Thanks so much. That's all very true and helpful. I had a new thought this morning. A friend told me that she felt it was problematic to place so much emphasis on the idea that people don't choose their sexual orientation, they are born that way, because it should also be fine and accepted if people...

I have gone from spending most of my life (I'm 50) with a quiet, private knowledge that there is something up with my gender identity, to considering that "if I was a teenager today I'd probably identify as NB" to actually accepting that the label applies to me. (coincidentally followed th...

Whenever I hear a "trans person tried to pressure me into sex" story, I wonder why the trans part needs to be so stressed.

That is an excellent point.

Thanks. That makes a lot of sense. I need to think carefully about the idea of genital preference. It's not something I experience myself so I have no idea how it is for others. I was wondering about this particular issue because a person was banned from a forum I'm on for sharing a story of somethi...

Thanks that's very helpful. And sensible. The "label vs story" idea is actually also very applicable to questions about my autism. It's another example of being a certain way that can't be explained quickly and efficiently, although people seem to expect it. I would appreciate book recomme...

I suspect this is very much a "gender 101" basic question so if the answer is just a link to a Gender For Beginners article I do understand! :) If I stumble into being offensive or use the wrong terms, please understand that I'm new at this and open to learning what I'm misunderstanding. A...

Fantastic! Thanks that's very welcoming and reassuring

I was recommended Scarleteen as a safe place to learn about gender identity. Problem is, I'm very much not a teenager. I'm 50 😑 I recently realised that the oddness about my gender identity I've known about all my life can be described as being non binary and I would like to find out more about that...