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by Amanda B
Sun Jul 16, 2023 1:34 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: am I pregnant or not?
Replies: 21
Views: 11021

Re: am I pregnant or not?

Hi abii, Can you let me know what barriers you are facing when it comes to buying the pregnancy test? If you are unable to afford the test, I'll reiterate my colleague's suggestion to ask the person you had sex with for assistance if this feels safe. You may also ask friends or family members for he...
by Amanda B
Sun Jul 16, 2023 1:21 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I feel in love with my lesbian best friend
Replies: 22
Views: 45584

Re: I feel in love with my lesbian best friend

Hi Buckey17, I'd like to reiterate what my colleague suggested earlier in this thread about finding community online. It sounds like online groups may have some similar interests as you, and it can be a great place to ease in. Do you think this is something you could try? I suggest this because it s...
by Amanda B
Sun Jul 16, 2023 12:58 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Depo provera effectiveness
Replies: 38
Views: 16544

Re: Depo provera effectiveness

Hi 55,

I'll echo Sam's point from earlier in the thread that deliberate, intense pressure massage soon after the injection is what they advise against. A brush against a towel 5-6 days after the shot should not disrupt its effectiveness.
by Amanda B
Sun Jul 16, 2023 12:49 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: feeling sexually frustrated on my period [vent][tmi]
Replies: 11
Views: 142336

Re: feeling sexually frustrated on my period [vent][tmi]

Hi arilune, Thank you for providing more information about your experience of orgasm, as well as some potential influence from family around sexuality messaging. Since you mentioned not experiencing pleasure when you orgasm, can you tell me a little more about other types of pleasure or motivations ...
by Amanda B
Sun Jul 16, 2023 12:33 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I kinda need help with everything
Replies: 24
Views: 102825

Re: I kinda need help with everything

Hi ellie_, I hope it's okay I'm stepping in here. I'm sorry to hear it sounds like your relationship with your mom surrounding your sexuality has been complicated, and I'm glad to hear you do have some support from your dad and friends. I see you've discussed feeling isolated for liking girls, while...
by Amanda B
Sun Jun 25, 2023 1:35 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: About breaking your virginity
Replies: 4
Views: 6127

Re: About breaking your virginity

P.S. we disapproved the other thread you had posted as it had the same content as this question.
by Amanda B
Sun Jun 25, 2023 1:33 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: What is something you like about yourself?
Replies: 6
Views: 9046

Re: What is something you like about yourself?

Hey everyone, What a joyful post! Practicing gratitude, especially towards myself, has certainly not been the easiest thing in the past. When I am able to do it, it's so warming and affirming. Something I like about myself is how I can get creative with food in my kitchen. While I love practicing ne...
by Amanda B
Sun Jun 25, 2023 1:31 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: About breaking your virginity
Replies: 4
Views: 6127

Re: About breaking your virginity

Hi Tinaaaaa, The first thing I'd like to know is where this three-finger measurement is coming from. Is this something you've measured yourself, during the "other stuff" you mentioned? Or has he just told you he is "3 fingers thick"? It's pretty common for people to overestimate ...
by Amanda B
Tue Jun 20, 2023 5:47 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: beauty
Replies: 1
Views: 3377

Re: beauty

Hi there catcatcat, I'm sorry to hear it sounds like you're having a hard time with self-esteem. You're right, people out there do think you're exceptionally beautiful! But the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself. I've definitely also experienced walking past a mirror and n...
by Amanda B
Tue Jun 20, 2023 5:28 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Another question
Replies: 6
Views: 21290

Re: Another question

Hey CatMatRat99, It sounds like your porn consumption may be bordering on compulsion rather than consuming for desire or curiosity. If this sounds right, it may be helpful to take a break. As Sam said, you can restrict the places where you watch it on your device or browser. This would be a good pla...
by Amanda B
Tue Jun 20, 2023 5:18 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Confusion about PIV...
Replies: 29
Views: 24492

Re: Confusion about PIV...

Hey there MistahCFS, It sounds like you had quite an enlightening wet dream. You're absolutely right that the clitoris plays a major role in pleasure for people who have them. It's also true that many people with vaginas don't get a whole lot out of, as you said, PIV, or penetrative sex, without som...
by Amanda B
Tue Jun 20, 2023 5:01 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Should I look for a sex worker to lose my virginity?
Replies: 16
Views: 13603

Re: Should I look for a sex worker to lose my virginity?

Hi Felipe, I hope it's okay I'm joining in here. I'm so sorry to hear you're experiencing isolation and struggling with self-esteem. If it makes you feel any better, many of us experience these same things at some point in life. I'm also sorry to hear people seem to be avoiding you due to, as you pu...
by Amanda B
Mon Jun 12, 2023 5:40 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: How to regain pleasure after CSA
Replies: 24
Views: 60802

Re: How to regain pleasure after CSA

Hi suomi, I'd first like to say how sorry I am that this happened to you. It sounds like you've been able to experience sexual desire since, but recently the desire has declined. I think it's important to first acknowledge that you have been able to experience desire and pleasure, which means it wil...
by Amanda B
Sun Jun 11, 2023 2:27 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How do I make new friends on campus
Replies: 17
Views: 12926

Re: How do I make new friends on campus

Hi Jay27, It's definitely frustrating when we're not completely comfortable in relationships we care so much about. As for your girlfriend, I'd take a moment to embrace this anxiety and uncertainty. Yes, it can be very uncomfortable. But it sounds like you're also enjoying the excitement of learning...
by Amanda B
Sun Jun 11, 2023 2:12 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Pregnancy Scare Anxiety?
Replies: 1
Views: 6930

Re: Pregnancy Scare Anxiety?

