional...

Thank you for the advice! I actually ended up having a long talk with her and she said that the reason she has been acting that way towards me is not because of her crush, but because her mom got COVID and just recently died so she was in a vulnerable state and kind of took it out in our relationshi...

Hey everyone. I’m new here and just want some advice. I’m currently in a polyam relationship with a partner and recently she started developing feelings for one of our friends. I’m happy for her and I want her to be happy too, however, she’s been treating me off when we hang around her crush and her...