thanks so much for the articles, sorry i didn’t reply earlier I’m back from the holiday i was sending all these messages on and I’m just so tired. I have to do schoolwork and I just can’t but we cancelled my music class yesterday because i was meeting up with a friend but i genuinely don’t think i c...

do you have any resources on dealing with mood swings maybe? or living with a chronic illness?

okay well i talked to my mom and it didnt go great. which i understand bc she's recovering from a migraine and is trying to sort out dinner so she doesnt really have the headspace to like comfort me and listen rn. but talking to my dad isnt going to go well either because he is not great with emotio...

yeah, i think they would probably listen. i think like, they are mostly on my side and they're trying to help me. they just dont really get a lot of how i'm feeling so i think talking about it will probably be beneficial. i'll give it a try and probably come back and say how it went

yeah, that does make sense. i know i should be kinder to myself. it's just so stressful. i don't know, maybe i should try explaining all this to my parents a little. i also know that a lot of the intensity i'm feeling right now about all this is like. Because i'm on my period. so. yeah. i'll probabl...

ahh i'm glad you think so! yeah it sucks. i think it's just like. no one around me really understands and it feels like if i'm not trying everything i can to make it better, then no one is going to take my exhaustion seriously. but i genuinely can't do a lot of them, and i keep missing my floradix p...

hi CaitlinEve! it’s good to hear I’m not alone in all this lol yeah, i don’t know. I guess it’s less about trying to prove the pain of my period than like, wanting to “legitimise” everything else I’m suffering with. Everyone understands and gets pain, so they understand how I’m feeling when I’m in p...

That's great!! i'm glad to hear it So, i'm not an expert, but I know that sperm outside the body or a condom only survives for a few minutes at most. Not only that, but hot water - if that's what you used to clean it - would kill it in seconds. Then, even if it did somehow survive and ended up on th...

hi Caleb! i hope you don't mind me replying, as i'm not a member of staff. personally I really don't think this is a risk. the chances of this happening are very, very low. i absolutely hear your worry and concern, and i understand how hard it can be to *not* worry about something! but i really doub...

urgh i've started my period and i haven't gotten cramps yet but it's already awful. had a bit of a breakdown talking to my mom today over all this stuff i've been talking about and how bad i feel about not eating right and not getting all that much exercise and like, my body, and like how immediatel...

thanks Sofi, it DOES suck. But honestly yeah I’m not doing awful. And I’m looking forward to university. i actually will be going in the year I turn 19, so I have some time to do things like a legal gender/name change (thankfully very simple once you’re 18, where i am) and hopefully get a binder. i ...

hi Sofi! yeah, i try my best. it's just hard, and I know that I *could* do more, but... again... fatigue makes it harder honestly i get the impression that she's not going to budge. i guess i could try, but i think it would honestly just stress both of us out, and not lead anywhere. she's very firm ...

hi aarija!! thanks so much for your thoughtful reply :) about the eating habits: - Usually I eat three meals a day with occasional snacks. Honestly, I think most days I wouldn't really have snacks? Some days i *really* want snacks though. - I usually try to go for fruit, like oranges or apples, if i...

so i have pcos. i haven't been like completely officially diagnosed, but i and my doctor agree that it's probably the case - the blood test results he took match up with it, and i have oligomenorrhea (infrequent periods - i had a 114 day cycle not long ago), as well as facial hair. he put me on birt...

Hi CaitlinEve, thank you for your reply! Being Ollie definitely feels right. I feel the most "me" with that name and he/him pronouns. Everyone calling me those just- feels right! I've been called "sir" and "he" by people who don't know me before, even though I don't bin...

Woof, a whole year? Man. Okay, well, hi! I'm back! A while ago now I had a conversation with my mom at a restaurant. We'd organized a time to go and talk about The Whole Gender Thing. I expressed to her that I didn't know how to explain my internal experience of gender to her and my dad, and that it...

So uhh it didn't really work? Over the summer, I went to a three week summer camp and my parents talked with me beforehand about how I was gonna present myself. It was good because we were like, being honest with each other, but it seems like they think I'm nonbinary? They said it might be good for ...

I don't know, I'm not sure he'll do it until he has our parents' "permission"?? He's still pretty dependent on them for most things, including direction about what he's allowed to do, so yeah. I think I'm gonna tell my parents soon, my grandparents are staying over right now so I'll wait t...

Hi DesertSonny!! That article's very interesting and I might try some of that out. Yeah, I don't know, I think he's aware of what's happening - like he understands that I'm trans - it's just he tends to defer to our parents on this stuff, which I don't blame him for. I don't really think he'll take ...

Yeah, I can say for certain it won't put me in danger. And I think you're right that I should frame it as a thing that's happening regardless. He's 12, going on 13, but he's a lot more... childish?? than I was at that age (not quite the right word, but yknow. I think it's just because he has an olde...

Hmmm, yeah, that might be a good idea. I would like to have my parents' approval, but we'll see where it goes. Yeah, I think I'll tell them that, hopefully it'll open up more of a conversation about What I Want To Do Next rather than Why Do I Want To Do This. I think if nothing changes, I might end ...

I think the second one might be about right to use. Not sure if they'd listen to it, though I don't really think being harsh would help much, I'm just kind of angry. I do live with my uncle and my aunt, as well as my immediate family, and I think if I told them they'd support me. But if I had a situ...

Hi Sam!! Yeah, I guess that's true. But often our chats about this stuff end up with them asking me *why* I'm trans, and me trying to explain why, even though I can't. I feel like I've been caving too easily to them, because I do tend to try and avoid conflict, so I feel like if I tell them, "N...

Hi there!!! So: It's been a little over two years since I first came out as a trans guy to my parents. I am, to be perfectly honest, pissed that they aren't accepting it already. My mother's sibling (idk what a gender neutral version of aunt/uncle), and their husband, are very queer and very support...

I honestly can't really imagine what their reactions would be aha. I think maybe I'll just have to talk to them and see how it goes?

I don't think I'm quite ready yet though, not sure when I will be, but I'll wait a while and see what happens
Thank you for your help!!!