Hi! I agree a lot with what you're saying, if only it was so easy to sift out the terror and anxiety. I've been seeking more support from friends and started going back to a support group for trans folx. That's been helpful. I had a moment of clarity when talking to my friend, when she mentioned I w...

Hi! I apologize for back to back posting. I woke up feeling completely terrified. I'm just honestly freaking out. I have an appointment tomorrow with my gender therapist so I think that will maybe help me emotionally regulate. I don't really know how to filter out the absolute terror and getting to ...

I appreciate the reframing! That definitely makes sense rationally, but it definitely freaks out the emotional side of my brain. I think I'm honestly just scared and don't know where to start, maybe it's like using those pronouns with my therapist. It's like doing some of the smallest steps is terri...

Hi! To your last question about identifying as a trans man, I honestly feel gut reaction terrified. I don't know if it's one of those things where I need to try out that identity to tease apart my emotions around it (ex: using he/him pronouns). I honestly just feel terrified when I think about it. W...

Hi Heather, Thanks for your reply! Yeah, I think I'm going to try and embrace more trans support group. It would just give me people to talk to and sort out my experiences. I'm going to honestly start taking the steps to start HRT and see how it goes. Maybe there's a way to deal with this... I'm thi...

Hi, i have a two part question! I was wondering if you have any general advice for someone who is feeling still shame and a bit of denial over settling into my gender identity, specifically leaning into my masculinity. I just feel shame for going against cisnormativity and lot of fear over being dee...

Thank you! I guess I’m particularly uncomfortable by people perceiving me and having to adapt to my changes. I’m afraid I just won’t be even further romantically desirable too. I’ve never felt romantically desirable from the start. It’s not really so much about immediate safety that’s at the forefro...

Hi there, Thank you! I'm afraid of both transition in general and taking T. I'm fearful of being perceived and people noticing changes about me. I'm afraid of regretting the effects of T. It feels like a scary space peeling back layers of myself that feel inauthentic. There's a lot of potential, but...

Hi there! I've been increasingly feeling overwhelmed with my gender identity. I've mentioned in past posts here about navigating and understanding my voice dysphoria. I've come to the realization that my extreme discomfort of my voice creates a lot of "buzzing white noise" that occupies my...

Hi! I've been kind of thinking about starting HRT, but I'm not sure. This is probably something to talk in detail with my gender therapist. I know something feels off for me, particularly around my voice. I'm uncomfortable to speak. I'm just uncertain about starting HRT, because I don't know if I wa...

Hi there, I've posted in the past about sorting out my gender identity and I would still say I'm on that journey. Though I've made some good small steps (e.g., sharing my situation with loved ones and housemates), I still feel really uncomfortable and admittedly a little ashamed of myself. I think i...

Hi there, I agree that I'm still sorting things out and haven't landed on anything definitive. I've noticed myself spiraling kind of into analysis paralysis, which seems on par for me. I'm kind of at an impasse where I'm doing a lot of internal thinking and pressuring to rush things, but not engagin...

I just wanted to add I think the stress of it feels unbearable and compounding. Especially amid other big life changes and transitions going on for me in my mid-20s. It feels pretty unsettling, scary, and debilitating. I'm feeling pretty scared about this gender crisis and alone in it.

Hi there! Thanks for responding. Really appreciate the support via this forum, especially since my next therapy appointment is next week. I think the prospect of it being vocal dysphoria really, really scares me if I'm being truly honest. I think it scares me because it would entail doing something ...

Thank you! Yes, I think it's a big accomplishment too. In terms of baby steps, I recently shared what I'm going through with a loved one despite feeling fearful. I'm glad I did it b/c it was positively received. I'm struggling at the moment with how to deal and address something that's nagging at me...

Hi there, Yes, I think that's a good idea. I'm planning to raise it with my gender therapist this week. Regarding loved ones, I'm just anxious about sharing my gender exploration b/c it feels scary and I think it would feel more real, my gender struggle. If I zoom out, I can tell that I'm overwhelme...

Hey there, Apologies for replying late to this message! I appreciate you sharing that link. This is kind of related, but I'm actually in the process of working gender therapist which I think is a helpful next step. I definitely think this is something I can chat about in session, but I definitely te...

Hi there! I’ve posted before about coming to grips with questioning my gender identity as a FTM person, which is something I’m navigating while dealing with OCD. Having OCD can kind of complicate matters and make for intolerance of uncertainty. Despite it, I want to embrace this uncertainty. I’m beg...

Yeah those are good points but I don’t even feel particularly excited to explore gender expression. I feel like my mind is ruminating and ruminating that I can’t make any moves so that’s kind of why I wanna settle my OCD if that makes sense. I’m just confused what to do and maybe talking it out in m...

I agree. I’m having second thoughts even though I scheduled a initial consultation with a gender therapists. Sorry to make this complicated, but I’m a person with diagnosed OCD. My OCD has involved gender obsessions and I wonder if I should get my OCD settled before gender exploration? It’s like I’m...

Thanks!! That’s a helpful resource.

I think it’s helpful to frame my journey as going towards more authentic self expression as opposed towards going to labels. I think I just feel really nervous and should see a gender therapist.

Hi there, In terms of clothing I would be interested in trying maybe a tie? other than that I can’t think of anything else. I’m wondering if I’m drawing a blank because I’m not thinking creatively. It’s weird I feel like frozen to think through ideas. I’m not particularly interested in trying out li...

Hi, Thank you for the offer!! I haven’t really tried out anything at home or in the more public sphere due to anxiety. I guess I’m feeling overwhelmed and need to break through that impasse. Something I’ve been considering is maybe getting a shorter haircut since I’ve always worn my hair long. Anoth...

Hi there, I’m AFAB and recently have been struggling a lot with my gender identity in a short period of time. I think I’ve always known that my relationship with gender was rocky and uncomfortable but haven’t pieced it completely together until now. It’s pretty intense, nerve wracking and overwhelmi...