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by Amanda B
Sun Nov 12, 2023 1:45 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masterbation doesn't feel wonderful to me.
Replies: 17
Views: 35787

Re: Masterbation doesn't feel wonderful to me.

Hey Rachel 1,

Just wanted to pop in here and let you know we can continue discussing this in the other question thread you have about orgasming without touching yourself.
by Amanda B
Sun Nov 12, 2023 1:43 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: How do I have a orgasm without touching myself?
Replies: 10
Views: 68173

Re: How do I have a orgasm without touching myself?

Hi Rachel 1, People experience pleasure and orgasm differently, and it can even vary for individuals. Many people feel "different types" of orgasms from different stimulation. Too, something that makes one person orgasm and feel good may not work for another person. I'll reiterate Sofi's p...
by Amanda B
Sun Nov 05, 2023 3:48 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: masturbation
Replies: 11
Views: 41298

Re: masturbation

I'm glad it sounds like your mom was supportive around conversations about sexuality. Is a sex toy something you'd be interested in trying since your mom offered to support that exploration? Sex toys come in many forms, and there are tons of options that focus only on external stimulation, so you do...
by Amanda B
Sun Nov 05, 2023 1:42 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Bottom gender dysphoria stuff - cum and pee
Replies: 13
Views: 57303

Re: Bottom gender dysphoria stuff - cum and pee

Hi anonym05, To clarify, when you're referring to 'cumming' are you referring to ejaculating? In addition to being able to ejaculate being a gender affirming experience, could you speak a little more about your current interest in being able to cum? Are there any particular sensations or feelings, e...
by Amanda B
Sun Nov 05, 2023 1:30 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: masturbation
Replies: 11
Views: 41298

Re: masturbation

Hi emi, As my colleagues have mentioned, masturbation can be common for kids. After all, it just feels good! When your mom did bring things up with you, how did it make you feel? Masturbation is nothing to be ashamed of, but sometimes people in our lives, and society as a whole, can make us feel thi...
by Amanda B
Sat Oct 14, 2023 7:15 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Why does this keep happening?
Replies: 9
Views: 8049

Re: Why does this keep happening?

Hi AttaccaAmoeba44, Thanks for giving us more information about how these feelings are experienced. Have you ever acted on these feelings for one of these people? I understand wanting to maintain friendships, but it could be the unknown of being in a romantic relationship that's causing these obsess...
by Amanda B
Mon Oct 02, 2023 1:05 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: short period and weird symptoms?
Replies: 6
Views: 38021

Re: short period and weird symptoms?

I'm glad to hear it sounds like she's been helpful and open about talking about these things in the past. I'll reiterate starting the conversation within a space and time you're comfortable with, and reminding yourself of how helpful she's been in the past. You'll probably still be nervous, and that...
by Amanda B
Mon Oct 02, 2023 1:01 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: orgasming alone/ with a partner
Replies: 3
Views: 48213

Re: orgasming alone/ with a partner

Hi latte, We can definitely get into sexual habits, but we can also break away from these habits with some time. It sounds like starting with using audio erotica was successful, which is a great first step to what it sounds like your goal is, climaxing with your partner without porn. I am also notic...
by Amanda B
Mon Oct 02, 2023 12:49 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: trouble masturbating
Replies: 4
Views: 197093

Re: trouble masturbating

Hi el298, I love our article, How Do You Masturbate? It goes over all the ways someone may decide to masturbate, so you may find something there you haven't tried before. Many people with vaginas are unable to experience pleasure by internal stimulation alone, therefore I'd recommend focusing on the...
by Amanda B
Mon Oct 02, 2023 12:41 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: short period and weird symptoms?
Replies: 6
Views: 38021

Re: short period and weird symptoms?

I'd recommend asking to talk with her in a space you're most comfortable in, like your bedroom or another cozy spot. What has your experience been like in the past talking to your mom about things like this? Have the two of you discussed puberty and other body changes? Chances are, your mom may also...
by Amanda B
Mon Oct 02, 2023 12:37 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: How do I handle this
Replies: 3
Views: 81873

Re: How do I handle this

Hi Anon511515, I want to start by saying none of this is your fault. We believe what happened to you and are so sorry you have been put in this position. I'm glad you've been able to find support. The support network you are working with cannot prosecute him without your permission. Legal action wou...
by Amanda B
Mon Oct 02, 2023 12:12 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: short period and weird symptoms?
Replies: 6
Views: 38021

Re: short period and weird symptoms?

Hi bluebrry, It's really common to have irregular periods, especially in younger people. Without any activity that could cause pregnancy, rest assured these irregularities are not due to pregnancy. Many things can affect our periods, and you're absolutely right that anxiety is one of them. Everythin...
by Amanda B
Sun Sep 24, 2023 1:38 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I masturbate with a big stuffed bear is this normal? Is there a way to make this better?
Replies: 1
Views: 35778

Re: I masturbate with a big stuffed bear is this normal? Is there a way to make this better?

