Hi abii, Can you let me know what barriers you are facing when it comes to buying the pregnancy test? If you are unable to afford the test, I'll reiterate my colleague's suggestion to ask the person you had sex with for assistance if this feels safe. You may also ask friends or family members for he...

Hi Buckey17, I'd like to reiterate what my colleague suggested earlier in this thread about finding community online. It sounds like online groups may have some similar interests as you, and it can be a great place to ease in. Do you think this is something you could try? I suggest this because it s...

Hi 55,

I'll echo Sam's point from earlier in the thread that deliberate, intense pressure massage soon after the injection is what they advise against. A brush against a towel 5-6 days after the shot should not disrupt its effectiveness.

Hi arilune, Thank you for providing more information about your experience of orgasm, as well as some potential influence from family around sexuality messaging. Since you mentioned not experiencing pleasure when you orgasm, can you tell me a little more about other types of pleasure or motivations ...

Hi ellie_, I hope it's okay I'm stepping in here. I'm sorry to hear it sounds like your relationship with your mom surrounding your sexuality has been complicated, and I'm glad to hear you do have some support from your dad and friends. I see you've discussed feeling isolated for liking girls, while...

P.S. we disapproved the other thread you had posted as it had the same content as this question.

Hey everyone, What a joyful post! Practicing gratitude, especially towards myself, has certainly not been the easiest thing in the past. When I am able to do it, it's so warming and affirming. Something I like about myself is how I can get creative with food in my kitchen. While I love practicing ne...

Hi Tinaaaaa, The first thing I'd like to know is where this three-finger measurement is coming from. Is this something you've measured yourself, during the "other stuff" you mentioned? Or has he just told you he is "3 fingers thick"? It's pretty common for people to overestimate ...

Hi there catcatcat, I'm sorry to hear it sounds like you're having a hard time with self-esteem. You're right, people out there do think you're exceptionally beautiful! But the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself. I've definitely also experienced walking past a mirror and n...

Hey CatMatRat99, It sounds like your porn consumption may be bordering on compulsion rather than consuming for desire or curiosity. If this sounds right, it may be helpful to take a break. As Sam said, you can restrict the places where you watch it on your device or browser. This would be a good pla...

Hey there MistahCFS, It sounds like you had quite an enlightening wet dream. You're absolutely right that the clitoris plays a major role in pleasure for people who have them. It's also true that many people with vaginas don't get a whole lot out of, as you said, PIV, or penetrative sex, without som...

Hi Felipe, I hope it's okay I'm joining in here. I'm so sorry to hear you're experiencing isolation and struggling with self-esteem. If it makes you feel any better, many of us experience these same things at some point in life. I'm also sorry to hear people seem to be avoiding you due to, as you pu...

Hi suomi, I'd first like to say how sorry I am that this happened to you. It sounds like you've been able to experience sexual desire since, but recently the desire has declined. I think it's important to first acknowledge that you have been able to experience desire and pleasure, which means it wil...

Hi Jay27, It's definitely frustrating when we're not completely comfortable in relationships we care so much about. As for your girlfriend, I'd take a moment to embrace this anxiety and uncertainty. Yes, it can be very uncomfortable. But it sounds like you're also enjoying the excitement of learning...

Hey raily_, If it's helpful, a deep breath at the moment you're reading this may provide some relief. Anxiety is some tricky business. Ultimately, its purpose is to protect us. But sometimes it can do its job too well, and send us into a panic when we're actually completely safe. So, I'd start by ac...

Hi naurmi008, It sounds like Sam and Nicole provided some great resources for working through these communication challenges in your relationship. I'd like to point you in the direction of some additional resources on the site, including this quote from our article, Hello, Sailor! How to Build, Boar...

Hi Oliviasparkles, It looks like you've started two threads on a similar topic, so feel free to respond on whichever post you'd like so we can continue the conversation. To answer this question, even if you are naturally lubricated, additional lube can always help make things safer and more comforta...

Hi Oliviasparkles, While it's advisable to wash one's hands before masturbating, it's realistic that people will fail to do so every so often. We're human after all! There are many reasons to be sore after masturbation. The genital tissue can be quite delicate, so frequent masturbation, roughness, o...

Hi Niki1130, I'd recommend checking out our article, Can pre-ejaculate cause pregnancy? Bleeding and cramping can have many different causes, so it's hard to say for sure why your girlfriend experienced cramping before and bleeding after sex. I'd also recommend checking out The Pregnancy Panic Compa...

Hi Jay27, It can definitely be frustrating when our communication needs don't align with the people we care about. It sounds like you've brought this up before with her, but progress has not been made. I think it's worth continuing the conversation, especially since you'll be apart when she goes abr...

Hey dependantdragon, Sorry to hear you're having sleep issues! I hope it gets sorted soon. While I understand the desire for a community of people who have similar preferences as you, I think it's important to focus less on external perception, and more on you. You're right that the perception of wh...

Hi prunelle, I hope it's okay I'm joining in here. It sounds like you and Sam have had a productive conversation getting to the root of your ability to experience pleasure with your boyfriend. I'm glad you've been able to take a look at some of our articles too. In pursuit of understanding your rela...

Hi dependantdragon, I’ll first say it’s great to hear how intentional you’re being about your relationship. It sounds like you and your boyfriend have an immense amount of respect for one another. I’ll try my best to answer your questions here in the order you presented them. First, everyone has dif...

Hi there Epiphanyxx! What I'm hearing is that you're taking some time to think deeply about your desires and identity, which is a great thing. The relationship we have with ourselves is one of the most important to nurture, and it sounds like you're giving yourself space to really get to know yourse...

Hi V, It sounds like you're taking the time to explore your body and understand what you enjoy, which is great. Understanding one's sexuality is a lifelong journey, and the sexual relationship you have with yourself is one of the most important ones to nurture. That said, it can be super frustrating...