I don't count my first time when I was 13 because it wasn't my idea. My first time was when I was 15, and it was a girlfriend of mine who convinced me to be comfortable with my own body and enjoy life. The first boy that I was with was her boyfriend, she had no problem sharing him, it was her way of...

Thanks for all of that🥰🥰🥰 I'm going to go with that "does it feel right" approach from now and quit looking at the number. I love how you explained all that in detail, that makes life for me a lot easier. There is a guy at the gym that I really would love to be with, it's the number thing ...

There was trauma. I don't think I was mentally put back together until the spring of 2016, that's only because my mom put me on the swim team and got me thinking of other things. Physically I wasn't put back together for two years, and that was because I had the courage on having sex and getting my ...

Hey, Heather. I would love to hear your take on the opposite angle. What is it that you enjoy about so many partners? How do you pick your partners? Do you go for the one night stands or the relationships? And if you don't want to answer any of that then I understand. I've had my share of partners, ...

I'm not sure why I even created this post. It's something I don't like thinking about. It changed a lot about me, some good some bad. My relationship with my mom prior to what happened that night wasn't all that bad, but I put a lot of blame on her after that night because she wasn't there for me. H...

I did look at the inventory checklist a day prior to my last sexual encounter. The checklist gave me some good thoughts about what I thought I would like to try, and it worked.

It was a positive experience. I wasn't looking for it, it just happened. He was happy and I was happy. We were done and he went back to his hotel room and I went back to the party. I never did something like that, finding some guy and having sex with him. Another learning experience, but this one wa...

I had my first casual sex experience like 30 minutes after midnight on new years, met him at a new year's eve party. It's something I needed for me, and it felt good doing it. I don't know who he was and I have no way of ever contacting him again either. Maybe the best sex i ever had? What does a gu...

To the staff, you can delete this if you think this is going to cause more problems for others. I was sexually assaulted when I was 13. I was raped, but nowhere close to the extreme that you might see in hollywood movies. I knew who the guy was, my parents and my extended family knew who the guy was...

My brain was on overload with him, a million things at once and trying to step back a thousand times to try to figure out what I was thinking about a moment ago. It is a learning experience. No physical harm was done to me, but mentally I've learned that communication needs to be wide open when it c...

This guy was into BDSM and fantasy. He compared me to others, and sometimes he said that others did it and I should too, it was neverending with him. Consent for him was when I was feeling pleasure, and that might be an "old school" method as well. Not a pleasant experience, I'm not going ...

Nicole, how did you deal with the other partners who had more experience than you? Were you comfortable with them? Did you want to stay or did you want to go? How old were they ? Any regrets when it was done? Did you go back? On my other post I do mention that I'm not going to see him anymore. I'm o...

Carly, in a way what you say is correct. Having him as my real only friend out here and having feelings for him kind of pushed me a tad. Maybe not wanting to lose a friendship over saying no? I've had a few days to think about it, I should have slowed everything down from the beginning. I did talk w...

Hi Nicole, I jumped into this thing with him because I knew he had more sexual experience, I also knew he was more mature. I felt like bumping up a level, wanting to prove to myself that my last relationship wasn't going to knock me down. I'm sure he was aiming for what was going to happen, but I ca...

Heather, I don't feel as crappy now that I read all that you said. Learning by doing, and we can't know things until we know them. That was me in a nutshell. Sam, you are correct on everything that you said about the red flag. This guy had control and he had experience, and I'm guessing he has done ...

The red flag was during sex. He knows more about sex than me, he also had more control than other guys I've been with. He has tons of experience, and I guess it caught me off guard a bit. Sex was okay, but it wasn't what I was expecting. We did talk about it. He was surprised I wanted to do it. I wa...

I had sex with him last night. It was okay, it was fine for both of us. He wants to keep the relationship between us. I feel like that's a bit of a red flag but I can also understand it. He was busy all day today. Never heard from him at all. I'll see him at work at 7 am tomorrow. I feel a little hu...

We just now made plans on meeting up for dinner tonight. Maybe I'm not reading him wrong? It's with two other co-workers, t's not a date. But he did invite me. I guess it's safe to say that I work at a store with 400 employees. Im sure I could always transfer to a different part of the store, just a...

He is my team leader, he watches over me and like 10 other employees. A relationship is okay but one of us would have to work in a separate department because he is at a position of authority. I don't think he sees me as a friend. I really do think he's trying to get the guts to move beyond friendsh...

That was a fast reply. Thank you. He graduated in 2010, he is either 29 or 30. I work primarily with him. A big part of orientation was sexual harassment, I think he is too afraid of making a move because maybe he thinks I'm going to say something about him. He invited me to coffee last week, we met...

New here. 19 years old, but it looks like I'm still okay to be here. I have had this new job for 5 weeks now, working with a guy who is older than me. He is very nice and respectful, he doesn't treat me like a kid. We have had coffee together several times now and had lunch together a few times. I'm...