Thank you Carly! I just watched Emily Nagoski's talk (thank you for that btw!). I liked Pavlov reference of how the dog doesn't want to eat the bell or thinks the bell tastes good. And the point on "genital behavior doesn't predict subjective experience". The aspect that I am still hung up...

I have a childhood trauma history. When my nervous system is very activated, my body (I have a vulva) has a response similar to sexual arousal with lubricating/ “getting wet”/ swelling/ etc… It’s really confusing, and I feel a lot of shame and powerlessness around this. To clarify- I don’t feel sexu...