Hey raily_, If it's helpful, a deep breath at the moment you're reading this may provide some relief. Anxiety is some tricky business. Ultimately, its purpose is to protect us. But sometimes it can do its job too well, and send us into a panic when we're actually completely safe. So, I'd start by ac...
by Amanda B
Sun Jun 11, 2023 12:48 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: boyfriend lacks initiative
Replies: 8
Views: 3337

Re: boyfriend lacks initiative

Hi naurmi008, It sounds like Sam and Nicole provided some great resources for working through these communication challenges in your relationship. I'd like to point you in the direction of some additional resources on the site, including this quote from our article, Hello, Sailor! How to Build, Boar...
by Amanda B
Sun Jun 11, 2023 12:33 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Do I need lubricant?
Replies: 1
Views: 1716

Re: Do I need lubricant?

Hi Oliviasparkles, It looks like you've started two threads on a similar topic, so feel free to respond on whichever post you'd like so we can continue the conversation. To answer this question, even if you are naturally lubricated, additional lube can always help make things safer and more comforta...
by Amanda B
Sun Jun 11, 2023 12:29 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I masturbated without washing my hands first
Replies: 1
Views: 25924

Re: I masturbated without washing my hands first

Hi Oliviasparkles, While it's advisable to wash one's hands before masturbating, it's realistic that people will fail to do so every so often. We're human after all! There are many reasons to be sore after masturbation. The genital tissue can be quite delicate, so frequent masturbation, roughness, o...
by Amanda B
Sat Jun 10, 2023 7:18 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Condom confusion
Replies: 3
Views: 7339

Re: Condom confusion

Hi Niki1130, I'd recommend checking out our article, Can pre-ejaculate cause pregnancy? Bleeding and cramping can have many different causes, so it's hard to say for sure why your girlfriend experienced cramping before and bleeding after sex. I'd also recommend checking out The Pregnancy Panic Compa...
by Amanda B
Sat Jun 10, 2023 6:48 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How do I make new friends on campus
Replies: 17
Views: 12926

Re: How do I make new friends on campus

Hi Jay27, It can definitely be frustrating when our communication needs don't align with the people we care about. It sounds like you've brought this up before with her, but progress has not been made. I think it's worth continuing the conversation, especially since you'll be apart when she goes abr...
by Amanda B
Wed Jun 07, 2023 4:51 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I feel selfish for being a sub/bottom
Replies: 5
Views: 142944

Re: I feel selfish for being a sub/bottom

Hey dependantdragon, Sorry to hear you're having sleep issues! I hope it gets sorted soon. While I understand the desire for a community of people who have similar preferences as you, I think it's important to focus less on external perception, and more on you. You're right that the perception of wh...
by Amanda B
Wed Jun 07, 2023 4:33 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: My boyfriend cannot touch me / I cannot feel pleasure
Replies: 16
Views: 36100

Re: My boyfriend cannot touch me / I cannot feel pleasure

Hi prunelle, I hope it's okay I'm joining in here. It sounds like you and Sam have had a productive conversation getting to the root of your ability to experience pleasure with your boyfriend. I'm glad you've been able to take a look at some of our articles too. In pursuit of understanding your rela...
by Amanda B
Wed Jun 07, 2023 3:31 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Hard to talk to my boyfriend about boundaries bc he'll take it as his fault
Replies: 1
Views: 9647

Re: Hard to talk to my boyfriend about boundaries bc he'll take it as his fault

Hi dependantdragon, I’ll first say it’s great to hear how intentional you’re being about your relationship. It sounds like you and your boyfriend have an immense amount of respect for one another. I’ll try my best to answer your questions here in the order you presented them. First, everyone has dif...
by Amanda B
Thu Jun 01, 2023 3:07 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Questioning myself :(
Replies: 2
Views: 40609

Re: Questioning myself :(

Hi there Epiphanyxx! What I'm hearing is that you're taking some time to think deeply about your desires and identity, which is a great thing. The relationship we have with ourselves is one of the most important to nurture, and it sounds like you're giving yourself space to really get to know yourse...
by Amanda B
Sat May 20, 2023 8:07 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I don’t experience any sexual pleasure while masturbating as a trans guy
Replies: 2
Views: 9377

Re: I don’t experience any sexual pleasure while masturbating as a trans guy

Hi V, It sounds like you're taking the time to explore your body and understand what you enjoy, which is great. Understanding one's sexuality is a lifelong journey, and the sexual relationship you have with yourself is one of the most important ones to nurture. That said, it can be super frustrating...