Hi qg21tfio, That's great that you have priorities of self-improvement and your studies! From what you wrote it sounds like you are finding your masturbation habits to be interfering with other things that you want to do and you are wanting to decrease the frequency that you masturbate. What would a...

Hi Max3_3, Everything you wrote was very clear and understandable. I am not well educated on the healthcare system in Italy but potentially providing all the details you have given to us as well as the immense anxiety you are feeling over it could help to find a sooner appointment. Are there telemed...

Hi Jay27, Like Latha said it is possible that positions during sex might cause some back pain after the fact. I thought I would pop in a couple of suggestions for making different positions a little more comfortable that maybe you have or haven’t tried. Things to think about would be trying position...

Hi there naurmi008! Happy to put your worries to an end! Sperm can only live for a very short time outside of the body. So, even if your boyfriend did masturbate 1-2 hours before you met up the sperm would definitely not be alive and capable of getting you pregnant. Nevertheless, practicing some bas...

Hi Sky, I’m so sorry to hear that you had a sexual experience that you were pressured into and you are right you did nothing wrong. It seems like it has been an intense past day or so for you reflecting and digging into this. Taking steps, like deleting the photos, sounds like a good choice to be fo...

Hi Lightupthestage, I can definitely see how trying to explain aspects of your gender and sexuality seems like an intimidating and daunting task. It might not be possible to have it all figured out and perfected into a neat little sentence description but that’s fine too and when it comes to questio...

Hi FluffyKitty, In brief, for someone with a penis, orgasm happens at the height of sexual excitement and sensation where the prostate gland contracts along with the vas deferens and seminal vesicles causing the ejaculation of semen (you can find helpful diagrams in this article ). At the same time,...

Hi FluffyKitty,

I'm glad that the article was helpful! It's always good to do check-in's about what things we are or are not ready for, especially when it comes to sex.

Hi Lazulirose, I’m so sorry that that situation happened to you. It sounds like it felt very violating and in situations where our bodies experience stress and shock like that one of the normal responses is to freeze which seems like what might have happened to you. I’m glad to hear that you were ab...

Hi nono_nono, No problem! We are happy to help! No, EC and pregnancy tests wouldn’t be necessary. I also want to ask, what types of birth control methods are you and your girlfriend using normally? With sex, it’s always better to lean into the preventative side to avoid situations after the fact whe...

Hi Sparklingstar, First off, I want add that the pin idea sounds very cute and a nice way to show them that you care about them and are supportive of their future goals. I’m glad to hear that you were able to have some support during a hard time for you, that can truly make a difference. I know that...

Hi nono_nono and welcome to the Scarleteen boards! From the situation that you described, there would not be any chance of pregnancy. First of all, there was no ejaculation and if there was sperm in the precum it can only survive for a very short time outside the body. Your girlfriend then not only ...

Hi Ellie, I hope you don’t mind me jumping into your thread. First off I want to address your questions about porn. We can’t really say a number of what is the “proper amount” to watch or not because it depends on the person and what feels right to them. It might be too much if you find that watchin...

Hi Vin789, When you say you feel nothing are you meaning you are not feeling any pleasure? Or that you are feeling no sensation at all? I want to circle back to something Sam mentioned above about how mentally engaged you are. The reason I want to go back to this is because our brain is actually the...

Hi blu_envy, I’m sorry to hear that the experience did not go as you had hoped. Sexual desire and arousal can be complicated with who we find attractive and arousing at a given moment or not and it’s totally fine if you don’t fully understand why at the moment. It can take time to sort through those...

Hi mementomori, When you wrote that you try not to think about it, I’m assuming that you’re talking about the pressure to orgasm, which is great because worrying and stressing would interfere with arousal and pleasure. So, what types of things do you tend to be thinking about during masturbation? Th...

Hi UnicornKitty, I hope you don’t mind me hopping in towards the end of this thread. It’s great that you have felt comfortable enough to talk to your mum a little bit about your past, that must not have been easy. It sounds like you have a solid plan to start finding a therapist to work with you. Ar...

Hi Depressed mess, I’m glad to hear you have been checking in with them about this and you have a time set to have this conversation. As Nicole said above, it is really great that you are taking the initiative to talk this through. It shows the respect you have for yourself and what you need and the...

Hi Alriune, Thanks for adding the additional context. So it sounds like you are wanting to focus on making more in-person relationships (friendships and dating) that feel substantial and deep. Being a little terrified to reach out to people you are interested in can definitely be terrifying and with...

Hi Spuka, You mentioned multiple things in your post. First, is the physical pain and discomfort you are feeling from penetration. Have you consulted your doctor or gynecologist about this before? Pain with penetration is something a lot of people come onto our boards experiencing. We have this real...

Hi alriune, We would be happy to help with some coping and self-care strategies. First, I have a couple of questions. Are you looking for advice more based on dealing with the frustration you feel towards your body? Self-care around masturbation? Or self-care strategies more generally? It might also...

Hi sof_ia44, It is normal to feel a little uncomfortable and I think you hit the nail pretty well on the head when you mentioned heteronormativity. Coming to terms with sexuality that is counter to what all the messaging around you is saying can be really fricken scary and hard. Do you have any spec...

Hi brandii,

Have you noticed any pharmacies with staff that you could talk to about the symptoms that you are having? They would be more educated to be able to point you in the direction of an over-the-counter medication that could help.

Hi anonym05, Heather mentioned it above when they spoke about how the urethra doesn’t have many sensory capabilities, however, it is very close to the clitoris which is the mega-sensory location (you can see it in the diagram in this article). For some people, the clitoris can be extremely sensitive...

Hi SillyMcGoof, It sounds like your worries surround the label and fitting in or not with that label. Is that right? As Heather mentioned above, feelings, attraction, and sexuality can all be a little complicated (an understatement, of course) and everchanging throughout our life but definitely arou...