Hi dontaskneverask, To answer your question, yes, it's completely normal to masturbate with a teddy bear. As far as sexual expression goes, there's no such thing as "normal", as long as everything is consensual and harm is not being done. So, if it feels good, go for it! I am unsure how to...
by Amanda B
Sun Sep 24, 2023 12:03 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Having sex as a trans guy?
Replies: 3
Views: 8356

Re: Having sex as a trans guy?

Hey Dyingdreams,

Do you have any shirts you'd be comfortable cropping? It doesn't even need to be a full crop, just enough so the parts you want uncovered can be uncovered. I've done a quick DIY at home with just an old t-shirt and some scissors.
by Amanda B
Sun Sep 17, 2023 2:17 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Driving
Replies: 6
Views: 1513

Re: Driving

I'm glad to hear you're going to attend driving school! Would you believe me if I said the instructors are professionals who teach people just like you every day, therefore they're unlikely to judge? Driving instructors work with tons of people and are exposed to many forms of anxiety around driving...
by Amanda B
Sun Sep 17, 2023 2:14 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Crush paranoia?
Replies: 9
Views: 10211

Re: Crush paranoia?

I'm sorry this anxiety is interfering with your schoolwork. I'd like to revisit something you mentioned earlier in the thread, the 'tiny part' of you that 'keeps going "what if...?" What are you contemplating here? I'm asking because breaking down this anxious thought process may help us f...
by Amanda B
Sun Sep 17, 2023 2:09 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Driving
Replies: 6
Views: 1513

Re: Driving

I hear that. I was quite anxious when I first started learning how to drive myself, but a great instructor and plenty of practice helped ease my anxiety. What's your plan to learn? Do you have friends or family members you can practice with? Do you have a formal instructor who you plan to learn from?
by Amanda B
Sun Sep 17, 2023 1:59 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Driving
Replies: 6
Views: 1513

Re: Driving

Hey carrotcake122, It's completely understandable to be nervous about a new experience. It's also common to experience nerves and excitement at the same time, with trouble deciphering between the two. I hear you say that you feel ready to learn to drive, but are still experiencing some anxiety. Wher...
by Amanda B
Sun Sep 17, 2023 12:46 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: New-school-year self care
Replies: 3
Views: 15620

Re: New-school-year self care

I love this question! I am a few months into a new job and it definitely still feels like an adjustment. One of my favorite things to do is to remember to give myself grace. If I make a mistake or find myself particularly stressed, I try to treat myself like I'd treat a good friend. I remind myself ...
by Amanda B
Sun Sep 17, 2023 12:42 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I can't masturbate, I'm a 19 year old female
Replies: 27
Views: 92381

Re: I can't masturbate, I'm a 19 year old female

Hi PleaseHelpAsap, I'd like to start by clarifying a few things to make sure we can best support you. It sounds like you started masturbating after getting into a relationship. Were you interested in masturbation before this relationship? Did you feel at all pressured to start masturbating in this n...
by Amanda B
Sun Sep 17, 2023 12:33 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Crush paranoia?
Replies: 9
Views: 10211

Re: Crush paranoia?

Hey mari,

How does the anxiety you feel about this potential crush on a teacher compare to the anxiety you've felt around other crushes? If it's different, why do you think that is? If the anxiety feels the same, can you in down where exactly that anxiety may be coming from?
by Amanda B
Mon Sep 11, 2023 1:46 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: my partner is ace and im not and im not sure what to do
Replies: 55
Views: 323631

Re: my partner is ace and im not and im not sure what to do

I think you've already expressed that sentiment with what you have. You're very clear that the relationship isn't working for you, but you show you care about them by expressing an interest in potentially continuing a friendship. I'd say it's good to go. How is your comfort level around sending it?
by Amanda B
Mon Sep 11, 2023 1:30 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: my partner is ace and im not and im not sure what to do
Replies: 55
Views: 323631

Re: my partner is ace and im not and im not sure what to do

Okay great! Happy to hear how the progress goes with seeking out groups in the community. Thank you for sending your draft of the message. This looks great! I like how you're clear about your feelings and boundaries. I am wary of including "best I get out now before things get worse". I on...
by Amanda B
Mon Sep 11, 2023 1:15 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: my partner is ace and im not and im not sure what to do
Replies: 55
Views: 323631

Re: my partner is ace and im not and im not sure what to do

Thank you for letting us know and being open to discussing this! I'm glad you and your mom have started trying to figure out how to make friends in person. I'm curious to hear what the two of you have discussed or tried so far, so we can best guide you. If you haven't already tried, getting involved...
by Amanda B
Mon Sep 11, 2023 1:09 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Can taking a break work?
Replies: 17
Views: 50709

Re: Can taking a break work?

Hi Jay27, You're right that being friends with an ex doesn't always mean it's a red flag. Relationships vary so much, so it's very possible that being friends after a breakup can work really well for people. From what you've told us, it does sound like the two of you care about each other and have i...