Hello, That does sound like a good plan! I agree that not having expectation to what I should do does make me feel better about just exploring what I like freely. The reason that I brought up having a trust-worthy partner may make things easier is because as a demisexual person, having sexual attrac...

Hello, Thank you for the reply! That last part of your reply is extremely reassuring to hear. I guess that a part of me is just worried that I won't be able to pleasure other people and will then result in a failed relationship. Or the possibility that something about my body is physically wrong. Bu...

Hello, I think that when i took the time to actually get aroused and just be patient with myself, it makes inserting my finger significantly easier. So i guess that i should just take everything slower and do it when i'm actually feeling it. As for the dilators, i don't think that is something i rea...

Hi, so as a afab demisexual person who has never had sex in their entire life, I'm kinda afraid that I won't be able to do penetrative sex in the future (if that ever happens) When I was little, i used to feel pain around my vagina when i try to masturbate or have sexual thoughts. I now guess that t...

Hi Sam,

Thank you for the clear response! So does that mean I should just be patient with my emotions for now and try to not overthink about all this? All of these weird feelings should pass eventually right?

oh and another thing worthy of note is that my period for this month ended about 2 weeks ago, so like around September, 5th. so maybe my mood changing has something to do with that as well?

So I've been feeling more tired and more anxiety recently, then I checked my period tracker app, and it shows that I'm on ovulation week right now. Is it normal for me to feel more tired and anxious than usual during these times? I think I used to experience similar feelings, but this month has been...

hey Michaela, yes, we still text mostly as our form of socializing. it's mostly due to my preference and our culture i think. I've never called my best friend on my cellphone, just because we aren't really comfortable with it, and we just prefer texting. other than texting, I've invited them to go t...

hi Nicole, So my relationship and how i develop a crush on them is kinda... unconventional i would say. we weren't classmates in any of my school years because I'm 1 year older than them, we just kept in contact via text messages every once and a while. I realized my crush for them around last year,...

Hello, so I've been having a crush on a long-time friend, and basically someone I don't have a chance with for now. They're going to college this summer in a different city that's kinda far away. I'm not trying to get them to date me or confess my feelings or anything like that. I just can't help bu...

hi Sam, thank you for the reply! I've been allowing myself to feel those sad feelings these days, and try my best not to blame myself or trash talk myself. I guess it's been great so far since I feel less troubled by it. So now I'm wondering, do you think it'll be okay for me to ask how they're doin...

Hi, so there's this person who I have a crush on for a year now. We weren't super close friends, but I've known them since childhood, and basically text three or four times a year since our lives don't have that much in common. I know this may sound like an unlikely scenario to develop a crush on so...

hi Sam, I don't think I have a specific reason to be scared of getting an infection, it's just that I read about people getting one when they didn't properly clean their hands. It could also just be caused by my anxiousness over this whole thing, I'm prone to being an overthinker haha. Anyways, than...

So I've been exploring my body a bit more and have been trying to touch around my vagina area to see how I feel, but I'm a bit scared that I'll get an infection. Before I touch myself, I washed my hands multiple times and didn't stick my finger into myself because I feel like I'm not ready for that ...

So, I'm currently a single, afab person. I've realized that I haven't felt aroused or horny in some time. Before, I can feel aroused a week prior my period, and I can also feel aroused when reading fan fiction that have sexual content. I usually masturbate 3~4 times a month. It may not seem like a l...

For context, I'm on the aromantic/asexual spectrum, and this person is my first ever crush in my entire life. So all of this romantic feelings are kinda overwhelming, and is making more anxious whenever I text them. So I realized that whenever I message my crush, I always feel like I wrote the wrong...

Hi Sian, What I want about my gender...hmm... I think I prefer shorter hair, not like a complete pixie cut, but like around my ears, which is actually my current hair style! I actually felt genuinely happy when I saw my reflection in the mirror with shorter hair, I feel like it's the hair style I wa...

I think I tend to feel that, this person in the mirror doesn't look like me, I know the personality is me, but the appearance is just weird. I'll feel like wanting to look different, but I don't have certain parts of me that I wanna change. I guess I was a bit self-conscious of how my eyes and face ...

Hi Sam, I think they tend to focus on my face and sometimes chest. So when I walk into a bathroom, I see my face in the mirror, I'll get that weird feeling of wanting to look away. Or when I'm taking a shower, sometimes I'll try to look away and try not to see my chest's reflection in the mirror. It...

So my relationship with my gender identity is weird. I'm AFAB, sometimes I feel so happy to be in a feminine body. I love my voice, curly hair and just everything about my own body. Everything just feels so natural, and being female feels like the best thing in the world. However, every once and a w...

Hi Sam,

Gotcha, thank you so much for the reply! Have a nice day/night.

So I recently started thinking I may be demisexual since I have only had 1 actual crush in my whole life, I've known them for 8 years, and they're the only person that I have ever experienced sexual attraction to. I was really surprised at first to discover that it isn't "normal" to want t...

Hi Heather Thank you for the empathetic and reassuring response, it really calmed me down a lot. I think for now I'll try my best to focus on my own mental health, good news is I can probably go to therapy again in September, so maybe I'll talk to them about managing my anxiety and stress. Thanks ag...

So I've been experiencing irregular period cycles for the past year or so. Ever since late 2021, when I started preparing for my college entrance exam, my periods became really close to each other, like 20 days apart, but they were still somewhat regular. After the exam (which was in January 2022), ...

Hi Sam

Ok! Thanks so much for the tip!
If it's ok, can I ask for the links to the articles that you mentioned? Since personally I want to learn more about the idea of gender too!